The 3 KEY SIGNS That Relationship Will Last! (How To Find Love) | Lewis Howes & Jay Shetty

“Stop trying to find the right person; be the right person. Instead of being with someone who makes you happy, first be someone who makes you happy.” – Jay Shetty 💛

"If they're always with you, then they cant bring anything to you." this just changed a perception, thank you.

My parents were together for 66 years. I never saw them argue, or even disagree about anything. My father adored my mother and did everything for her until he died.

“Are we growing together, are we thriving together, and are we learning from each other?” Love this because these are important elements to have in a relationship to me.

Remove sex, money and children..... if you can still be together, love each other and have some things in common without those, that means you have a real authentic true connection! The rest are just extra perks that makes things fun! 😉😉😉

My bf and I have conversations on every topic. We are both planners by nature and prefer full transparency. He recently shared that a few nights ago he was in the middle of his evening prayer and began crying tears of joy. He proceeded to list all the things he is receiving from me and our relationship and what warmed my heart the most is when he said peace. I give him peace. We are both faith filled and I responded that God will see us through this and everything happening within this relationship is all blessings from His plan. Obviously, it's a daily decision we make to ensure others respect our relationship. So I'm enjoying your conversation on various topics. Thank you both and keep moving forward.

You can never know another person - all people help you with their strengths and hurt you with their weaknesses. True love is unconditional love. Unconditional love is real but rare. True love is self love - love from outside yourself is BONUS LOVE! You don’t find love, you create love!

“I’ve learned so much more being committed to one person than I think I would have being single for the last 10 years” I always had destination addiction, happiness is always in the next relationship, next job, next location and I finally decided to commit to a relationship for 3 years and the deep connection, growth and intimacy that brought even though it didn’t work out is something I will always be grateful for and we got to carry it into a beautiful friendship. Also I’m with someone now who even when it is hard or frustrating I just want to heal and repair it with him and rarely if ever find myself thinking it would be better with someone else.

This was so great. Would love to have the ladies (Rathi and Martha) included as well in the next episode to view their perspectives on topics such as this - to see how males and females look at values, relationships, etc differently/similarly. 💛

Don't leave it to discussing your relationship ONCE a year! We have a weekly heart-to-heart-session - it seems like real work, which it is! But so worth it! We've only met in our early seventies, and believe in this practise so deeply. The scheme: each one gets 30 minutes to talk about what he/she feels about the relaionship over the last 7 days (the listening partner is just listening, never commenting yet). Then it's " open commenting and discussion with open end". So honest, conscious, connecting - simply so worth engaging in it regularly. Try it with commitment - and you'll be reconnecting and nourishing your relationship. It has become such an enriching habit we intend never to give up as it is so rewarding.

I was married happily for 50 years with the same person. We had to change and understand that we were different people as we grew up and had our children. We had to find each other again and fall in love all over again but with the same person. We had arguments and had difference of opinion but we worked things out. He sadly died when he was 71 and now I’m seeing a person who we love spending time together going out but nothing too heavy we are spiritually aligned but not a full relationship

I like the high engagement, low attachment approach and checking in regularly to see if the relationship is going in a way where both people are happy or there's anything that could be improved. Super interesting and helpful. Thank you both ♥️

some videos on YT say that there's only 1 sign but i definitely do not agree with them - they say only sex expereince . yes, i mean it's important but really the only sign? no! and i love those that say that and then just take their spanish fly enhancer and say it was their energy but actually wasn't as we know now after those drops

This conversation made me and my big sister had a 5 hours discussion. I think I learnt the whole wrong thing about relationships. And, this is a stepping stone for me. I am very grateful for this episode.

'I need to think about it' is many people's way to not talk about a subject and ignore it completely.

Yes. It is possible to have a long relationship with one person but it takes those two people to make it With Honor, respect, maturity, caring for the other as much as you care for yourself compassion, open-mindedness and expressing their passion to each other whenever possible.

Loved listening to you both. My marriage broke up after 24 yrs with a very messy & painful ending Looking back I see my mistakes. I thought I could hold it together for both of us. Earlier we were mutually invested but for the latter years I knew my husband was not invested. It takes 2 wills. Mistake number 2 was that I didn't really hear him when he wanted out. I kept trying to convince him to stay. This destroyed my self esteem & really was not respectful to me or him. In the end he totally sabotaged & killed our relationship so repair was not possible. It really hurt & created more trauma to add too my childhood wounds of feeling unlovable & wanting my partner to heal with me. Here are my realisations 4 years later Self respect & integrity are key to everything Self love includes ALL parts of myself lovable or not lovable. I bring love & compassion to all parts but do my best to ACT from my most enlighten self Wound healing takes time Now I see that my husband was not as committed to openess & growth. He was spilling out his pain. That's where he was. I took it instead of setting boundaries so self betrayal. Now I catch this in myself & am true to myself even if I may loose someone as a result Those that stay stay because we are committed to growing together Dating I'm very fussy. If I don't see we have potential for depth & integrity it's not for me Meanwhile I have created a new & peaceful life. I'm building work that is fulfilling & heart centered helping others with their healing & spiritual journey. I hope to write a book with the keys to wellness. That's still to come My relationship with my grown up children has become healthier & deeper & I know my X & I are both commited to them. I surround myself with loving supportive friends I don't find myself fighting because there is so much more clarity & service to love. We can find our way without a fight. If a misunderstanding occurs there is quick repair so toxicity is very reduced. All in all I'm so grateful for what I've learned from challenging or beautiful experiences in life & so grateful for these enlightening podcasts Still have work to do overcoming my limited beliefs but now love & compassion leads the way not self hate

Hands down one of my favorite podcasts / vidoes on right now. I’ve gotten so much out of it, I’ve watched a couple times in pieces and shared with everyone. I love how natural it is and the advice is amazing. It’s nice to get both ends of opinions / life experience too - he’s married for 10 years and you’re newly in a relationship so it’s cool to see the pros and “ cons “ of each. Love love love love love this podcast with him in it!!!!!!! Fav ever

Everything that was shared by both of you was a powerful insight within self and how we think successful relationships can last.. all by honoring self, giving your best and accepting your partner for who they are and bring to the relationship. I’ve heard it said many times that a couple are TWO individuals coming together as ONE. Listening to this podcast from two well known male individuals made it easier for me to understand how important that concept can jumpstart and continue a loving successful relationship for the long term. I even felt comfort in hearing that as time passes and your not in alignment and the relationship ends, that’s ok too because having self love is what keeps you going and the love you carry within yourself will attract the right person❤️. Thank you both. Great podcast!

i enjoyed how real and vulnerable that you both are and you both know what you want in your life that serves you and what doesn't and you are not afraid to speak up and speak out. High engagement and low attachment was huge!