The power of vulnerability | Brené Brown | TED

pov: your therapist told you to watch this

"You are imperfect, you are wired for struggle. But you are worthy of love and belonging."

Still watching this TEDTalk in 2023. It blew out my mind. Thanks Brené Brown. 🙌

I'm a therapist. I still watch this for a reminder for not only myself but my clients I serve. It never gets old.

i saw the other day a comment on her book in amazon that said that the book was not good because she uses really common language for a woman with university studies. I'll never understand how people pretend critical and important information to reach a large population using really specific and confusing terms just to give the image of profesionalism. This woman is really good at communicating and is explaining something useful and important.

always come back here from time to time because... well... it's necessary.

This is the first video I watch in 2024. I learned how to accept my emotions whether they are good or bad. I learned how to accept my vulnerability and imperfections. I think I'm ready for a new me in 2024. Happy new year to anyone who reads this <3

I love this message so much. To be vulnerable is to be open, to allow your emotions to be set free. To be vulnerable means to be authentic, to remove any masks you are wearing because you don't need to pretend to be someone you are not. You are worthy of love and belongingness, you are worthy of being seen, you are enough, and you matter ♥💜💙

9:32 that's what I'm doing now. I'm a shy, introspective person, and the last few years I put on my mind I had to try to be more extroverted, talk more, but this latest months I realized that this was making me feel worst, because I'm not the way I wanted to be, and when I tried to be talkative I couldn't, so this made me sad and disappointed. So now I'm accepting myself, I'm a introspective person, and I'm fine with it. I don't care what people think about it, because people tend to judge us.

9:20 "as it turns out we cant practise compassion for others unless we can be kind to ourselves"

1:40 - a piece of her research that expanded her perception 3:14 - connection ````~ 4:40 - shame 5:24 - vulnerability 6:53 - worthiness 8:05 - whole-hearted 8:45 - courage 9:43 - vulnerability (embracing it) 11:17 - a "little" breakdown 12:43 - vulnerability is the core of shame & fear but also the birthplace of joy/ creativity/ belonging/ love 13:51 - people embrace vulnerability, but that's not her (lol) 14:31 - why do we struggle w/ vulnerability 14:39 - numb 16:21 - you can't numb hard feelings w/o numbing other emotions 17:03 - making everything uncertain, certain 17:34 - perfection 18:31 - pretending

I just started a really intense program in college and had a tough day in the lab, went home and felt unmotivated to study. My relationship is a mess and most importantly, I felt extremely lonely. Wanted to change things up so I searched for this video, which I have initially watched 6 years ago and I remember it was inspiring. Watched the whole video, tears run down my face and I realized that I was being too harsh on myself and forgot to be grateful for what I have. Thank you Brene, you have taken me out of the dark place and I will rewatch this video for the stormy days to come. Life is not easy but gotta have fun and enjoy it while we can. If you are struggling like me, I genuinely hope things turn up for you and you can find the light in your life. Best wishes!!!!

Up until 24 hours ago, before I watched this video I made fun of people who loved so recklessly and willingly gave into the vulnerability in order to experience something beautiful. And I know now that that judgement came from a place of shame. It came from a place that had been hurt and rejected and not chosen multiple times by multiple people. It came from a voice that told itself to harden and be strong and don't let people in anymore, be you're own happiness, your own love, don't be weak or vulnerable to men because that'll get you hurt. But this Ted Talk changed my life. It changed my perception. And although it took some brutal self analysis and judgement, I instantly felt a sense of relief as she spoke of how it's okay, NECESSARY even to let that in, to live your life with vulnerability and compassion and boundaries so thank you. You probably saved my life and future college career.

Content aside, this is an inspirational talk for any scientist. This woman is a SCIENTIST - think of all the detail, methods, metrics, statistics, alternate theories, debates with her peers, that could have been brought into this report of six years of work.  That huge hammer of science has been honed down to a razor edge of a few crisp points, delivered with calmness, conviction and humor, in an 18 minute talk. WOW. I am inspired.

POV: you keep coming back to this video because it once changed your life and you need to remind yourself that it’s okay to be vulnerable! And you keep sending it to anyone who struggles with vulnerability

‘Blame’ in research is defined as the way to discharge pain and anger on somebody else. Loved it!!!

So resonated with the last episode of Courage the Cowardly Dog. "There's no such thing as perfect. You are beautiful as you are, Courage. With all your imperfections, you can do anything." said the bathtub barracuda.

"In order for connection to happen, we have to allow ourselves to be really seen." "The people who have a strong sense of love and belonging, BELIEVE they are worthy of love and belonging." "The origin of the word "courage" comes from the word "cour" which means heart, and it means to completely share your story with you whole heart". "Have the courage to be imperfect, the compassion to be kind to yourself first, and fully embrace your vulnerability to create connections." "What makes you vulnerable, makes you beautiful." "Vulnerability is the core of shame and fear, but it is also the birthplace of joy, happiness, creativity, belonging and love." "You are imperfect and wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging." "Believe in yourself and say: I AM ENOUGH"

I am going to the 30s and never in my life I have cried and laughed so much at the same time. I really can’t believe I didn’t watch this video earlier. Blessed by you, Brene!

It’s crazy how my brain figured this out on its own over the past year & I randomly got the thought to watch this & now I can finally put into words what I have been feeling the past year! It’s sooo liberating to know that I am on the right track with my mental health & so happy I’m here!