Matt Rife: The Disadvantages of Being Attractive

If ur a lonely kid who is ugly people will assume that you're creepy, when ur the quiet kid who is attractive everybody will think that you're mysterious. Talking about self-experience. Looks matter a lot these days.

It hurts to hear my parasocial girlfriend call herself mid.

Sorry but the title is wrong, he had no disadvantage from being attractive, his disadvantage was his personality

Hanging out with my attractive cousin was always surreal. We'd just be out walking and men would yell at her from across the street to join them. Men would follow her around. Men would smile creepily at her. It was kind of unsettling. And to her it was white noise. I'd never been more grateful to be a 6/10 woman, since being a hot girl seems to mean being harassed by men so much you don't even notice it anymore. (Though she also had some horror stories)

I feel like Henry Cavil is also a good example of someone has the disadvantage of being attractive because he's honestly been sexually harassed during interviews by hosts and co-stars and had his opinions belittled. People laugh it off as just being "thirsty" for him, and expect him to take it because he's a guy and supposedly doesn't have it as hard as 'ugly' people. So, I guess my point is that attractiveness allows people to excuse and get away with objectification, which hurts the person being objectified. Also, as the attractive can either second guess people's motives all the time, their own worth, or the value in really working hard; good people like Cavil try to avoid this and Matt Rife pointed out the disadvantage. Anyways, great video!

The disadvantages of being attractive are kind of like the disadvantages of being a tall man. Sure there are times when it might be annoying to be constantly asked how's the weather up there, have people ask to get things off the top shelf, worry about blocking people's view at the cinema, or fitting into a plane seat, but it still has an overwhelmingly a positive impact on your life.

Matt Rife is wild to me. He was so embarrassed about having a female audience that he decided to use his Netflix special specifically to try and get rid of his own audience with a 1950s style DV joke. So many entertainers would be happy just to have an audience period.

I think the modern standards of conventional attractiveness are so artificial, most of the time when someone points out a super hot “out of this world” hot person, I can’t understand it because they don’t look human to me. Maybe it might be me being autistic, but I think “imperfections” or whatever is what makes people not go completely in the uncanny valley. Are some people beautiful and ethereal? Yes, but that’s including the things that stick out beyond what magazines show. I can’t understand wanting to be a doll.

I’d trade my disadvantages for his. 😂

I don't mind dark humor, but the joke has to actually be funny. If your joke is offensive but really subpar, it's just offensive at that point.

I just saw a video of an attractive young white slim blue eyed blonde girl say that she applied to Harvard as a joke and got in, got a job she wasn’t qualified for, got offers for jobs, trips, and free opportunities and thought she was just lucky, people tried to point out it’s because she attractive she has the the world in her hands, basically she’s living life in easy mode! I was a young attractive girl and yes I could get any job I wanted, but I was SO lonely. Men would either completely stay away from me due to being intimidated by me or they would harass me for sex, women disliked me, my friends were jealous and made me feel bad about it and distanced themselves from me, and I could never tell who really liked me for me or because of how I looked. Now that I’m older and the hotness has waned it’s amazing that I still have poor confidence from being isolated and unsure of how people think of me.

It doesn't help that his attractiveness is purchased. He created his own "hell."

As a fellow mid girlie, it is interesting to sit back with slightly less bias (definitely still some) and watch people go: “either I am having a hard time, or you are having a hard time, but it can’t be both!!” Two groups can have issues related to the same subject, simultaneously. Things are complex :(

As a pretty person, I promise there are very little disadvantages to being attractive. But the advantages aren’t as prevalent either. Like they don’t matter if you’re like me (socially inept) and don’t really talk to or see anyone ever. A hermit.

I remember hearing from a Psychologist, Social-Scientist, or similar ilk say that the only time being attractive (especially for a woman) is detrimental is when they are on trial for a sex-related crime (like a Black Widow being on trial).

As a unattractive person, this is just depressing.

It's very clear why the bias would be against same sex whether or not someone is also attracted to the same sex - it's about who your competition is. It's a known thing in some queer spaces that people can end up stuck between wanting someone or wanting to be that person, dealing with envy with the person they love. It's really obvious when you think about it

The jaw surgery and implants and veneers helped him a ton. He didn't catch too many looks during his early Wild 'n Out days.

are we gonna ignore the fact that matt has obviously had some kind of plastic surgery? like come tf on, you think his comical chad-jaw spawned from magic powers?

Very unique exploration and topic. Thanks for putting this together and exploring it in such a thoughtful way.