The Importance of Pacing- in Dating, Dancing and Relationship Making

Tasleem Laila
Tasleem Laila
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Published 2024-05-06
Rushing into things can often feel exhilarating, and satisfy a longing that may seem to have existed for a long time. But a crash can happen just as quickly if we haven't taken the time to really see and feel out what the situation is truly made of.

I'm not saying don't follow your instincts, or take opportunities that send that knowing feeling right to your bones that say, "Hell YES!" Those who know me know I'm all about embracing the hell yesses. But whether it's a relationship, a job, a date or a dance, it really helps to slow things down, to pace yourself, to find out if it's a real yes, or just a hope, or hormones, tricking us into believing it is.

In fact, it is dancing and music that have taught me this lesson in such an embodied way. After all, songs don't suddenly jump into a full out crescendo or fast forward to the chorus at the start of the music. They take their time, to take us on a journey, with an introduction, a build up, and outro, like they're getting to know us, and allowing us to know them.

The best dances, too, in my opinion, are the ones where a partner listens to the pacing of the music, and listens to the person in front of them. Not pulling or yanking or forcing them to move faster, or unnaturally, but to create a momentum and flow that allows us to let go and enjoy the experience, one section, one step, one beat at a time. That's when the magic really happens.

In this video, I talk more about why this pacing is so important, and how it has changed my experience in all aspects of my life. Thanks for another great lesson, Dance. ;-)

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All Comments (4)
  • @cancakar3406
    elegante 🌺🌺 very like 🌹🌹
  • @Blackbird-wp3bt
    Pacing and rhythm, the secret to grounded joy .... I think you had a really good point about knowing when something is off. It's like when say to yourself " I shouldn't do this" but you do it anyways. You're listening to yourself more Tasleem. That's a good thing. This is not on you. And he's not evil, maybe just not so developed.