Anxious Preoccupied Attachment Style

Fuck. This is why my love life is horribly distressing.

0:00: 👶 Individuals with a preoccupied attachment style may have difficulty navigating relationships and seek constant validation. 3:11: 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Busy parents unintentionally cultivate a preoccupied child due to their own needs and erratic behavior. 6:22: 🔑 Attachment style influences both intimate relationships and career choices, with anxious preoccupied individuals seeking validation and avoiding conflict. 9:21: 🧩 Developing independence and a sense of self is important for individuals who are anxious-preoccupied. 12:35: 💆 Deep breathing is a good coping mechanism to calm down anxious parents in front of their kids. Recap by

My mom left when I was four. My dad was funny and present all they way up to her leaving, and then he changed. My dad remarried when I was 6. The new step mom was like Mommy Dearest and always screaming. I usually spend time by myself unless it is work/hobby. I find people to be difficult and selfish. Dating rips my heart out though. I think I fall for whomever comes at me with enough assertion, but then if they pull back at all I feel very upset and like I'm being toyed with.

I was just with an avoidant and got very anxious- but so many of the traits of the attachment style do not apply to me. I don’t need reassurance all the time. I love to be alone. But I do keep trying with people that cross boundaries because I have empathy for their attachment style and issues.

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Great advice Dr. Judy! Thank you

This video is gold.

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Thank you for sharing this particular video guys❤

Thank you so much. very useful information.

Thank you for this ❤ very helpful as I do my inner work! 😊

I can't wait for the fearful avoidant episode

I greatly appreciate all the valuable information!!! This style sits several of my older family members. Seeing the behavior I associate in a much younger person is confusing!

Fantastic video!!!

I would describe my dating and etc. behaviors in my younger years (before and during the years I was married to my now ex-husband) as part of an anxious preoccupied attachment style. And I would say part of how I got drawn in and trapped in that abusive relationship was my (at the time) anxious preoccupied attachment style. I would agree with what was said in this video that regarding that. In my opinion, during my separation and divorce I was able to move out of an anxious attachment style. I say that because I was having casual sex with other men (but I chose to leave them all). I didn’t want any of them to be my boyfriend. Despite this, I definitely know (from my younger years) what an anxious preoccupied attachment style feels like. I am on my own these days (since fall 2020) And I’m not dating/am not involved with anyone and (so far) I feel like I am in a much better place/headspace in general. And I am also in a better headspace for deciding what kind of qualities I am looking for in a future partner. I also appreciate that this video talks about having hobbies at home. I had at least one therapist (years and years ago) recommend hobbies at home but for my mild generalized anxiety. I have picked up craft hobbies at home again recently. I highly recommend them.

I went off by myself after my dad passed, and my sister killed herself over his 11:53 I got in the car and drove, went without a cell phone for 6 months. I spent my whole life at the age of 52 try I ng to get my narcissistic mother to seek her approval. Needless to say, she and her two daughters mi b us one now stoled everything he left me. She made it very clear she didn't like me because I was my fathers daughter. Her daughter just happened to be an accountant. I just signed up to finish my he BA and Maters in the mental health field. I b was actually scouted by Harvard with a full paid scholarship after I became a Phi Theta Kappa. I chose to take care if my family and went to I NOVA Southern University. I have the life experience now to really dive deep. The movie Mommie Dearest, many years ago, I because the main character, the co b trolling mother, was exactly that way to me w I thought sounding like a poor me victim but the daughters name was named Christine. Same as mine. The 11:53 11:53 movie came on ironically not too long ago, and u was able to watch it. I am living b g c that you can heal, stop seeking approval, and that I am a badass to have survived. I never brought my tramictic life experiences to my friends so as to not stress them out. Sometimes, we must get to cwho we truly are by experiencing every human emotion and then some. Not everyone had a safe place during lockdown. We don't always really know what's going on behind closed doors. Just because we had the house in the so-called "right"zip code. The important thing is to recognize no matter what class, color, or belief system should be taken sincerely involving mental health. Immediate mental health needs to be taken more seriously than ever before. Thank you for bringing out these important factors in understanding what is going on with themselves. Mental health knows no boundaries. ❤

What a great conversation to listen in on. Thank you for sharing.

Kyle has got the uber intellectual “mhmm” down pat…😂

I absolutely love this video! I definitely identify with the Anxious Preoccupied Attachment style. I'm not too far out of a 37 year marriage and the first couple of years were almost unbearable. I'm starting to get out and do things by myself and learning how to be more self-sufficient. Since I love music, I'm also starting to learn how to play the guitar which I've always wanted to do but was always preoccupied with everyone elses needs.

Finally an attachment style that sounds like me.... nevermind still anxious avoidant lol