How to Help Those We Love

The School of Life is the emotional education platform I never had but needed the most as a younger growing person.

I think most people can agree, the worst way to try and make someone feel better is to tell them that other people have it worse and that they should count their blessings.

"The clearest clue of the kind of help our partner wants is the help they offer us" claps well said

Optimism and cuddles. That's what I love when I'm low.

1:40 Listening 3:29 Solutions 4:48 Optimism 5:05 Pessimism 5:44 Cuddles

"Nothing soothes pain like human touch.” - Last words of Bobby Fischer, Chess Grandmaster (d. 2008)

"It seems love can't remain at the level of intentions alone. It must involve constant strenuous efforts to translate our wishes into interventions truly aligned with the psychology and history of another human being." Period sis.

Yep, I'm very much a 'solutions' kind of guy. When someone brings me a problem I immediately go about trying to fix it. Can barely help myself. And far too often it's not what the person needs. I've really only just become aware of the problem and a couple of other ways of dealing with it. This video has pointed out a bunch of others that I'll have to experiment with. Thanks!

The polar bear was so cute!

I need all of them simultaneously I'm a mess

I'm a listening and cuddles kind of guy.

WHY ARE ALL YOUR VIDEOS SO PERFECT YOU"VE HELPED ME SO MUCH IN ALMOST ALL YOUR VIDEOS THANK YOU

It is difficult to love those who don't want OUR love. It is especially distressing when we want to help the one we love, but they don't want OUR help, but the help of someone else, someone who they love, and want to share their problems with. One thing I also realized that when I started taking mature actions towards others with the help of your videos, I realized that people around me didn't respond well to it, especially because they didn't know that what I was now doing, was something that would benefit them in the long run.

This video just clarified the fact that I could have handled my last relationship a hell of a lot better than I thought I did. This kills me, haha...aww man, Alexis, I wish I could've gotten to you somehow without my ego getting in the way.

I know I don't always say nice things and I do nitpick on random people and channels. I'll be serious here. This video hit home in the way an arrow hits a target in a dark room with airplane jets spinning. I can watch this. I feel moved by this. I know this is a valuable lesson and yet, I feel like I can not implement this in a healthy way. That fills me with despair. Maybe one day the lesson of this video will sink in.

they match up well to the 5 love languages: listening - quality time solutions - gift giving optimism - words of affirmation pessimism - can’t remember this one lol cuddles - physical touch

“Love can’t remain at the level of intentions alone. It must involve constant efforts to translate our wishes into interventions aligned with the psychology and history of another human being.”

my heart acheas everytime I watch your videos because I realize how much childhood affected the person i am now

School of Life, you never fail to impress. I have often found myself annoyed by people's false optimism over different issues, and in times of need I long for someone who is frank, and has a realistic interpretation of what's really going on. I also can't stand when people claim to understand how you feel when it is clear that they don't. Sometimes it's just nice to know that someone is listening and that they care.

Oh School of Life! We forgot your birthday! How ungrateful... It was on the 9th of September, wasn't it?? I will definitely eat a cake for you today:-) Thank you so much for all your efforts and sacrifices and for improving our lives immensely! I hope you all live at least a hundred years! ( I mean in case you want to. ) Thank you for this wonderful lesson too! May be I would add just one little thing. And I guess most introverted friends like myself would agree with this one: What some people need the most when they are suffering is just silence and solitude. Not because they don't love you or trust you enough, but because they just want to sit down and think properly about what it is happening. In that case the greatest help you can offer them is " NOT to take this personally" . Because if you do so, it will create another huge emotional pressure. Just trust in their capacity to heal themselves and let them be alone for as long as they need. They will be back.