Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissism - with Dr. Frank Yeomans

While I very much enjoy meme and cat videos, content such as this is the true treasure of YouTube. Knowledge is power, power to (hopefully) make this world better.

I’ve been diagnosed BPD and all around cluster B. Tears came to my eyes just listening to your tearful experience. Only because it was in a general way. I’ve no empathy when faces with specific face to face interaction.

What an incredible person! Patients with these conditions can be so challenging to deal with and yet he has so much emotional intelligence, patience, insight and empathy and explains things so well. Amazing video for healthcare professionals :)

Such a kind and nice doctor❤, truly compassionate and opening his knowledge and heart❤

If I could give myself a precious gift, it would be a session with Dr. Frank yeomans ❤

the most enjoyable thing about Yeomans is his very obvious humility. That screams volumes about him. Lovely, lovely.. Thankyou for posting.

I've tried many types of therapy over 40 years and no one ever shared with me what diagnosis they assigned. I'm working with an EMDR, gestalist currently. I know I have early trauma. But not even that has been verbalized. All the therapist has said is i do not find mental illness in you, just alot of confusion. I keep trusting the process at any rate.

I really wish this therapy works! It sounds so hopeful. I just fear, that as a therapist you almost all the time are NOT dealing with the patients themselves, but with the false self, the protector.  This protector would never let you get through to the fractured self, for it would not only mean that what's left of the self would re-experience memories of unbearable pain and shame, but it would also mean death to the protector entity. I assume that the one who spoke to you from the mouth of your first patient ("you are mocking me"), wasn't your patient himself, it was his protector entity. It stands there - and remains standing there - between a fractured potential-of-a-self, and a world that is unbearable, unaccepting and unacceptable. I wish I was wrong.

14:35 boom! That’s why I feel once I make peaces with my own aggression I’ll be better at dealing with conflict

I would like to see interviews of patients for whom transferance Forcused Therapy helped.

Thank you - I just love growing new neural pathways.

As a layman, and as a member from a dysfunctional family, I have always been intrigued by the contradictory behavior from people that suffer from NPD.  What is the behavior I have seen?  Most of the time it all takes place at parties or other social events that naturally makes people more relaxed and focused on leisure. The person with NPD is the odd person at the event because in some way the party is not about them or do not accommodate them according to some arbitrary norm that is not stated by the suffering person but should be known by everybody present. The person suffering from NPD is haughty, overbearing, stiff and putting wet blankets over everything and everyones experience. The person suffering from NPD both berates and humiliates other guests that naturally have their guard down until he or she reaches the guest that finally says no and instantly a scene breaks out. The rule is that the person that suffers from NPD denies it all and without any shame expects an apology from the person that protested. The person with NPD felt attacked and there were no awareness of the own behavior until he or she found the guest that said stop. It is like the position stated in the video, everything aggressive comes from the outside and inside there is no aggression to be identified.

“Neutral” is what my personality disorder clients describe me as and tell me it’s helpful.

As i listened to this very helpful talk, i saw connections between this model and IFS. Its just amazing how we manage to survive in rhevworld following traumatic experiences.

What a smart intelligent man ❤🎉

Thanks for putting this out there! Liking, sharing, commenting, subscribing, all that stuff, this needs a signal boost. :D

More from Frank Yeomans please !

Thank you Psyflix for posting this lecture by Dr. Frank Yeomans.

The fact that he had a narcissist patient that described a traumatic experience to him, and he cried due to having an empathetic response toward the patient and the patient thought "You're mocking me". WOW. That is astounding. I feel so bad for Dr. Yeomans! I don't know about anyone else, but it feels bad when you have deep empathy for someone, and they reject it let alone tell you that your motives are not to be empathetic and you're doing something sinister. That is next level bizarre. They are so delusional. My father is like this, and it is maddening. It is like everything is precisely backwards of actual reality to them.

15:12 the tv incident - as a possible candidate to a bpd diagnosis I can say that this generated me a mix of shameful and funny feels. Made me reflect on how primitive and childish some of my reactions have been throughout the years 😅