Barriers to Effective Listening

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Me: let's watch a video on how to listen better! Also me: immediately scrolls down to the comments, gets distracted, and stops listening

❌️ I have adult ADHD, and I bulldoze people out of conversations, and always feel bad after it's over. I get anxious around silence between people, so I end up "entertaining" by talking - in an author of non fiction, abs fiction books, and it's highly creative. Because I love learning, and hyper fixate on many topics I find intetesting, I know a lot about many topics. The point is, I understand that it's better for me to shut up, and let others talk - I do not talk, when I'm watching hundreds of videos per month on a YT, so why can't I do it with humans in front of me? It's impulsive, the same when people have a tremendous craving for something in the fridge they should not eat, and lose control and end up eating it all. So yes, I'm here to learn to be better at conversations, and learn to mask my ADHD traits. I love people, and it hurts me to think, they may think I'm being disrespectful. Thank you for these videos, and would you dedicate some of these to people like me please? Much love!!! 👍👍❌️

3 days ago I was a talking to a Syrian refugee trying to know him and he was not a good communicator and I got a little bit sad but thanks for clarifying this we should talk to other with compassion. Thanks Alex keep on the good work. I am practicing the tips to become a better listener therefore a better leader.

Thank you for your videos coach Lyons... always good to get a refresher on what constitutes effective communication/listening skills

Timestamps: 1:18 1 Distractions 1:45 2. Preoccupation 2:20 3. Too focused on details 3:00 4. The topic 3:51 5. Rebuttal tendency 4:27 6. The speaker

Very good video and helpful, thank you! Love to works on all of them! Distractions, Preoccupation, Too focused on details. Love the way you explain, I am working on how to be a good listener, i want to master the listening skills.

Coach, you've outdone yourself. I am thinking of calling you the Speak King!

I enjoyed your bloopers. This video was assigned by my professor for a Communications class. I enjoy your videos immensely.

One of the main barriers that most affects my listening is preoccupation because I often think about many other things I have going on in my mind daydreaming to the point where I forget to actually listen to the speaker. An example of this can be when I was once at school sitting in my math class and im thinking about how hungry I am and what im going to do after school while the teacher is explaining something important. Then all of a sudden I hear her say, “Ok, now im going to call on someone to answer the question” and because I was too busy thinking about other things, I never payed attention to the teacher and when the teacher called on me all I could do was just sit there looking all clueless and say “I don’t know”.

Working on Drift as of right now! 🌹 Thank you Mr. Lyon 🍃

I like your last minutes. They are the highlights. hahaha

Ha! This was listed as additional study material for my Group Dynamics class. Perhaps I should have waited until tomorrow morning. It’s 11:05pm and I just spent the last 7 hours revising an APA style paper about addiction in order to get it submitted to my Emotion and Motivation class before the deadline at midnight.. I’m listening a second time in the morning! You have a new follower.. now, what did you say? Ha!!

What barrier is a big issue for you?

Out of the total six barriers to effective listening, I would say that Distractions is one of the barriers that effect my listening. One time I was listening to a lecture in middle school during English class, my phone dings which meant the I got a text. For the rest of the lecture, I spent it texting my friend which caused me to stop paying attention to the teacher. This caused me to not understand the assignment that we were given, which caused me not to do it and that caused me to fail it. This why I turned off notifications for texting so that way I cannot get distracted anymore.

Another great video, Alex! You're doing an amazing job!

That was a good list of barriers. I find people are not very good communicators these days, they do focus on details and completely ignore the message you want to get across. I have a problem with people rebutting me as soon as I open my mouth. I think it's because I say things that they've never heard of before. Rather than listen they rebut. Very frustrating. I like the points you made - yes just listen to the person and try to get a feel from where' they're coming from. So many great tips. Cheers!

Hi Alex, thanks for these very useful listening advices. I personally do get caught up in the details and easily forget or fail to realise the bigger picture. Also, I love the last piece of advice you gave, about having a level of compassion and respect for the speaker as a human being that does go a long way in life. That speaker/person may become a good friend or you may have to see him/her a lot for any reason at work etc. So, I believe compassion is at the core of true listening.

Thank you so much for sharing your coaching videos on YouTube

Thank you Dear Sir I agree with you about the barriers of Effective Listening My case are : Distractions , Preoccupation , Focused on the details , The topic then the Speaker Thanks