The big secret nobody wants to tell | Bruce Muzik | TEDxSinCity

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Published 2011-06-03

Bruce Muzik presents a riveting talk about the devastating impact that withholding secrets can have on our lives and what to do about it.

Bruce Muzik is a world class trainer and speaker. He is known as the "white man that lived for 6 months in a black ghetto" in post-apartheid South Africa.

His passion is having people experience unprecedented freedom and happiness, through being Authentic.

Find out more about Bruce at www.brucemuzik.com/.

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All Comments (21)

@daveowens 5 years ago

“Welcome home.” I felt tears.
@6thman044 8 years ago

Probably in the top 5 Ted-talks I've heard so far.
@komerwest9520 8 years ago

And the truth shall set you free
@zoebourgogne167 2 years ago

My Life changed eight years ago when I discovered this TED talk and shared my biggest secret. Liberating!!!! Thanks Bruce
@pakanel 9 years ago

Thank you Bruce for being human than a human type.
@darkeuphoria01 7 years ago

I shed a tear when he talked about the little boy.
@carmelobelen4985 9 years ago

best line """"LYING and keeping SECRETS does not make you a BAD PERSON. and SHARING a secrets certainly doesn't make a good PERSON it just allow you to be authentically yourself and create a life worth LIVING from being WHO YOU ARE""""" thank you
@sarahsweetlove2252 8 years ago

My lie is that I'm not always okay. In fact, I'm never 'okay'. I have generalised anxiety disorder and I'm anxious every minute of everyday. And the thing is, I hate my anxiety. My anxiety itself scares me and I'm scared to face that but I slowly am confronting it and allowing it to be there. I'm also really scared that my anxiety will lead me back to depression and sadness because I love being happy, and depression is not something I want to experience again. I just want to be happy, but not be scared of sadness and fear because it's irrational to be scared of it and life isn't always perfect. That's my secret.
@stephaneehouman192 10 years ago

ONE MORE THING! If you're going to share your big secrets with someone, make sure that person wants to hear it as well. Sometimes, the other person doesn't want to hear your secret because it would make his/her life worse. Yes, self-liberation does feel good, but you need to consider how the other person will feel knowing that secret. It's not just about you after all...
@SuckYourBone 7 years ago

You may agree with his personal opinion and approve his story or not, but the message talked about in a second part of this video is of a GREAT IMPORTANCE. Don't get disctracted, I hope people leaving unfavorable comments are aware of this
@andy4an 10 years ago

"welcome home" sent shivers down my spine
@evlynpemberton5201 7 years ago

Welcome Home. Everyone should watch this video.
@emilythesongbird2306 7 years ago

I agree with the importance of revealing your secrets and living an authentic life. Keeping a childhood secret ate away at me inside until I was compelled to share. Things did get worse before they got better, but I was liberated and there was a space within me for forgiveness. Your talk inspired me to do this with some smaller secrets as well. Thank you for sharing your courageous story Bruce.
@Bootsystem66 9 years ago

The truth sets you free at all times. Well done dude!
@tshwaraganyoernestlekabe4103 8 years ago

Im a black South-African and i've never heard of this guy before. This man is a free white man. Well done brother!!
@Eddie2P 8 years ago

this guy is pretty much saying to let go of resisting the flow of energy. He did a good job explaining in his own way.
@RobertGallas 10 years ago

same as confession ... but sometimes telling the truth can have lethal consequences to other people. be carefull. sometimes one must keep pain of his bad decission to himself and live with it. when we tell the truth to somebody not sharing this philosophy, we just transfer our pain to other person.
@peppigue 8 years ago

The truth is always lurking, awaiting discovery. The pain of lying is in the conscious/subconscious/unconscious efforts to conceal and reject the truth, and the stress and anxiety that follows. Better to suffer the truth than to live the lie.
@VivienLarena 1 year ago

“WHAT’S YOUR SECRET?” Wow thank you for this Bruce!
@ashemgold 7 years ago

Raised in Texas as a white boy and didn't have a black friend until my mid 20's. A decade later I found myself living in a predominantly black neighborhood and made some the most memorable friendships of my life.