Autism: 3 Easy Tips YOU NEED To Make Friends (FAST)

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Making friends isn’t that hard for me. Keeping friends is hard. I meet people all the time and become friends, but once I am not seeing them all the time I lose touch.

Personally, my difficulty with establishing friendships does not revolve around an inability or otherwise limited ability to read others, or to understand what's deemed appropriate or inappropriate. My problem is that I am not a very talkative person, and am somehow submerged into my own world so to speak. Even if I do want to strike up a conversation, the hyperfocus on all the possible ways it could end awkwardly just filters all the things I could potentially talk about out of my mind, and deters me from making an effort. It's getti

Some tips for friendship in general: -Friendships have to build up slowly, you have to create a lot of good memories with someone and create a deeper connection with someone in order to become best friends for example. -You need multiple friends, not just one best friend. People can get really annoyed if you claim them, so don't do that. Show them you want to be friends, but let them be free to do other things as well (this was a really big problem for me when I was younger). -Be aware that there are people who can take advantage of you. Don't let them do that, because those people are not real friends. For people with autism it can be difficult to seperate friends and enemies. For example: if someone only wants to meet with you when he has no other option, that person is not a real friend. If someone only wants to spend time with you because you have something they like such as video games or money, that person is not a good friend. -If you have a friend that likes you and your weirdness and does not make fun of you, you have found a real good friend. Now some tips for making new friends: -If you already have a friend, you can use them to meet new people! If you are good friends, you probably will like their friends as well because they will have similar interests. -If you are afraid of talking to people on your own, go to a social place with someone that is good at social things. Look at how they do it and cling on to the conversations that the person you're with is having with others. This really helped me getting more friends! -Do not just talk all the time, and not just about your own interests. Listen to what someone is telling you, and then ask them a question related to that topic. People don't like it when you don't say anything at all, but they also don't like it when you are speaking all the time. Learn to find that balance. -Show them good body language. Make eyecontact regulary (I know this is difficult, but you can find a balance with this. For example: I make eyecontact when I want to show someone that I am listening to what they are saying, but when I answer I look away because then I can think better) and stand "open" to someone. Use your hands when you talk, all those kinds of things. -Remember the things that someone tells you and sometimes bring them up again the next time you see that person. This helped me getting tons of friends! For example: When you talk to someone at school and that person tells you that he/she is going to an amusement park that weekend and after the weekend you see him/her again, ask him/her of he/she had a good time at the amusement park and have a conversation about it. People really appreciate it if you remember those type of things and they really like it when people are interested in them. And it's also great because you will have something to talk about! I hope this helps someone, it helped me for sure. These are things I used to struggle with, but found out through trial and error. Don't be afraid to fail, there are tons of people in the world. If someone doesn't like you, that's fine. You can actually learn social skills by observing others and trying it yourself. Just make sure you don't play someone else. People will like you for who you are, they just need a little bit of guidance when it comes to becoming friends. <3

although I find conversation awkward..(the transitions involved)..I tend to talk and talk and talk

I prefer texting over real life communication. They can take their time reading what I said, and there is no "interrupting". I can re-read what they said in Text, unlike real life where I have to deeply concentrate for every instant second they say something, and I cant hear it again because most people hate repeating. I have a hard time remembering spoken word! Text communication is better for me because there is no eye contact, no tones, no body language, I can re-read, look over my own words before I send it, and it lets me leave at any time I feel agitated for any reason.

My nephew has been diagnosed with aspergers ... but unfortunately as an adult I can't seem to get a diagnosis there doesn't seem to be the money for assessments .I find your videos really helpful and it's so good to feel like someone understands .keep up the good work and thank you

This is my hardest challenge. Not only making friends but maintaining relationship is so overwhelming. I have embraced having no friends but sure would be nice finding the like minded. 😁 I am in Oregon, USA btw.

I don't have the problem of talking too much, I have the problem of not talking enough 😂😂 But talking through text/online is still helpful for the time pause. It gives me time to actually get my thoughts in order and have the words I need

I can't stop looking at the naked guy on the shelf with the banana near him. Sorry it sounds weird.

I took my aspie grandson to a game store. Wow. It was like a family reunion. Talk about birds of a feather! It was amazing and made me so happy that he found his people.

Thank you for the video The Aspie World. I am a 15 yr old girl from Hampshire, England with Aspergers and my best/only friend I made semi-independently is a 4 year old I have to babysit who is my mums friends daughter

Anyone who cant handle walls of text is usually someone whom I wont get along with. Gimme long walls of text! I find them fascinating, and I naturally type them myself!

Hello Dan I suffer from schizophrenia and Aspergers, I am medicated through the schizophrenia and suffer a real bad times of paranoia and fear through watching your videos they have given me great insight into how my Asperger’s affects me as for two years I was unsure how it affected me I was diagnosed with Aspergers at the age Of 45 I am now 47 so for two years I was wondering about in the dark not knowing clearly what the definition of autism was although they did explain it to me but couldn’t to have all the information I have a four and half hour Assessment and then a follow-up assessment for another hour or so to explain the diagnosis of Aspergers find the end of all that I was very unsure how it related to me and how I fit in with Aspergers Like I said through watching your videos it has helped me out great deal I can see how it affects you therefore how it affects me I’ve watched other videos around autism late diagnosis in adults I have subscribed to your channel and look forward to more content you put out there I have my own channel around schizophrenia medication addiction I’m am recovering addict And I can identify with how your Aspergers Relates to me so thank you

I've always been able to make friends but my problem is keeping them

Im so glad I came across your channel. My 12 old son has Aspergers and school is a struggle due to his social struggles with other kids. He gets picked on and called a nerd and weird. Your videos are very helpful and I think will be beneficial for him. Thank you for sharing!

Hi Dan, love your videos! Every chance I get, I watch. You're an inspiration for my granddaughter! I'm watching from Quebec, Canada. She has trouble making friends so this video surely will help! Thanks for sharing your life, opinions, and recommendations!

Thanks for this Dan, this is something I really struggle with so hopefully these tips will help! Would you ever do a video on how the school system treated you as someone who was different, and how you coped?

Therapy is amazing thanks so much dan

Thx. Need this. Good job! Best!