Our Experience Dating with Mental Illness

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I cannot say enough about how important your work is.

I think Rob definitely did the right thing by going to the library and doing his own research first. Great initiative

Such an authentic and articulate conversation ❤

Hi my name is Brian I've been working in mental health for over 10 years and deal with my own mental illness. I'm reaching out to you because I've watched a few of your videos and you appear fairly insightful and I work at a facility that is predominantly schizophrenic and I'd like to interview you to gain more insight because it is my goal to give my clients quality care. I feel that part of being able to do that is by having insight and because I don't struggle with schizophrenia I lack it to some extent. My struggles are with PTSD, Dyslexia, ADD, Autism, Anxiety and Depression. It is my ultimate goal to become an advocate for all mental illnesses. I feel by interviewing you it may help provide light to my hypothesis that lies behind Schizophrenia allowing me to to become a better counselor and advocate for all.

Thanks Laura, you helped me resolve a deep wound. I was in my first relationship many years ago and they broke up with me after a year when I started having mental health symptoms for the first time...anyway they went off and started running marathons while I slowly declined into depression and obesity....I always thought I'll never be the person I could have been ifni hadn't had an illness...when I was with my ex before the first mental health issue I was actually the more competent and strong person so I always felt kind of robbed by having the mental illness but seeing the vid when you ran the ultra marathon just unlocked something within me...that you can have a mental illness and be 'that' person. Thank you. I'm on my road to recovery and your videos help take the shame of it away.

I'd like to offer a perspective. A lot of times while people living with mental illness are wondering when to disclose, the person or people their dating already know something is going on, and are just waiting and hoping for some insight. Just because a person living with mental illness hasn't (yet/ever) shared their diagnosis, doesn't mean other people are blind to it. I know there is a stigma. As a society, we're so uneducated about mental illness. When those with mental illness internalize the stigma, they rob themselves of the support system they could be building by being open and honest.

It’s hard to disclose but it’s also hard not to. How much time and effort do I want to spend with someone if they’re just going to walk away once I tell them this about myself? I feel dishonest if I hide it for too long, but obviously they should know me first.

very dignified and caring conversation about the realities of a chronic mental illness and how to navigate the world of dating

"Come for the importance insight into mental health issues, stay for the deep warmth and healthy growth".

Such a great topic! I think the point about being comfortable in your own skin is the key to living with a mental illness of any kind. You are enough. Yes, you have additional challenges. Finding someone you trust and are comfortable with, like Lauren said, is the answer. Truthfully, not all people can handle a mental illness. That’s ok, like Rob said there are a million people out there you could work with. (I’m sure there was a discussion after the podcast with Lauren & Rob 😂😂😂) Seriously, I do believe there is a soul mate out there. However, build yourself and know YOUR worth before looking! Hugs

Now that I think about it, I've never told my partners I have a mental illness. I never felt it was necessary I don't know why. I don't have a diagnosis yet due to some issues getting medical assistance but I feel they somehow know I'm not mentally well and roll with it or sometimes don't even notice 😂 I remember last time I had a full blown psychotic episode and the partner I had at that time didn't notice AT ALL I was unwell.

I was actually surprised at this discussion. Rob's comments, as well as the differing perspectives on both sides. Very intriguing in my opinion.

Wow. This hits me hard. I do not have this diagnoses. But i recently shared childhood longterm sexual abuse with someone. And it was hard. Really hard. Thank you for sharing this. Im literally in tears hearing how you felt so scared to share this with him. I understand in so many ways.

Great episode, y’all should promote this more on the main channel. Get some more eyes and ears on the pod, episodes are always light hearted but also informative and an interesting listen. Keep at it

The non-verbals in this conversation speak louder than words. Very interesting, keep up the good work! 👍🏻

I dated a guy at 17 and was in a long term relationship we’ve broken up and now I’m single and 25 and diagnosed schizoeffective.. wild.

you guys are awsome. this story is so cute and informative. thank you for sharing

SO beautiful and inspiring, all they share, and truly, their relationship :) Mental illness or not! <3 Love prayers peace!

Blessed man! Looks like you 2 are close to "soul mates" Here's to your relationship strengthening as life goes forward ❤ open dialog, communication is #1, too many create based solely on their own input🕊🙏