r/InsaneParents - "Cure your Gayness"

My kid came out as non-binary last week - as they were nervously trying to explain their situation, all I could think of were these Insane Parents and I realized that I had one chance to respond the right way the first time. I thanked them for telling me and said I had their back, no matter what. My poor kid had been worried sick that I would freak out and instead, they got a boring Hallmark moment.

When ever I hear a parent say they were ‘suddenly’ lgbtq+ I’m reminded of asking my mom if there were any signs I might be gender non conforming as a child and she replied ‘no’ then I went to my bookshelf of childhood favorites and 80% of them involved crossdressing.

My existence as an intersex person makes those uber-Christian, "only two genders made by God," people either shut down or absolutely go rabid. I think it's hilarious. Religiously abusive parents especially make my blood boil.

13:00 My mom taught me, that if I ever write or talk with someone on the phone who threatens to unalive themselves I should just ask where they are and pretend like I'm coming to them but instead call the police and send them to the given location. If the person actually meant it, the police can be there way faster than I ever could and help them. If it was just to manipulate me, they learn that I don't take their shit.

I have a cousin that told me that one of their lesbian friends was sent to therapy to "be straight"... And the person she was sent to was pansexual. mission failed successfully.

I just started laughing at the "it's ok to mutilate your kid if you call the kid trans first". Does that mean every circumsised baby is trans?

Actually, I find calling someone an unstable birch - literally, not as a euphemism - a ver good insult. It's a very pretty and useful tree, but when it falls, it often breaks into quite a few fragments. So an unstable birch is a person on the edge of disaster that will end very badly for them.

Some people thing respect means, treating someone like a person, some people think respect means, treating someone like an authority figure. Those parents say "If you don't respect me I will not respect you" and mean "If you don't treat me like an authority I will not treat you as a person".

As a Christian I've never understood homo- or transphobia at all. The most important message of the Bible is literally love the ones around you

Advice: If you don't know how your family will react to you coming out, don't tell them until 1; you're financially stable, and 2; not living in their home. I've been incredibly blessed by supportive and accepting family. No one needed any convincing or time to "adjust", and the only homophobic auntie got basically disowned from the entire family. It breaks my heart seeing my fellow queers and trans friends getting kicked out of their homes because their parents just don't accept them.

the mom who responded to them being bi was clearly having a stroke because there's no way a mind could create a madness of salad there.

Dear god, the religious parents make me roll my eyes. It’s literally them over compensating for doing shit they regretted when they were young. Acting like an ass isn’t going to make your child to go to church and “repent” it does the opposite effect.

I know he's Swedish but... "e-boop-pro-fiend" is a wonderful way to say ibuprofen

Who kicks a 14 y/o out? Considering how "safe" the outside world is nowadays, what lesson was the mother planning to teach her daughter??

36:00 Come to think of it, hamsters are a great example. Motherly instinct for a hamster is "oh god, this giant predator that plays with me and feeds me is scary, I will eat all the babies BECAUSE I CAN MAKE MORE IF I SURVIVE!!!"

Some think respect means "treat like a human being" and some think respect means "treat like an authority". The problem comes from someone feeling they're not being respected as an authority so they refuse to respect the other as a human being.

My mom always threatened to send me to live with my dad as a ‘punishment’ when I did back things. She spent my entire life from age 5 trying to make us terrified of him, so she thought it was a threat. Granted I always hoped she would. When I was a teenager and said I wanted to go live with him, she said “absolutely not. He doesn’t want you and you’re not allowed to make that decision.” Had I know that I legally COULD in fact make that decision, I would have gone with it. It wasn’t until I was an adult that I started talking with my dad more. Turns out that he was constantly trying to fight with my mom to get visitation of us and even trying to get custody several times. But she refused to give in cause she just wanted child support (her alcohol money) and to spite him. My dad would have absolutely taken me in had I been able to reach out to him and talk to him. The man she told me and my sister would kidnap us and hurt us and didn’t actually want us… he was behind the scenes the entire time trying to get help for us. But CPS and the court system refused to listen and she refused to budge.

Ah, some (un)wholesome time with Click to distract me from my country's parliament failing to legalize gay marriage.

The guy in the military whose mother had drained his bank accounts - this happened to my father. When he was in the Army, he would send all his pay home in US Bonds. He figured when he got out, he'd have a nice nest egg to start his life. He got home after his hitch and found his father had cashed in all the bonds and spent the money. This was way back during the Korean War. My grandfather was not a nice person.

The kid with the insanely religious mom should just get her a copy of Dante's Inferno, give it to her, and silently walk off. Also, the run on sentences are ridiculous. Are we sure she isn't possessed?