6 Verbal Tricks To Make An Aggressive Person Sorry

YouTube: How to avoid embarassing yourself in an argument "so you are saying that i embarrass myself in every argument??"

Peterson: “What a clear, sunny day.” Newman: “So you’re saying clouds have no right to be here?”

I'm retired now. Workplace cultures can be very argumentative. I stumbled upon a book called The Gentle Art Of Verbal Self Defense. I read it and tried it. It worked so well that I lived by it. When I realized I was mastering the content, my stress level plummeted. Kudos for your skills!

00:47 - Realise whats going on before its too late 1:54 the "so you're saying" trap 2:52 assuming the sale 5:35 Smash technique 7:12 Do not strawman the other persons ideas 7:44 Make sure the other person can understand you after you have understood their viewpoint or idea 8:40 Show them that they are already agreeing with you 10:37 Adress the emotional concern

Peterson: “gotcha” Newman: “so you’re saying that you now own me.”

Jordan: "I like dogs" Kathy: "So you're saying that you hate cats?"

Ten years ago, my office area had an older boss who had anger issues and was very manipulative, but on Friday’s he would walk by us and ask why we were still around at 3pm. I think he was aware of his short-comings and he tried to make up for them by letting us go early on Fridays. I read two book by a clinical psychologist that helped me to understand him and he never bothered me again emotionally after I read the book because I learned how to deal with him. The books are called “In Sheep’s Clothing” and “Character Disturbances”, by George Simon. Those books also help me these days with manipulative types, and instead of becoming angry, I deal with them professionally and grounded.

I really clapped for Jordan at the end pointing out how Katie has been questioning him, being aggressive, offensive and putting words in his mouth and how that shows her disagreeable position against him and that is exactly freedom of speech which he is all about. Good for Jordan!!! You proved she was doing what she is supposed to be against.

Bad idea to play mind games with a psychology professor.

Jordan Peterson: “I’m an analyst and therapist.” Cathy Newman: “so what you’re saying is you’re an Analrapist?” Edit: I no longer care for Jordan Peterson.

"Ha! Gotcha!" was perfect. It brought an air of levity to the stifling moment of Kathy's stuporous stammer. After enduring her hostility throughout the interview, it was fitting for Jordan to gracefully hold her at the tip of his skilful sword.

You can't reason with people that hate you.

I love the statement someone made years ago. "People don't want to hear your opinion. They want their opinion to come out of your mouth."

Peterson: "You look great today". Interviewer: " So, you're saying that I was ugly yesterday?"

Personally, I really appreciate you for taking the time to analyze a discussion and then pass it on so others might learn something from it. I know I certainly did. I have been a big JP fan for a long time because of his ability to truly listen to what the other person is saying and at the same time, dissecting their words and phrases to spot any sort of attempts to lure him into responding with something he doesn't want to say or something he doesn't agree with. He is truly one of the greatest minds of the modern age.

I get so offended easily and I can't handle extreme opinions that are different from me. Although a lot of people don't think that about me - I am very good at avoiding arguments as I hate engaging in them. But I wished I knew of ways where I can truly just stay calm, listen and let it out the other ear, genuinely and not just in appearance. I guess I kind of do, but there are triggers where I really just get pissed off and I can't seem to control/manage my anger. I never realized this about myself until recently. I want to get better.

Jesus christ i barely talk properly, now i have to talk like im playing chess...

"Sure is nice out today." "So you're denying climate change?"

TOTALLY agree with the relaxed posture. I once asked for a meeting with a priest who attacked me in an email, I don't know who taught him it was okay to address anyone that way, but it was ridiculous. Got to the meeting to find he had planned an attempted "gotcha" for me with the Vicar General and deacon. God bless and help them all. I can't do it naturally, but I was 35 weeks pregnant at the time in a high-risk pregnancy, and the Holy Spirit apparently decided enough was enough - because I spent the entire hour unconcerned, leaning back in my chair, sometimes with my hands behind my head, totally relaxed, even while this dude was repeatedly jumping out of his chair and yelling at me. He was absolutely stymied and his "gotcha" failed miserably. Keep your body relaxed. Out of control bullies just don't know what to do with it!

That Gotcha moment was a turning point for so many people. Whilst you could argue it wasn't the most constructive thing to do, in terms of exposing the combative and self-righteous media for the bullies they've become, or perhaps were all along, it was very much needed. Of course... we might be living in a very different world if Dr. Peterson had then spent the next 20 minutes winning over Newman. Seeing one of their own turned on such a visible scale might have brought a lot of people back from the barricades. But then again, maybe it wouldn't have had the exposure it did without the Gotcha moment. Who knows. Lets go play some games.