Dr K: "There Is A Crisis Going On With Men!", “We’ve Produced Millions Of Lonely, Addicted Males!”

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There's an African proverb about this: The youth who do not feel the love of the village will burn it to feel it's warmth. You can take it literally or figuratively but the message is quite clear

If you live for the validation of others, you'll die by their rejection.

“As a general rule, I don’t comment on people that I don’t speak to.” How would the world be if more of us lived by that rule?

Listened to Dr K for years. He’s one of the most articulate men I’ve ever heard

The feels got me at the end 😅 Thanks for an awesome convo!

"I don't talk about people that I don't know" he gained my respect.

As a therapist who treats suicidal persons and who works with men, and as a fan of Dr. K, THANK YOU for this interview and dialog. Let's help men.

As a man in my late 30’s, I will say that I have no feelings to harm myself, but I do understand the feeling of having no one to connect to. I have my wife, but she is not the one I lay my burdens on. Men need friends, other men, to connect with as well, but most men have no one.

WOW this guy is tremendous! Zero arrogance, no typical doctor vocabulary which can lead others to feel stupid, he’s kind, wants to meet others where they are at and is truly excellent! I was absolutely impressed. He spoke of his own struggles which makes him human. (I was bullied too as a kid). This guy is the definition of true success. His spirituality without the harsh rules of religion, his modern and down to earth lingo, the passion to really want to understand and help people versus hanging around on some golf course…. Seriously kudos to this guy! I’m a psychiatric nurse. I’ve met many doctors who are horrible people, Not this one.

I can completely relate to this. My oldest son committed suicide a day before my birthday in 2020. He was 22 years old. His external factors were solid in that we've traveled all around the world, he was raised with lots of love, he was close to his family, and had good family support. However, his internal factors were that of great sadness. Sadness that no one could connect with. He felt like a failure, and no matter how much we all tried to get him to see the greatness with in, he didn't see it. Your experience sounds exactly like his! He was a beautiful soul and intelligent young man. I will forever have a void... I miss his presence. Thank you for this very informative interview.

Career failure, debt, having no friends, not being attractive, and almost 50 years of age, the thoughts of wanting to kick the bucket and simply end it have occurred all too frequently, yet I do not want to let failure define who I am or who I would be known as. What is keeping me alive is my will to overcome my failure and not let it define me.

I couldn’t stop crying. I loved Dr. K before, I love him now even more. I’m a father of 3, and I also chose to be attached to my little ones. I never had a functional family. My parents broke up when I was 2. I’m not a perfect father, but I promised myself that my life’s mission would be to give my daughters what I never had. Despite being 40, and being on Elvanse, I do have addiction problems (gaming). Meditation might be the key to solve my hurdles.

I'm a 61-year-old woman and I grew up in that "you're not allowed to complain" household. I'm still sorting myself out, and the past decade has been very healing for me thanks to online access to works from people like Dr. Kanojia. Both my parents drank themselves to death which means that they were also suffering but were "not allowed" to feel. It's definitely not a new thing, and it is generational trauma. I'm glad that it's finally being brought to light.

When he said "some people have work on one screen, porn on the other" is so accurate to my circumstance that it makes me want to cry. I have watched porn daily for almost 15 years, and this year for Lent I've decided to give it up. On DR.K's video "What makes porn addiction so dangerous" I left a comment going into detail about how much the first few days giving up porn sucked. I'm on day 23, I feel great, and I will get through this. I will not allow my addiction to control me any longer. Edit: Day 40 Early February I told myself “There is nothing wrong with my porn habit because I’m hurting no one.” 5-6 weeks later and I feel confident that I will not allow porn to trap me anymore. I have found a new appreciation for my existence, and a new appreciation for life. Road rage has ended. I’m not lying to myself or to others every opportunity I get. This mindset of, “Fuck the world and fuck everyone in it” is finally coming to an end. Anxiety and stress is still there, but nowhere near as bad as it was the weeks before. Lent isn't over yet, there is still a few days left; but I believe these 6 weeks of being porn-free has made an amazing change in my life. To anyone who has ever asked themself, "Am I addicted to porn?" May this comment be one of your first steps into you wanting to make a change.

When you were talking about meditiation techniques for people with ADHD, I actually got cold shivers and yelled out loud, it made so much sense to me what you said. It made me realize that this technique you explained I have already been applying often to help me fall asleep, or to refocus my mind when I am having bad thoughts. To hear you explain so precisely what it is that I had already been doing felt eye opening. I never really believed much in meditation before, and in a few sentences you not only opened that door for me but made me realize I was already walking through it.

He's articulated so many things I was thinking but was unable to identify by myself. While addressing so many things that most people miss. This put a lot of things into perspective for me. Awesome guest!

The longest study on happiness was done for around 80 years, and, surprise, surprise (not really), meaningful connections, love from friends, family and/or partners are the most deciding factors when it comes to happiness. Seeing how difficult it is for many people to establish connection due to a plethora of issues as well as addiction to technology, no wonder their mental health deteriorates plus the predispositions for mental health illnesses.

Back in 2020 I subscribed to Healthy Gamer GG because I originally thought he was a gaming content creator that made mental health breakdowns on the side. As I began to watch more of his content I realized just how toxic I treated myself and body. Now thanks to this random Dr. on YouTube my headspace is 100x better than 2020! ❤

Dr. K is such an impossibly passionate and brilliant mind of our time. This interview is honestly the best interview I have ever seen. You gave Dr. K so much space and freedom to communicate what he needed to. I have endless appreciation for you both.