Therapist Reveals How to Stop Telling Yourself Negative Thoughts | Marisa Peer
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Published 2020-12-02
You’ve been lying to yourself. Yes, everyday in the privacy of your own mind, you tell yourself lies over and over again. Most of the time, these lies are destructive and push your thoughts into negative places, thus bubbling up bad emotions and causing you to feel sad, depressed, anxious, frustrated, or angry. Well, it’s time to make a change—to start lying to yourself in a positive way. It’s time to stop criticizing yourself and start praising yourself instead.
On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by hypnotherapist, founder of rapid transformational therapy, speaker, and bestselling author Marisa Peer to discuss such matters and more as they explore ways to stop telling yourself destructive lies and begin speaking to yourself in a positive and uplifting way that informs your thoughts and behaviors to change for the better.
They discuss why the thoughts you create dictate your emotions and behaviors, the power of connecting your mind and body, why you need to confront your thoughts head on and discover the root cause of them, why you have to begin telling yourself positive lies, why creating stories in your head is dangerous, how our thoughts influence our relationships, what RTT is and the power it has, how childhood trauma and lack of our needs being met influences us as adults, and why it’s okay to mess up time and time again.
SHOW NOTES:
Intro | Lisa introduces and welcomes today’s guest, Marisa Peer. [1:53]
Feelings | Marisa discusses why your thoughts dictate and influence your feelings. [2:59]
Thought Pattern | Marisa reveals how to disrupt your thought negative patterns. [4:43]
Body Connection | Marisa discusses the power of connecting your thoughts to your body. [6:07]
Ask Yourself | Marisa reveals why you need to question your beliefs and their origins. [11:13]
Needs | Marisa shares the needs of children and what happens if they’re not met. [13:10]
It Has to be You | Marisa shares why the thoughts you tell yourself must come from you. [15:38]
Relationships | Marisa reveals why you should never threaten someone as a game. [18:55]
Lying to Yourself | Marisa discusses the story you create for yourself in your head. [22:40]
What Lies Beneath | Marisa shares how to address the root cause of destructive habits. [26:21]
RTT | Marisa reveals how she treats other’s emotional pain fast and permanently. [28:54]
Role, Function, Purpose | Marisa discusses how your issues have a job and function. [33:33]
Children | Marisa discusses why you have to be very careful of what you say to kids. [37:04]
Inner Child | Marisa discusses how our problems can be traced back to childhood. [40:23]
Parenting | Marisa shares how you should approach parenting or treating children. [42:31]
Connect | Marisa shares where you can keep in touch and follow her for more advice. [43:02]
QUOTES:
“Thoughts dictate feelings. Your feelings dictate your actions, and your actions dictate your events.” [2:10]
“We have this fear that rejection will kill us. It won’t. It feels like it will, but it won’t.” [25:44]
“…you have to keep going into expansion yourself. And when you move your mind into new dimensions, it never moves back. But it goes back again, you have to do it yourself. You can’t give someone else the agency to make you feel good about you.” [32:33]
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Facebook: facebook.com/marisa.peer.therapy
Twitter: twitter.com/MarisaPeer
All Comments (21)
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I am a guy, very male, and this is one of my very fav channels !!! Thanks for being!!
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To that special person reading this: from the bottom of my heart, and every cell of me, I pray for out of this world happiness for you that you soon cry out of joy! You deserve every happiness! You deserve every raindrop of blessings. I uploaded a really deep story of mine yesterday on my channel fighting mental illness, raising 8 kids under age 12 and creating videos is HARD. But i am passionate to uplift lives. keep believing in yourself where ever you are
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I KNOW God used this channel and Marisa Peer to change my life. After listening to her and other episodes of WOI I finally fell in love with my own self at age 34. I have been rejected my whole life by both my parents, sister and men. My mother has always been extremelly abusive and I grew up hearing her say she should have aborted me, that I am a piece of shit and that she wishes I die. And I believed that, until few weeks ago when God finally set me free from that internal rejection. Today I love myself, I accept myself and I know I am beautiful, enough, important and loved by God! Every night before I fall asleep I say out loud 10 beautiful things about myself. And when I wake up I say out loud "I love myself" and I look at the mirror and say "good morning marvelous". Thank you Marisa and Lisa for your beautiful work.
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Always I was the "perfect girl", the smart one at school and university in my country. Now I am living in Germany and I feel like a total failure, going through heavy anxiety and even depression sometimes because I still want to be the perfect one, the best at the university here. But that is irreal because here is full of smart people, and I feel so tiny. It's so good to have this kind of interview from which we can learn and relearn how our brain works and how feelings and thoughts really affect the reality we create day by day. Thank you very much for this great interview.
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Marissa has developed a great skill at cutting through the bullshit and stripping things of their excuses. It is a clarity that isn't taught in traditional psychology counselling much to everyone's loss.
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I realize my negative thoughts come from my childhood and I struggle daily. right now I feel like I'm in a fight with my mind that hits me from out of no where. In my mind I am screaming. I sometimes don't sleep at night. Now, I have come across this video and I am watching with the hope of understanding ME and the HOPE of BREAKING away for those negative thoughts that stick like S**t.
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Shes nothing short of amazing . Years of therapy all in one video. 🥰🥰🥰
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I am right in the middle of changing my thoughts to change my reality. Thank you for this interview. I'm going to start telling myself all of the thoughts that I want to manifest.
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We cannot suppress an emotion, but we can change the thought that is the source of it. We can change what to focus on 👀. We can control what we tell ourselves repeatedly and use empowering language💪🏽🔥. Thank you, Lisa, I love Marisa’s work. Much love to all of you ❤️❤️❤️.
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Lisa, you have inspired me to actually start my own YouTube channel to support women find happiness & make money online ❤️
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It’s so true that the mind is so powerful. Thoughts are real because it’s what you’ve allowed your mind to think.. garbage in garbage out .. good in and good out! so then control what and who you let in. Very powerful concept for living our lives to the full positive of its capacity 🤓🤗
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Great episode! Really loved this, for someone who suffers with depression and can't afford to go see someone videos like this are a god sent! 🙏
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I feel sisterhood through this channel 💖💖💖 some very profound vibes. I especially come to see your channel when I feel like changing my life for good and the first thing I search on youtube is Women of Impact ❤
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This saved me , i just got rejected yesterday
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So I was born in 1970. I'm of Italian American ancestry...we did not talk back. Ever. Nobody wants the wooden spoon. So now I have teenage boys. I'm trying to teach them how to speak up, discuss their preferences in a way that gets heard, is effective. Quite challenging, indeed, to parent in a way one was never parented. It's like Marissa says, what happens when your kid is 15 and their friends want to make questionable decisions? Thank you, Lisa & #TeamLisa for getting this message out there today.
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The best thing about Lisa is that she is a good listener
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Thank you so much for this, between Marisa Peer and Dr. Ramani Im getting the therapy I could never have afforded. Again thank you so much 🙏❤🙏❤🙏
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love her ♥ she's so intelligent, poised and has her shit together ♥ all the while being non judgmental, kind and nurturing ♥
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Marisa Peer is an intriguing speaker I need to find more of her work!
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After the conversation I had with my ex, I REEEEAAAALLY needed this video. Thank you sooo much
