Am I the A**hole (Vacation Edition) - SimplyPodLogical #148

I don't have problems with kids throwing stuff or behave badly, I have problems with their parents doing nothing with it.

Flight Attendant here! Firstly, I think it’s always best to bring problems or ongoing disagreements with other passengers to the flight crews attention. Especially since there is a continued increase of passenger violence on aircrafts lately. Flight attendants are trained to deescalate situations so always ask us for assistance if you and another passenger are having a disagreement or if they are making you uncomfortable (whatever that may be!) If this passenger brought this to my attention i’d politely ask the mom to make sure the toy stayed in their space and if she couldn’t manage to do that then I’d recommend putting the toy away for the duration of the flight and possibly putting on a children’s movie as an alternative. We also have entertainment kits on board for children that include children’s books, build your own plane models, etc. that we give to kids in these situations to keep them distracted. However, if the problem persists and the length of the flight is long I would try to move the passenger who has been bothered to an empty seat somewhere else on the plane. Usually we will accommodate this passenger with vouchers and offer them free drinks/food for their troubles. Every situation is unique and this job really forces me to use my best judgement on a day to day basis to achieve the safety and comfort of everyone on board. Anyways, I always enjoy your thoughtful and logical takes on these situations. Don’t ever stop! Simply, a Flight Attendants perspective 💅

Sounds like 4 boyfriends is the solution for a lot of these. One to stay with you in the security line, one to keep your other boyfriend company when you travel alone, one to watch your baby on the plane!

Tsa boyfriend getting coffee shoulda made up for the “abandonment” my husband and I both have precheck but if he left me and got me a treat I’d have been happy

Ben: let’s go on vacation Cristine: yes let’s do a collection around it and call it a brand trip

I would definitely not allow my kid to keep throwing a toy on an airplane. If it happened once, the toy goes away. Plus, my 5-year old knows better not to randomly throw stuff. This mother was the unreasonable one for sure. She should have been thankful that the guy picked it up twice and gave it back.

the woman who complains about her man going through precheck without her sounds like a giant child. some people lose their minds though going through airports...

14:19 Actually Ben, Cris is correct. I'm a Brazilian listener and I have no idea what TSA stands for. I had to come to the video to look if there was a visual clue on the meaning. So, yes, context is necessary, mostly because there are many ppl listening that aren't from North America nor native English speakers :)

Restricting a partner using "cheating trauma" after dating someone a month? That is insane. His new 'gf' has to live as bandaid in place of him seeking actual therapy for the rest of their time together? Depressing.

cristine's perspective on helping a partner with their paperwork is so sweet. i get ben's point about sustainability and equal input into a relationship, but as one of those people who get terribly stressed out by all of those travel checks i really appreciated this comment, even though i do think that in this situation it's the girlfriend who is acting unreasonably. (also cristine's looking so radiant with this shirt on! the colors match the earrings so well too.)

I flew alone with my 1.5 year old and my 4.5 year old exactly one time. Since the younger one was under 2, he flew in my lap. When I tell you it was the worst/most stressful flight of my life I'm not exaggerating. I wrestled my toddler the entire trip while the flight attendant kept telling me that I had to hold him in my lap. I couldn't let him down between my legs on the floor. My 4.5 year old was quiet on his tablet the entire 2 hour flight - except he was absent mindedly kicking the seat in front of him. I told him to stop kicking no less than 20 times. He wasn't doing it on purpose. He was just fidgeting without thinking about it. I was sweating through my shirt, because I was so stressed out. I apologized profusely to the people in front of us. I was on the verge of tears. The man in front of my kicking child was so incredibly kind and gracious. He said, "I needed a massage anyways." I cannot tell you how much that meant to me. I still think about it all the years later.

Why do ppl who don’t want or like kids have to be so gentle about saying they don’t like or want kids 😂 I don’t enjoy children… at all. I’d never treat a child badly or poorly but if someone’s kid was throwing toys at me on a plane I’d be pissed… and mortified if it were my kid.

I flew by myself for the first time recently and I'm TERRIFIED of flying. I had a little boy sitting beside me who was just chillin playing with his toy cars and showing them to me and it actually made me alot more comfortable. His mom was worried that he was annoying me but we were just vibing. Most parents on planes are so painfully aware that people are annoyed by kids on flights. As long as the parent is making an attempt to calm down their kid or keep them entertained, its fine.

cristine: “it doesn’t interest me from an excitement perspective” ben: “you could have just said no”

Remember friends, a person looking after their own kids is not babysitting!

About the toy on the plane, i think that the problem is that the mother decided to take away the toy when she had to go to the embarrassment of calling a flight attendant while having no shame for bothering the poster

For the first one it's super disrespect to the friendship - she told, didn't ask the friend & the friend probably was excited for a trip WITH her friend, her experience is going to 100% change - one on one with the friend turned into her almost third wheeling, not like the other girl is just going to leave her BF alone the whole time.

As a parent to an Autistic 2 year old who is famed for throwing stuff everywhere; the guy 100% isn't the AH and the Mom for sure is. Honestly any parent I know would be so grateful that the guy picked it up the first few times and would not have expected him to pick it up at all, not even once; and would have been extremely thankful that he'd helped! Either get over the shame and get the toy yourself(or get a flight attendant to) or don't give a toy that can be thrown.

Story 1 kinda sounds like the friend and her boyfriend just wanted to go on a trip and have OP pay for it.

Thank you Christine for providing context- I don’t know what TSA is😂😂