When a man is using a woman, he will do these 9 things

I met a guy at work a few days before New Years Eve (I'm a nurse and had seen him around a few times--he was a radiology tech). He was nice looking, employed, seemed fairly intelligent--there was definitely a spark on my part. So I invited him over for a very nice dinner (I'm a good cook). He didn't bring wine, flowers or anything, but we had a pleasant evening, with no sex. It was nice and he seemed to enjoy himself. . Our next date was at a popular brew house with good, moderately expensive food. I ordered a very moderate meal, so did he. Then the waiter brought the check and set it on the table. CRICKETS. The waiter stood there blocking the exit. Talk about awkward. Finally, my dream date said "Oops, I forgot my wallet". I paid. On the way to the car he said he would write me a check. I waited a few days then called him and told him to forget it and said goodbye. Then the dumbass calls for another date. I said I didn't think we were compatible. He asked "Is it about the money?" I figured he's was so absolutely clueless it would be a waste of time telling him he's a classless sorry excuse for a man, so I just said again we seemed incompatible and I felt no spark, no connection. He said he was sorry and asked for another chance! I said "Gotta go, I'm getting another call", and BLOCKED HIM. A man with any class at all would still have sent a check anyway, even if he had no chance. Sometimes spending New Years alone isn't such a bad idea, but I'm glad it happened. It raised my awareness and made it easier to separate the wheat from the chaff (there's a lot of chaff out there). BTW I actually found a prince, he was worth waiting for and kissing a few toads). We've been together for 14 years now.

People seem to want the benefits of a relationship, but not the responsibilities.

I heard this long ago from an older woman I trusted, and nothing is truer than this. "Choose the man that loves you, not a man you love. The man that loves you will go to the ends of the earth for you. A woman can grow to love the man that shows sincere commitment from the beginning. A man you love will love you only on his terms from the very beginning, and never fully will."

Some insecure men use confident women to sponge off their energy to pass themselves off as a whole person...

I’ve been married for 40 years and gradually saw my spouse behave in ALL these ways. He’s been using my strong skills in finance, investing, organizing, parenting, planning, negotiating and more for his purposes. I left two years ago. Should have done it twenty years ago.

Simple advice here and you will NEVER get used! listen to his ACTIONS AND PATTERNS not his words! Do NOT believe anything he/she tells you!!! Believe what they consistently (show) you!!!

The fair weather boyfriend. Yep. I can spot a user IMMEDIATELY on dating profiles...it usually goes something like... Looking for a woman who: 1. Has her act together. 2. Isn't jealous. 3. Has a positive attitude 4. Understands I'll be fishing with my buddies every weekend. 5. Stays fit. 6. Has her own interests. And blah blah blah. He sets the stage to ensure you really don't bother him or disrupt his life in any way

Thank you, I’ve been a victim of men like these. Especially the “broken” men who need healing but give back nothing

If a guy says to you “you’re too good for me”, don’t think this is a compliment. What he’s really saying is, I will never be able to live up to your expectations of me as a man. He will take what he can while he can, but it will end….. when he consistently lets you down.

I left my cheating husband 8 years ago. I’m now 65. Even a lot men in my age range could care less about a well rounded relationship that includes intimacy as well as family relationships, enjoying pastimes together, traveling, etc. All the ones I’ve dated were wham, bam and thank you mam! Not that I went to bed with all of them. 1 had me fooled but he was just a user. I’m done. Put a fork in me. The single life is much more peaceful. Lol

#10 the man who only expresses affection when he wants sex. He won’t hold hands when you’re out, he won’t even walk with you. The only time there’s a hug or peck on the cheek is when he’s leading up to sex. Not lovemaking

This is even more common amongst older men. All they want is kisses, sex, having fun, e never commitment. Be aware older ladies!

Many years ago a girl’s father always used to ask a man what his intentions towards his daughter were! Good old days, there’s a lot to be said for them!😅

This is why I'm happier choosing the single life than giving into manipulative men. Sure you might get cuddles sex and some free meals but it ain't worth it. Only brings heartache. Stay strong, even if it means staying single for a while. The right person will find you. Never lower your standards.

Was married to a covert narcissist who did all the right things but lived another life in secret. Those take detectives. They are terribly destructive against you and the kids when you do find out. A life of sorrow. Be careful!

A guy must like/love the woman more than she likes/ loves him. Sad but true. If this is the opposite, the man will use up all your youth and leave to be with the girl he WANTS.

This almost perfectly describes my last relationship. Never talked about future plans, only invited me out with his friends when they asked “where’s your babe” & every single time we met or saw, no matter how short, sex was always involved. It started out fine, made some future plans, planned & went on dates & just spent time together… after a while the excuses started, always busy, always working, always doing something else even when we had previously made plans for a particular day, something always came up & he would never bother to rain check… just wouldn’t speak to me the entire day, not picking my calls & all that. Now I just regret how silly I was thinking it was love lol. After we broke up he said he knew I would find someone better & he’s right. I will.

Not inviting you to meet his family or willing to meet yours after dating for a significant time is another red flag.

Thanks Brian. I found your videos when I was still trying to get back with my ex, and now that I'm in the best relationship I've ever had with someone I love with all my heart, I still watch your videos. This one in particular reminded me of the 3 months or so after my ex dumped me where we were continuing to sleep together, but only once every 2 weeks because he just couldn't squeeze in any more time to see me. 🙄 it's amazing the shit we put up with when we think nobody else is going to love us.

I am 66 yo and had 2 marriages 1 of 13 yrs, 1 of 18 yrs, 3 long term relationships, some short term. I am happily married now for 3 years. If hes good looking, Beware. Pay close attention to what happens in the beginning. If you dont feel appreciated, you feel used and know deep down you are not a top priority, regardless of how you feel about this guy, dont waste any more of your time, move on. You dont want to miss out on that man that truly appreciates you and shows it because your wasting time with someone that never will.