10 SIGNS OF AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP - Periscope Session with RC BLAKES

I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for about a decade and God had to show it to me. When you're not emotionally healthy it makes sense to you to be there. Now that I've healed a lot I look back and think "how could I stay in that mess?". I didn't recognize it as an adult bc I was emotionally abused as a child so it was natural. BUT GOD!!!

#1. They will not communicate their feelings- Searching to locate them emotionally #2 - They make you feel bad about yourself- Question yourself and identity in Christ; the parts of yourself you can't change(self alteration). #3- They consistently bring you down when you're happy(only with them). #4- They threaten to hurt themselves if you don't do what they want. (imprisonment of responsibility). But, they don't fulfill any responsibility to you. Highest level #5- Consequently ruin the atmosphere of every other relationship(cold climate), isolate you from anyone else but them. #6- Threating to leave, but never do( never let anyone isolate you from any close relatives) #7- They make you feel your opinion is not valid. (Stupid or doesn't make sense). Slow to share the opinion, with no opinion. Controller. #8- Blame for failure and misfortunes. A false sense of guilt. #9- Subtitle comparison to others (competition). #10- Behave indifferently(don't care)

I am 23years old I really needed a father view and I can look upon you in this way!!! Even if it's on youtube

When a person is mentally abused, it can drive them into self condemnation and the abusers are traits of narcissm and gaslighting.

When your parents has passed away the emotional abuser become more abusive because the abuser feels he or she doesn't have to prove their good person since your parents passed away. Sad but real.

God help those that are being emotionally abused by family members.

OMG! My ex husband fit all 10 on this list! He was the worst ever. He was so extremely insecure with a very low self esteem. He hated himself & wanted me to be miserable with him. I hollered when you mentioned the 40 year old rapper. Lol! (his rap lyrics were depressing & suicidal). I'm so glad I got out. He started getting violent. That 2 year marriage was pure misery.

I ended a 1 Month relationship when I spotted all that,the early the better. Told him in the face "I won't settle for less"... and he was born again, yet picked on me coz I told him that i dont support or speak for sex before marriage...they are in church too girls, let's watch out.#Discernment.Thank you Pastor

Right on the Mark! Silent Treatment is Invalidation. Narcissists

, he would send me pictures of lipsticks to wear, or clothes to wear. He wanted me to do my nails a certain way.. and his new gf does it just the way he likes it. He told me he didn’t want me to wear makeup and now his gf does the full face contouring... i started to lose myself and now I’m working on finding my identity because I didn’t know who I was before I met him. I realized that I didn’t trust, love or value myself. I didn’t want to lose something for nothing. I was broken which is why I attracted brokenness. There was literally no fruit produced from our union and here I am wondering if me moving forward was the right thing... thanks Pastor. It really confirms a lot for me. 💕

It's almost like he was in my marriage and heard every word my husband said to me I am humble sitting here and praying to God to heal from my wounds of marriage.

The last guy told me that he was able to get the pick of the litter where women r concerned but he's with me!!! I left 30 days later.

He would absolutely DESPISE me for being a reader. He said to me on more than one occasion.. "I hate who you've become" in order to get me to stop doing what I love most.. being happy, reading, laughing and reaching for the stars. Had to leave that psycho. Life is awesome.😄

Men get emotionally abused too. Especially by those that we love

I was just in a situation just like this. I met him 3 weeks ago and each day got worse. I didn't intake any of the abuse, I recognized it and got rid of him. I believe everything he tried to change about me, he wanted to change in himself. what a great loss for him.

This is exactly what happened - every thing that you say. Toxic. Awful. Heart ache. Trauma. And now I’m free. Thank you Pastor Blake’s 💕🙏🏻💕

AMEN. ! God does not expect anyone to go through any type of abuse be it emotional or physical !

An emotional abuser disliked this video...smh

#6 my ex husband always made threats to leave...and I would always talk him out of it and told him once if he doesn't stop, I would let him walk out. finally I got fed up, talk our son and ✌..he never thought I would EVER leave his no good self. life is good

I was married to someone like that before, however he was just as distant with his daughter whom I so badly wanted a relationship with but never had the opportunity. I didn’t believe in divorce so I just changed what I did and began to further my education, remaining in hope of someday meeting her and having that relationship we never had. I feel like she and I as individuals were robbed of so much when it came to connecting with him. Well he has passed on now, and I feel strongly about moving forward in life. It was a lesson I learned and loved him very much. I miss you and your lovely wife. Oh by the way my son you prayed over in the crib as an infant became that engineer. He is married with two daughters and he shares the word when needed. Thank You for Truth.