THE UNDERCOVER NARCISSIST- Covert Narcissist by RC Blakes

They never answer a question with STRAIGHT answer, they answer with a question and can't sit still nor look you in the eye for more than a minute!

The covert one plays the pity party to get into your world. So nice, so into you. Watch out. Listen to your gut feeling. It tells you to get away. Listen closely.

I call it "Relationship Fraud" These "people" are dark souls. Nothing about them or their relationship with you is genuine. They wear a mask to hook you in. Then, when the mask falls off, the abusive games begin. The only way to deal with these" people" and have piece in your life, is to go No Contact. Your mental, physical and spiritual well being depends on it. Knowledge is power. Stay Narc free....❤

Never lock your life down with a person who grieves you. Spiritual discernment will always pick up on the game. You explain things in a MINDSHIFTING WAY.

I recently broke up with a covert narcissists and going no contact. He definitely played the role of nice guy, but was emotionally dismissive, manipulative, etc.

Narcissists isolate you from family and friends so when they are abusing you in every way you have no one to turn to after they make you create animosity..

Zero empathy. zero insight to his own behavior. Helped others only to tell everyone exactly how he helped them. Hypocrite. Passive agressive & Childish. Would pout. Silent treatment as a way to punish me for holding him accountable. (Does that even make sense?!)

Preach! Don’t move too fast. Ask questions! Don’t give up the cookie. Resist the devil and they will flee . 55 narcissist gave a thumbs down. Flee!

They are sick, lunatics walking on earth causing problems for kind people they meet!!!

"You've taken a snake into your bosom. " That's an excellent description because you're walking around and they're biting you where no one can see. You look down and wonder why you're bleeding. Many small bites over time.

"Not knowing that you've really taken a snake unto your bosom." Yep ... that about sums it up. 👍

I live with a covert narcissist for 10 yrs and just filed for a divorce. Everything here is so true. I would like to add that going with a narcissist for couples therapy is a bad idea as they will use the therapist to show that you are the problem and not them.

If Judas was a true narc, he killed himself not from remorse but because his name was ruined.

Bigtime secrecy, passive-aggressiveness, isolation from family & friends, dramalovers, emotional manipulators taking no selfresponsibility, blameavoiders, master of living silent treatments & creating triangulation, promisebreakers & playing unnecessary hurtful games...the covert tactics are simply sad, unfair & destructive. In the end they are the one with the selfdestruct button & they miss out on a honest-loving heart, who loved them - or at least what we believed they were. Wish them well & move on.

Control, control, control...at first the control is them "taking care of" you.

I am laughing so hard because I experienced so much of this but God made a way of escape. 6-8 months & it was over. Gloooooray!!! Choose freedom over being an insignificant other.

‪Spiritual discernment always picks up on the game‬!

I want to commend this pastor for being one of the few that I have seen to address mental illness. I feel that the church has been very negligent considering how prevalent Mental Illness is in our society and people in the church are no exception. In fact, some would argue that religion/church has a role in adversely effecting a person's mental health. This personality disorder is RAMPANT. I am recovering from my experience with a Covert Narcissist. I am still going through moments of shock, confusion, denial and disbelief. When the mask slipped off and the true identity was revealed, it was one of the most frightening experiences of my life. Realizing the person I fell for doesn't even exist, has been painful. It was all a facade, a twisted game. In hindsight, the manipulation, the controlling behavior, the lying, the devaluing was all there but it caught me off guard because the persona he created was the sweetest person I had ever met. Now I understand that the best way to avoid attracting a narcissist is total self love, self acceptance. never look to anyone else for validation, nor is it your job to fix anyone. Fix yourself. Love yourself.

They are excessive talkers, try to lower your self-esteem. Yell and scream, keeps confusion going, then will tell you they have nothing but love in their heart.

The damage can effect the victim to the point of considering suicide.