10 Toxic Tactics of the Female Covert Narcissist

Hearing this and reading a top comment about a FemNar's decades of canibalizing her husband, I suddenly felt strong sympathy for my dad who remained stoic and all-supporting thru the divorce and onward whereas my mom still behaves in many of the ways described in the vid whenever I bring up anything tangentially unpalatable to her. She's constantly reading some new self-help book yet she's stuck in an adversarial non-update'able version of reality: of events, and of people she once knew - their behavior is summarized into a handful of unflattering experiences and that's how they're remembered - as faulty (new characteristics are only invented if she hears they've achieved smth, whereas if they've sunken then "she always knew they would"). She blames me for being twisted, narcissistic and manipulating her whenever I try to break thru that noise and reach her. Real problems are ignored and replaced with melodrama and farce, much like in the TV soaps she watches (should be banned, it's like opium for psychologically mal-adjusted addicts). Love is the only cure but it requires a lot of clarity and stability from me to both be authentic and respect the eggshell trench-lines between us. Every time I meander closer it seems some new reason is found why I'm not allowed "inside". I am considered as "a dangerous porcupine" by my mom, and my hugs "aren't real" and I remind her of my supportive but disheartened dad. Her allies dwindle, her stance remains. Don't know how to help her so I focus on healing myself💖 forgiveness 🙏 and responsibility IRL (cursed games can only be opposed by building a new architecture from the ground up and moving base there)

My dad spent 67 years with my narcissistic mother. My father was a handsome man, with hobbies and many achievements before he met her. She took it all away from him, little by little. She constantly put him down. She was really cruel. She neglected him, never cared for him or appreciated his loyalty and dedication to his family. It’s very sad.

Nothing is more powerful in a relationship than the ability to walk away and never look back. Never put up with someone's BS mind games or abuse.

I spent 5 years with a woman like this. It was the most stressful 5 years of my life. She did every single one of these things almost daily. She literally had me questioning reality half the time. I was chronically stressed with her. The worst type of human beings in my opinion. My new girl has shown me more love in two weeks than I got in 5 years. Never settle kings. If you have a woman like this…LEAVE IMMEDIATELY.

It's crazy how these people will slowly turn you into someone you're not.

constantly having to prove that you're better than her "loser ex" after awhile you'll be "just like her loser ex no matter what you do"

My ex girlfriend always made me feel guilty. I gave her attention, gifts, trips around the world, great restaurants, everything. This video absolutely nailed her personality. Anytime I called her out she, deflected and then she blamed me. People like her never change. I told her who she was at the end and why I left her. I'm just glad I didn't marry and have kids with her. Life is good now.

You wish you saw this video a year ago button 📍

Its so sad when you are trying to be good and get treated badly by someone you love ❤

This happened to me word for word. I spent three years with her until the anxiety left me unable to handle basic things. I had alcohol problems, gained 10 kg, etc. Despite my fears, I broke up with her last May. It was a very difficult time. Since then, I've lost 14 kg, I'm in the best shape of my life, I do martial arts, I have new friends, and I'm improving mentally and physically every day. I feel alive again!

Was just released from a 9 day stay in the psych ward after finally getting away from a 5 year relationship with a narcissist. It's doable, it just hurts alot. Stay safe, kings.

The key to dealing with narcissists is knowledge. Once you understand that these people exist, and if you're unfortunate enough to have one or more in your life. The next step is always the same. Disconnection from them. Don't fall into the delusional trap that you might be able to fix them, or show them who they are as if they care and will try to fix themselves.

This was wild to hear. Its literally my whole relationship. All of it.

"There are not enough resources for men who have been psychologically abused." Actually there are virtually none. These females are causing major societal problems in family court, CPS, PTA, etc etc. Good to see more awareness on this ubiquitous problem.

To all the men in the comments that went trough abuse and got out intact…. Still have will and power to fight on and get well. Firstly I want to say congratulations. If you ever at doubt with yourself or yourself worth - don’t be. By leaving addictive and toxic relationship you have demonstrated how strong you are. It’s one of the hardest decisions any person can make in a lifetime. Takes strength, courage and immense dedication. You can be many things but you are definitely NOT weak. You can be proud of yourself when you look at the mirror. I must also add: If you let in a toxic person into your life, ignored all the red flags and stuck in the relationshit for certain period of time…. Then there is also a present issue within yourself. Such as codependency, people pleasing. Maybe some trauma in the past you are not aware of. You would do yourself good by tackling these issues to improve your life and avoid toxic ppl in the future. Stay well kings 👑

My relationship only lasted 8 months. Ironically, my difficult and stubborn personality rescued me from a lifetime of misery. I was one of the “lucky ones” who was discarded. I would often have moments of clarity where I saw through her bad behavior, but then I would excuse it because I loved her so much, so I’d lie to myself about the type of person she really is. It’s been over 2 months of no contact (though she has tried; I ignore her). The most difficult part is that I will never know how much of her affection was authentic and how much was pure manipulation. Update: it’s been over 6 months. Still sticking with no-contact and it’s the only way to go.

Very good explanation. My mom has destroyed generations

"It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and angry woman". This was written thousands of years ago and rings true more now than ever.

All this sounds like my first wife, she came from a very disfunctional family and nothing ever made her happy. Giving up on her was the biggest relief I ever felt in my life.

watching this video was like watching the 6 month cycle of my life which has been on repeat for over a decade.