Why Being a "soft man" can be a Strength

4:13 i absolutely get this. I had a rubbish upbringing that included bullying from 7 to 18. It left me suicidal with depression and social anxiety. It certainly gave me resilience but at the same time i have been very protective of myself.

Bless you brother.

I'm not a man but I truly admire and respect your vulnerability! It is how we all connect. You being a voice helps others to locate theirs. Many men are fearful of expressing themselves. Understandable, but not healthy.. So I commend you, for being brave in that sense. One thing we can all relate on is our pain. Life doesn't happen without it. So we may as well talk about it!

Hey brother. We share a name. Literally both of em and I tell ya, therapy has been one of the best things I’ve ever done as a 35 year old. Been in therapy for 3 years and it’s been the best thing ever! Cheers Jay.

I'm viewing your catalog in order. I'm up to this video. It's like a soap opera or roller coaster, sometimes within the same video. I don't know where this is going but I'm along for the ride. Your vulnerability makes you compelling.

I like your monotone voice, it's calming and easy to listen to.

I appreciate what you are doing man. 30yr old man in the USA here dealing with the same stuff. My coping mechanism to being vulnerable from being a kid was to just get quiet, but over the years I'm learning to open up more. It's such a hard thing to do when your stomach is in your throat. Thanks for sharing your experience I hope you keep at it!

I'm an autistic transwoman and have always had female coping mechanisms by nature. But despite this a lot of people have tried to get me to suppress my emotions and talk me out of my feelings. When I didn't follow what they said they'd shame me and withdraw from me. A lot of people say that men don't talk about their emotions and I think that is very true. But as someone who totally rejected male coping mechanisms and who doesn't even identify as a man I can see how hard it is to open up even if it is good for them. Even though I'm ok opening up in the right spaces working out who to trust can feel like a game of Russian Roulette.

Jay you are always so insightful. I'm so glad you're starting to come out of your shell and sharing your vulnerability.

Jay, thanks for putting yourself out there. I just turned 30 and am feeling quite lonely. Stumbling on your content makes me feel seen. Sending love from Seattle. 🖤

You communicate yourself so well Good video

Hey Jay, just found out your channel. I'm 19 and it's just amazing to hear the ground reality of life at your age. All boils down to celebrating your life with few loved ones. I'm glad to at least have some friends who care about me but I'm afraid of future. Obviously everyone going to be separated after after college and I'd be doing a corporate surrounded by cold hearted professionals who would just care till the work goes on. I wanted a fun life, life filled with people who really love and care. I hope we find ways along. btw please never stop uploading.

Good video mate. Hope the sessions keep working well.

Dunno i never tried therapy🤷🏼‍♂️or not even think of it. Why ? Whats the point to talk , talking will not fix me !. And also people don’t wanna hear about it. No one cares how we feel Life is not fair period!

I don't agree with the video thumbnail. If you're advising MEN to "embrace their vulnerability", the words "Keep Your Feelings To Yourself" contradict those very words. No one should be keeping their own feelings to themselves because that is DETRIMENTAL to their mental health. People should be ENCOURAGED to freely express themselves, in order to relieve their pain and allow them to experience catharsis.