3 Signs He's Not Serious About You

It's so obvious but the heart doesn't often want to hear it. Ladies we need to make better choices

Another sign I notice if someone is not asking questions to get to know who you are from the start, they don’t feel the need to invest in who you are. They do not ask because they genuinely don’t care.

When you meet the right person, it’s actually so easy to be with them because they want to be with you, too. Your heart is at peace instead of flipping about. The body knows. The soul absolutely knows. 💙💙💙

1. Inconsistency in communication and energy. 2. unwilling to project into the future. You only exist in then now. 3. You get the sense that you are standing still. I don’t know what we are and where we are going. Do they like me? It’s the wrong question. Do I see genuine progress? This is the better question. Create your own relationship culture. What do I say in early dating? How do I deal with my energy ?

It may seem weird that I am 72 years old, happily married for decades, and follow Mathew. It's because much of what he says about dating is really talking about who we are as humans, and the work we all have to do to understand, accept and stand up for ourselves. Also, he is a great communicator and teacher. I learn from every video and from every comment. Thanks to this community

If someone never discusses their intentions in dating and just wants to "go with the flow"

"Someone can like you and not be capable of having a commited, strong relationship" My recent experiences with women. I couldn't sigh any more heavily.

if your going on a date and they always on their phone its already a RED Flag.

Yes, the problem is often not "does he like me" because if he's in your life and talking to you, he's definitely interested and likes you. But just because someone likes you, doesn't mean they have any intentions with you to make it into something real. When they want to be with you, you will know, it will be easy and progress easily for the both of you.

"Enjoying the experience" is a nice way to say "they just enjoy your attention" 😅

Recently dated someone from online dating, they showed interest and messaged every day, but I noticed after a few weeks/dates they were not matching my energy or initiating dates. So I lowered my energy too, and I’ve now moved on

I so felt this way in my last relationship. I was trained not to ask abt the future. Trained not to ask where things are going. I was forced to focus on the now. I ended things after 2 months when nothing was progressing. Cut him off so fast because nothing was built, nothing was deepening and it just didnt matter that much.

I think the other side of the spectrum from sign #2 is also a telling sign: if they are unable to live in the now and is always projecting into the future. If someone wants your future version instead of what they have in front of them … run. They are wanting the experience of feeling good by projecting their fantasies into you.

#2 ruined my last relationship. Despite his age, he didn't know what he wanted and he never planned his future. He couldn't commit. He wasn't honest with himself so all this came out months later. I did everything right. He treated me superbly until he sabotaged it with poor mental health and now we broke up and he's going to figure himself out... hopefully.

The flashbacks this brings back! I think a lot of it is a lack of self-esteem. We stay on a dead end, road with a person because deep down inside we don’t think we can find a new person to be interested in us. There is better out there and you have to believe you are worthy of it.

There are so many people who "like" me. But none of them "want" me (in the totalistic sense of the world.) I'm so tired. I've spent so many years working on myself to be in a much better place and a better relational partner. But I can't make the outside world more attracted to me. I think some people are just too much to commit to, and I have to make sense of what that means in my life and find meaning elsewhere. But at least I won't waste my time or be used anymore. That's a plus.

I just ended a situationship with someone whom I realised when things became stagnant. He says his good mornings and good nights to me everyday but I can't help but wonder where this is going. So we had the converation and it ended with a lack of spark and things being just routine where we will meet every 1-2 weeks instead of really being in each others' life like Matt mentioned. Now it's back to looking a better one and hopefully the one.

I recently asked where it was going. He said he couldn’t see a long term relationship. I broke it off. End scene.

That #1 is honestly one of the biggest and easiest signs. I think even more for women from men. Men will go out of their way to make sure they communicate with you daily, somehow someway, when they truly like you.

OK, long story short, ex was showing all these signs yet we stayed together out of convenience. No need to put the blame on him or me. I was consciously playing down each and every sign. Finally we broke up after 7 years. 3 years later I met my love. The man that never made me wonder. The man that I met his friends asap and his parents 2 months in the relationship . The person that is really interested in you, man or a woman, they just show it. They prove it with every action every day. As soon as a person makes you wonder if they are really into you....just run