Want More From Someone? DON'T CHASE & Do This Instead... | Matthew Hussey

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If someone ghosts you, respect the dead and move on

it's crazy how much power a man you didn't even know 3 weeks ago can have over your emotions and mental health.... I was fine before I met him, I'll be fine without him.

If he wants you, he’ll make sure you know. If he’s playing around and making you feel confused, he isn’t serious with you.

Men are simple. Men go after women they want with true intention. If a woman is confused about where she stands with a man that’s all she needs to know. Confusion means he’s not interested….period! Men do not need help pursing women they ACTUALLY want. Take heed!

2:30 "Instead of watching the story unfold, we've created the story before it's happened." That's fire right there.

Heavens!! Ladies, all we need to remember is: if a man likes, you will know it. If he doesn't, you will be confused. It is that simple.

How about instead of "reading into things" or overthinking and worrying about what the other person is thinking or doing or feeling, we just be honest with each other. Jesus christ, the games people play.

When I met my husband I literally "interviewed" him to see if we were compatible. Values, beliefs, moral standards are what keeps you together through all of life's difficult moments.

If a man wants you,you'll know.....period if not you're not the one!😮😢 Don't chase people who are going away have some respect for yourself. It hurts but chasing isn't the answer

all my romantic relationships have been built on stories, fantasies of what I want the other person to be and not reality and its taken me 40-years to realize this. This was a great video to show me the process that relationships need to go through to become something real. Thank you!

I find as a woman that often guys give mixed messages because they throw u enough attention to get u into bed, but then not enough for pursuing a relationship, which becomes clearer as it unfolds but gives one hope initially.

Love this, "if my reaction is hysterical, then it is historical". Stay present, let the real story unfold, without filling in the details. Simple truths can change everything!!! Love this!

Good points and so true! Have to keep these stages in mind. 1. Admiration 2. Mutual connection/ chemistry 3. Commitment/ both saying yes 4. Compatibility ❤

I learned the hard way that if a man is Going back and fourth with you. One day he’s interested and the next day it’s like your invisible the reason behind that is because the person who he really wants has now become available and your on the sidelines. When he was available for me it’s because the girl who he was actually truly pursuing had rejected him for that moment and I was “available” men are simple. They go for what they want and use the one (if you allow it) who is craving there attention. Not all are users but that confusion and complicated situation I found myself in the answer was truly crystal clear. Guys don’t offer confusion to the woman they truly want to be with.

I was needing to hear those words today. Stop chasing and be the chased. Thank you ♡

I am SO tired of hearing people say that if something hurts your feelings, it is because you must have unresolved trauma in your childhood. How about being ghosted by someone you are consistently talking to, dating, and possibly sleeping with, at any point in a relationship, is traumatic and horrible! Stop invalidating the feelings, experiences, and expectations of women!

I am seeing this guy and we have a amazing connection that we both have noted. I've been celibate for a few years we did the "dance" amazing. After I felt a little confused on what "this" was and I might have traded in my celibacy for uncertainty. Well without me even mentioning anything( as it's my problems) he told me how he felt, he made his feeling completely clear for me. We now know what it is❤❤. When a man wants something with you he will make his feelings, plans and desires very clear.

I let my ex leave and live his life and I went on to live mine. I learned to accept that I may be alone for ever and became ok with that. 2-3 yrs later, he came back and showed tremendous changes in behavior from the way he was treating me before. Turns out he went and dated someone much worse than me and realized how good he had it with me. Now he’s doing everything right.

5:02 slow down the story happening inside the brain by valuing the work that has been done in real life, don't value the potential. 5:38 4 stages of importance in potential relationship. 1) Admiration- not important, 2) Mutual Connection/ Chemistry- not important, 3) Commitment, saying yes to be in a relationship- not important, 4) Compatibility- important