Hairdresser reacts to extreme DIY relaxer fails!

Hey its me the first girl! I was natural 10 plus years..loved it..my youtube was actually a hair channel! I also did natural hair for a living...I only decided to relax my hair because since having my son I have no time to do my hair..literally not a moment to myself. I walked around with matted hair a year while suffering from post partum depression and I just wanted to relax my hair so it would be easier to manage and I could stop looking a mess..I have older girls, and I didn't want them to start to think it's ok to not take care of yourself. So this was my failed attempt at taking care of myself 😔 ..currently still wearing a scarf because I have no sitter while I go to a salon, hence the reason I attempted the relaxer myself..but thank you everyone for your kind words and thank you Brad..next step is chopping it all off like u guys recommended .❤❤

When she said “I just want to feel my best self” my heart actually broke. She’s so beautiful she could definitely rock a pixie cut

I felt the first girl so much when she said she just wanted to have her hair "done" and just wanted to feel her best self. Often as black women, we attach so much of our value to the way our hair looks. If we dont have loose curls or inches of hair that falls down our back or if our hair isnt styled and tucked in neatly, sometimes it makes you feel...less beautiful. It took me so long to love the way my hair looks and I know so many others who have felt the same way. It's a hard feeling to combat and I still fight with it everyday. But no matter what you're beautiful. Your hair does not define you, both girls were beautiful before and after ❤️

I’m envious of how good she looks bald 😭 the amount of times I’ve been like ‘should I just shave my head’ but knowing I’d look AWFUL. She looks incredible!

When the first girl said "I just wanted to feel my best self . . . I want to feel better. I miss the confidence I had." -- Oh my goodness, it tugged at my heart. She was strong enough to speak what so many people feel. ❤

This guy makes me wanna actually read instructions

Can I please give that first girl a hug!?! The poor thing! My heart just broke for her! She is stunning! I agree, shaved with color!

the STRENGTH to look at what just happened and say "welp, this is what it is. i'll do better next time" is awesome. both of these beautiful ladies went through every stage of grief with their hair and came out stronger. hair is such an important part of a lot of people's identity and security, but it's also good to realize that it's just hair. you are still you and you are still beautiful no matter what your hair looks like 💛

I know she’s upset that she ruined her hair but at least she has the head and face shape to pull off a bald hairstyle. Not everyone can do that.

Sidenote: even the pros used to tell us kids to wait for the relaxer to burn a bit. We were basically praised when we could take the burn longer because then we knew it was getting bone straight 😩😬😬 I don't miss those days

First girl made me cry when she said "I just wanted to feel beautiful". Want to give her a hug, hope her hair made a recovery

I can't believe that first girl actually said "This is how I look most days" acting like she look a hot mess. She's GORGEOUS and her hair looked beautiful. I can completely understand how one doesn't see themselves the way the world does but I really hope she's been able to see herself the way it seems like most people in the comments did because damn that really hit me.

Hair is such a personal journey and no one should feel pressured to do one thing or the other. Relaxer was so normal when I was a kid and I honestly got burned a few times from people who didn't know what they were doing.  I went natural back in 2016 and it was also a journey (iykyk) . Decided to start my loc journey last year and I've never been happier with my hair.

I used to do hair and had a client that wanted me to do a relaxer on her. I told her we'd have to let her perm grow out first I because a perm and relaxer will make your hair fall out. She wanted to just do it on her own and I again tried to explain to her that Perm (Ammonium thioglycolate) + Relaxer (Sodium Hydroxide) are the 2 main ingredients that are used in hair removers like Nair. She didn't believe me and came in the next day bald. She did look cute in hats.

When second lady said I’m not mad and Brad is basically crying “you’re not mad???” I lost it He is too funny unintentionally 😂😂😂😂😂

I remember doing relaxers in the hairdressers I worked in as an apprentice. Literally, we were allowed to prep, that was it. We must've watched about 100 clients before even being allowed to mix the relaxer. The owner was THAT strict. He unapologetically refused to relax hair if the hair was not thick and healthy enough to 'live through it'. He banned curly perms all together on European hair, which judging by the state of my mother's hair, I could see why. Lol. Some ppl thought him a bit extra, were as I agreed with him that your hair and face are your beauty and he didn't want the responsibility put on him when it all went horribly wrong, which has been the case many a time with ppl who simply can't take advice then want to blame you when they turn into baldilocks. Lol.

Just wanna let y’all know YOUR HAIR DOES NOT DETERMINE YOUR BEAUTY. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL WITH AND WITHOUT YOUR HAIR❤️❤️

I think a shaved head is highly underrated! It's all about the confidence a woman exudes that makes it look great!

My quick relaxer saga: I’m half Dominican half white. My father is very dark skin and I got all his genes so my hair is a 3C/4A depending on the section. I was always taught my hair was not beautiful. And it was rough especially seeing all my white family with their blonde straight hair. So for years I was forced to relax my hair once a month and go to the salon 2 a month. I then would still have to straighten it almost everyday. My hair was fried. I eventually stopped and then there was a break. But a couple years ago I decided to do a chop. And start my natural hair journey. It was definitely an experience I never had anyone to teach me how to take care of my hair properly. So I’m still learning. Even to this day my Dominican family tells me that I’m lazy bc I keep my hair natural instead of straight. And it’s bc I simply don’t want to take the time to do it. There’s comments like my hair is bad hair and not good hair bc I keep it curly. I’m not mad at my family. My grandmother is an immigrant. Coming here she felt so forced to be American. And she felt if she straightened her hair it would help her blend in. I’ve never seen my grandmother leave the house without straightening her hair. It’s sad but it’s the truth. And I had to reteach myself how to look at my hair. All the inward racism I had hating my skin color and my hair, my eyes my everything. I had to learn that I was beautiful my brown skin, my coily hair is beautiful. But yeah, it’s difficult ppl pressure us to feel like this is our only option. I love my hair now, and it’s healthy and beautiful. And maybe it’ll never be as long as i want. Or will forever me frizzy and huge but it’s perfect.

My mom would perm my hair as a child just enough to style it and work with it (my hair was thick as shit lmaoo I was always breaking combs and it just wouldn’t corporate) but she knew what she was doing it was maybe like every 5 or 6 months and she’d leave it in for like 5 minutes if that. I had the most beautiful luscious thick hair. Well one summer I was going to my dads house and she permed it so she can do a cute style and she told my step mom (who braids hair) don’t perm her hair I already did etc. I even told her too that my mom already did. Well she thought that my mom didn’t know shit about hair cause she was the “professional” and forced me anyways to put a perm in my head. I remember her leaving it in for what felt like so long and I remember my scalp burning and she ended up damaging all if not most of my hair. It fell out. I was 8 years old. I am now 21 and is barely getting my thick Luscious hair to be what it was. To say my mom was pisses is an understatement.