Master the Art of Influence + Communication (Become MAGNETIC) | Charles Duhigg

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Oh man that part about not giving solutions to people when they just want to be understood is something I’m working on. I’m very good at making friends but when we get to the point where they start to become deeper with me and telling me their problems, I will relate to a degree but then I give solutions and it can get to a point where I start to slowly polarize from the person because I’m the kind of person who wants to fix their problem and not feel like I’m dwelling in their problems with them, but I realize that it’s not about dwelling with them but just hearing them and showing I hear them, and if they ask for advice/a solution, then I will give it. Thanks so much lewis, I swear your videos make me a more high quality person, they’re just phenomenal.

When you cannot connect with yourself, you will always feel lonely even in the presence of others

Been alone can increase your risk, been around the wrong people can be even worse

My assumption is that those of us that listen to these interviews have a desire to learn something new or to learn how to better ourselves. Relationships are a key component to our happiness longevity and we would like to communicate and experience life with likeminded people. How can we go about our lives and find those likeminded individuals and have a real legitimate relationship with them? I find myself learning all these things and yet I don’t have an established circle of people outside of our immediate family that I can call, go to or experience life with. It’s just me my spouse and my kids in a bubble and for the longest time I’ve desired more meaningful relationships to experience and educate myself more.

Ok, but He had the BEST answers to the famous last questions!! And he’s the only one who has asked Lewis what his are 🤯👏🏾

People no longer know how to distinguish between friends and acquaintances. Emotional diarrhea at inopportune moments is not welcome. We need to get back to reading classics to re learn what friendships are, and start practising the art of friendship. It takes time to build a friendship, and in order to have good friends, one must be a good friend. But skipping steps in building friendship is like skipping steps in courtship. Miss a step, and the whole relationship falls apart like a house of cards that it's built on. Sharing too much too soon is like expecting someone to sleep with you when all you've said is hi 10 times at the gym, or shared a cup of coffee. Maybe there's been a friendship expert on this show, but I'd surely like to see more friendship experts talk about how to build friendships; this would eliminate a lot of loneliness. It would also eliminate a lot of toxicity in relationships, including the one we have with ourselves. I'd also like to see a list of good books that illustrate what true friendship is, and how it was created. I'd love role play; conversations that illustrate what is inappropriate and how it could be corrected. I blame movies for showing incorrectly what friendship is.

"You cannot be lonely when you like the man you're alone with" Dr Wayne Dyer. Quote from: What Am I Here For?: Discover meaning, joy and steps to success in the human experience. Valuable read.

Do you need me to Hear you, help you or hug you? Game Changer for me!!!!! Thankyou!!! ❤

Lewis is such a great interviewer! Charles has been on a few of my favorite podcasts recently, but nobody could make it as engaging, meaningful and tactical as you!!!! ❤

Was searching for an interview with Charles, and was over the moon that Lewis got him on the pod. I knew it would actually be deep. Wild, but human, to hear about Lewis being checked by a recent guest for "interrupting" as any interjection from him is quite obviously enthusiasm based not ego serving. Still, appreciated his ability to give us this insight into a less than perfect moment. Proof hat humility keeps us in the game. Congrats on 11 years!!!

“Recovering from success”. WOW. I heard that. His story was incredibly vulnerable and the loudest “cautionary tale” I’ve ever heard. Excellent interview from both sides! ❤

Thank you dear Lewis for inviting the great brains to 'The School of Greatness' and making an impact in people's lives. It is a pleasure in reading the finest books produced by them and listening to their conversations. I read best selling books by Robin Sharma, James Clear & Charles Duhigg and I was wondering if I could meet these legends in person. You show make it really possible. Much love and best wishes to you Lewis from Bhutan-Himalayan country 😊. Truest me, this is my favorite show now.

Yep..here for it... I used to say being alone doesn't mean you're lonely..well.. 😢

Oh, you're interested in communication! That's awesome. Being a communication expert involves understanding the different aspects of effective communication, such as verbal and nonverbal cues, active listening, and clear expression of ideas. It's all about helping people connect and understand each other better. If you have any specific questions or topics you'd like to explore within communication, feel free to ask!Absolutely! Communication is such a fascinating topic. It's all about how we exchange information, ideas, and emotions with others. Effective communication involves not just speaking, but also listening actively and being aware of nonverbal cues like body language and facial expressions. It's about finding common ground and understanding each other's perspectives. Good communication skills can help build stronger relationships, resolve conflicts, and foster collaboration. It's a skill that can be developed and honed over time. So, what aspect of communication interests you the most

I’m 45 with 3 mindful relationships plus family, don’t suffer from any physical ailments. Everyone thing I am about 28 , work have kids and prefer love people from the distance that have toxic people around me, I have a lot of people that I now but don’t have them in the day to day

Awesome to hear Lewis's 3 truths

Lewis Howes , congratulations on the 11 year anniversary of your show🎉 .

Loneliness really is a serious epidemic. I 'm noticing it more and more in people around me and that is worrisome coz it can lead to other mental issues.

Im a new subsciber Lewis. The first video of yours Ive actually watched. I mostly see your shorts. This was particularly interesting to me. My husband and I moved from our home state about 5 yrs ago to be closer to his siblings whom I have very little in common with. 2yrs later he became ill and passed away in 2022. So here I am living alone very ruraly seperated from long term friends that are concerned that Im lonely. I personally think its a perseption thing. Some people need to be around people all the time others don't. I keep myself busy and actually enjoy the time and peaceful environment to decompress after a busy day. I may not stay here forever but for now until I decide my next life chapter being alone has been a good thing.