I Used To Be So Nervous Talking To Women

No joke, this is some of the most real, legitimate advice regarding women I've ever heard. Theo is a national treasure.

I spent a lot of my life worrying if I was good enough when it came to women, while never even bothering to ask myself if they were good enough for me.

"You don't want to end up with someone who doesn't deserve you just because you're afraid to feel like someone does deserve you". I felt that.

Imagine finding a therapist that talks to you like this. You'd be superhuman.

I completely lost my shit when he said "This girl that I was just in love with as a child...I spit in her hair" LMFAO

The Hiroshima line is solid to be fair.

My biggest thing was, I was nervous talking to a woman because of her looks. When stopped looking at women as potential mates, and started just saying so what she's a girl. It became easier to talk to them.

Actively listening also means that you're actually in the moment and paying attention to HER, instead of being all up in your head worrying about what YOU are going to say next, how she perceives YOU, if YOU are going to embarass yourself etc. That type of insecurity is actually a really egotistical and self-absorbed place to be in and it just throws a wrench into the natural flow and vibe of the conversation.

This man has no fear of honesty, thats why he can be so funny.

Theo is such a smooth talker, that it's hard to believe that he used to have trouble talking to women...

Theo Von is somehow the most real person out there, while simultaneously being the most cartoonish guy possible.

I had a crush on a girl on school and pretty sure she noticed me looking and returned a smile. When I had a chance to talk to her my brain completely froze up, panicked and thought say something anything! "Your hair looks funny" "What? Screw you!" and we had an arguement for a few minutes, stormed off and never spoke to each other again. Damn.

Theo Von spitting on a girl he likes because he's too nervous to talk to her is soooooo Theo Von. I'm happy it's Canonical.

PROTIP: if the Hiroshima line bombs, take off your pants and go : It’s Na-ga-na-Saki-itself.

This is great advice. Growing up I had a real hard time talking to girls. I don't think I ever even initiated a conversation to a girl I liked. I always thought they hated me, thought I was ugly etc. I would always go with the ones who approached me and almost all of them turned out bad. A former co worker gave me advice one time that really helped and completely changed me. He told me you're never going to get anywhere if you don't talk to them. That made me start initiating conversations to the girls I liked and it has worked! It shows confidence and it shows you are welcoming them. I've been told I Iook unapproachable so that shows them I am allowing them to engage by initiating a conversation. Everyone has their insecurities and the women you're interested in have their own insecurities so don't like your insecurities stop you.

People worry about outcomes too much; make the conversation itself the goal, rather than something you want outside of it. The truth is that the things that'll make someone great at talking to women, are the same things that'll make them a great conversationalist in general. For example, if you're approaching someone, try not to think about getting their number or setting a date or whatever, make a goal like "by the end of this conversation, I want to know 2 things that make this person uniquely themselves." The less "me" focused you are, the easier conversations become. You should be there to learn, connect and add value, so even if things don't go the way you want, it's an overall positive experience for everyone.

“Listening” is actually such great advice. Generally, women enjoy talking and men enjoy listening. Play to your strengths.

"Do a couple bumbs with you and put on a wig to let you practice " now that's a friend!! 😆

Im autistic, and im also a model, its incredibly painful to think ive been alone with nobody for well over 40 years when the only thing i ever wanted was a gf its awful to think a bit of small talk would have stopped decades of this awful pain, i ignored a stunning woman smiling at me in the supermarket, despite promising myself i would never do that again, and now the pain is unbearable, im so sick of this awful pain, its been with me for decades and its destroying my life ive already missed out on so much, i cant have a family, its cost me my children, my childhood was miserable because i just wanted a gf, and it all would have been solved with a bit of small talk, cant believe it. What a waste of life. All that pain for no reason at all.

You know after finally breaking out of my shell and talking to people confidently it's insane how these things apply to anyone. Women want to be treated as people you interact with daily and just go from there, it truly is all about confidence but we overcomplicate it due to fear. For a lot of guys just talking what's on your mind as long as its appropriate is enough and being curious about people is the key. I love being asked about myself and other people sure as hell do. I hope whoever sees this at least gets out of their shell and just say the words you struggle to say, no more "what ifs"