Male vs Female Gaze: How Media Profits From Your Gender

I'm seeing new comments about the audio being not synced up. The reason for that is I had to trim a few seconds off of the video, using YouTube's trimmer because someone copyright claimed it. Monetization is back on, but I guess trimming the video has affected audio syncing? The video has been processing for a day. I'm hoping that after it's fully processed, it'll be back to normal.

"females and males are temporary" "shrek is enternal" _sun tzu

Thats actually really interesting that you have an almost even split of viewership gender. All the channels I watch usually have a majority either way.

It still bewilders me how small independent YouTubes are able to make really professional, big budget looking documentaries like this.

I honestly think the reason the girls (possibly women) talked so much about TC’s acting skills and personality is because they didn’t want to sound shallow. I know plenty of women who feel the need to highlight the non-physical attributes of a romantic interest specifically for that reason.

I feel like the answers about "date/apartment/sex" questions can also be explained by the "stranger danger', which is generally higher for women.

The idea that someone that's really in shape is perceived to have commitment issues very interesting. On the flip side I've talked to many of my friends who are guys that said they're not interested in a certain girl cause she's "too hot" and they think she would cheat on them. I wonder if there's a study that compares numbers of cheating individuals based on their general attractiveness.

One thing that I see other comments mentioning is that it's easy to say what you think you find attractive, but what you actually find attractive is something more real and hard to grasp. A thing that I find has helped a lot in understanding why women like the pretty boy types is seeing them in motion, hearing them speak, because a lot of the time there is both a tenderness and an intensity of presence. Similarly, what I find myself desiring in a partner is not the sort of shallow charicature we often get from sexy lady characters, which even in full cinematic context is more like the static image of those gentlemen actors the ladies like. I find myself wanting that intensity of presence and gentleness. In a sense, what people want is to be seen and heard, not merely as leaders or authorities, but as equals, and to see and hear their partners in turn. Or perhaps this is senseless.

The day I learned that one of the most common body parts women find attractive is the hands, is the day I began learning to accept myself and stop trying to conform to what the media says I should look like. It sounds silly to say in retrospect, years later, but learning to love your body and stop chasing this fantasy ideal that the media says you should seek after, allows you to be in control of the goal posts for yourself, instead of chasing the impossible and ever-changing goal posts of someone who profits off of your misery.

That tik tok of the guy at the gay bar absolutely destroyed me. Having your worst fears confirmed is a horrible experience.

The media also influences the way we feel about the attractiveness in genders. we’ve slowly been manipulated to think certain ways about anything

0:00 Intro 3:15 Defining The Male vs. Female Gaze 4:24 Promiscuity from an Evolutionary Perspective 11:52 Negative Stereotypes in Males and Females 15:12 "The Ideal Female" in Media for Men 20:54 "The Ideal Male" in Media for Women 31:38 Additional Behavior supporting the Evolutionary Perspective 34:16 How the "Ideal Man" is written For Men 42:21 How the "Ideal Woman" is written For Women 46:05 Conclusion

Wow. Thoroughness in research and examples. Fleshed out, evidence based ideas, structured so cohesively that there's little more to add than thank you and well done. Even as someone who has some difference of opinion on a point or two, I am subscribing because content such as this deserves to be promoted.

Excuse me? Peter Parker? A successful photographer? No, no, no, he‘s been beaten up, stamped on and made fun of all the time. That’s what made him so different from all these other superheroes back then. Peter was a Nerd who was constantly in the shadows and not noticed by others if he wasn’t wearing the mask.

I always thought “why tf do people like timothee?!” and then I watched dune. Same thing with Tom holland. They aren’t very sexy at first glance, but the level of charm these guys possess is off the charts. They have mastered the ability to showcase the best aspects of their personalities and making you believe it’s 100% genuine and reflects their real life.

The course on Human Behavioural Biology from Stanford (the lectures for which are available on Youtube) are a pretty good and much more nuanced look into this topic, because they go over how much more complicated this even is. The videos on evolutionary biology are especially notable because they take a look at the whole "tournament species/pair-bonding species" thing that is often touted for this topic and show how it isn't that simple for humans.

I'm watching this almost 2 years later and just I gotta say everything is so on point and gives people regardless of who they are or where they come from, a lot of introspection. Bravo 👏⭐

A lot of this is so true. I can sit through a whole movie about an insanely handsome, alpha male who rarely wears a shirt and not even feel an ounce of attraction. However the moment a slightly above average actor presents even a slight semblance of sensitivity, I’m head over heels. Edit: I’ve been getting a lot of hate for saying this , not sure why so since it’s a personal preference. 😀? I’m not saying conventionally attractive people are ugly , I’m just more interested in who ppl are rather than what they look like. But it really depends on the individual. It’s a case by case thing.

The promiscuity studies don't seem to take into account that women need to protect themselves as a man asking to take you to a second location may very likely want to harm or kill you. A woman is seen as non-threatening, so men always assume they're safe.

It is also key to note that if 54% fit on one side of a dichotomy, the other 46% sits on the other, making generalizations, well, broadly generalized. Each person has their own needs, wants and preferences. I had a roommate that would go to the gym every day and when he came back, he would often ask me, "What do you think? Will girls like me now?" I had to remind him that different people have different preferences, and he would only attract girls that have physical health as a high priority, and that ultimately, since he planned on being monogamous, that he just needs to be attractive to one key person.