Doctor Gabor Mate: The Shocking Link Between Kindness & Illness!

Probably one of the most fascinating experts I’ve ever had the honour of speaking to is back in today’s episode - safe to say my mind was blown once again. If you enjoyed this conversation could you do us a favour and HIT that like button on the video! Helps us a lot ❤ share your favourite part of the convo below 👇🏾

If you don’t make time for wellness, you’ll be forced to make time for illness. Big part of wellness is setting boundaries.

Love his point about men looking for a mother, and then leaving women who finally stand up for themselves, to find a woman who hasn't learned to stand up for herself yet. What a great point.

Truth! If you can’t afford therapy, educate yourself, empower yourself. No one else will.

" we cant form healthy relationships until we have learned to be alone " so true

When I grew up my mother used to say children should been seen but not heard. Ugh. It has taken me most of my 74 years to speak up for myself. Thank you for your compassion.

Dr. Mate is the only man I've ever heard admit that most men want their women to accommodate to them, to be the only one who changes in the relationship, instead of taking responsibility for their own emotional development. Thank you! Thank you!! THANK YOU!!!

Thank you for a fascinating conversation. Emotionally, physically and sexually abused by a parent with RAD and who was a sociopath, I am a non-smoker who at 65 was diagnosed with NSCL cancer, stage 4. The discussion and reference to NSCL cancer cancertoday rang all of my bells. I am still a “pleaser” but I have found my “voice.” And, when my date of anticipated death was pronounced by excellent oncologists, God made a way. Two ORAL medications inactivated the cancer. In May, I will have survived SIX years, instead of the few months I was given in 2018.

I'm 80 years old and this video above just drastically changed my life!!!!!!!!!!!!! If I could write a thousand thank you's here I would, right now! Only recently by watching youtube videos about adhd, I've learned that I"ve had all the symptoms all my life and have carried tons of guilt because I never could "fit in" with "normal" people even though I tried so hard to. Suddenly you explained that not ever being hugged as a child, and being ignored by my parents as I grew up, and hearing the cruel arguing my parents hurt each other with, caused me to learn how to "zone out" under any stressful circumstances, and so hyperfocusing on favorite subjects also takes me away from facing head on with any perceived difficulties. I won't take time to mention all the other ADHD symptoms. Suddenly, I completely understand why I am the way I am, and that it's NOT MY FAULT! What a shock and at the same time, what a relief! Now at last I can begin healing. Whew!

I met him going through rehab in 2018 and he also interviewed us at the women's recovery house a few months later. I have read his book "In the realm of hungry ghosts" prior and that was the very beginning of my spiritual journey of recovery and self-love. Been clean and solid for 4 years now.

I was taught to not speak and keep your eyes down. My mother was Cree, and we were dirt poor. My father was an Irish alcoholic who hated anyone of colour... we were beaten and scorned at school and at home. I had to find forgiveness or my life would have probably ended years ago. At 60 I can honestly say, that self love and understanding you are not your parents trauma nor their parents (as Gabor states) find peace, find balance and don't take any crap from anyone is my motto, especially after menopause! I am here for a very long time to come, I am living proof you can change your life. Think good thoughts, eat whole clean foods, sleep well and exercise, lift heavy weights and walk!!! Thanks, guys! ❤

Dr. Mate said there is a correlation between “niceness” and cancer NOT kindness and cancer. These are 2 very very different things. One can be both nice and kind at the same time but nice is just how others perceive someone. Kind is a quality of character.

Dr. Gabor Mate, is a human being, his humanness is raw, honest and sincere.

This session won my subscription. I had a surgery 3 months back. Immediately after my surgery, I read and listened to Gabor Mate's "When the Body Says No". I cried so deeply because his book struck my core. I understood immediately what caused my current state of being. After a time of reflection and a deep desire to heal and recuperate, I made a difficult decision to leave my work and cut down losses in my relationships. It is a deeply scary move but I felt lighter and at peace as a result.

My mother was a very kind woman who lived to a healthy old age. She was also strong and capable of expressing her anger. She was also rational and well educated and used anger to put a stop to stupid, mean or unjust behavior or to get a problem out in the open so it could be resolved. For instance, she once burst into the office of the President of her huge corporation, looked right in the eye, and said, "You cheap bastard." He was startled but had the sense to ask, "What's the matter?" They had a civil rational conversation regarding the policy announced that day that a person's years of part time work would not count towards the company's pension. After their conversation there was an announcement the next day that part time work would count towards the company's pension.

I'm so happy to see in these comments that people love Dr Mate as much as I do! What a great human. Thank you 🤍

Gabor is brilliant. I am on a journey to self-enlighten after being diagnosed with Bipolar, ADHD and other Disorders at 36. The biggest change was applying some of what Gabor said, letting go of my emotions, being self-aware, learning, focusing on my mental and physical health. I turn 41 next month and listening to podcasts like this gives me hope.

This is so true! A few years ago I went through a very tough year where our family suffered from lots of stressful events and I tried to be kind and calm and keep everyone together with a smile on my face but inside I felt very overwhelmed. I didn't know who to talk to so I kept everything bottled up and then I suddenly got very sick, I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease (psoriatic arthritis) told that it was very aggressive and that the only treatment was to take very harmful drugs to suppress my immune system. I was very ill, I started taking the methotrexate 2 days a week, my fingers were so disfigured and painful that I could barely use them and I'm an artist so that was even more difficult and then I realised that this was all caused by my mind. I started to meditate, I became a vegan, and one evening I was talking to my husband and suddenly found myself crying and told him that I was afraid he would leave me if I was sick (my dad left my mom when she was sick when I was very small). I remember saying "I'm scared you won't want me if I'm not useful" and he laughed and gave me a big hug and said "Who said you've ever been useful? I don't love you because you're useful I love you for you" and then a miracle happened. I never realised that I was trying to be helpful and kind and useful all the time because I was afraid of being left and in that moment it felt like a festering splinter that had been there all my life was finally pulled out and I felt light and free. It's been five years, I am living the most amazing life, I feel free, I am 100% healthy. My husband and I are having an amazing adventure together, this year we moved half way across the world and every day feels exciting and new. Thank you both for this brilliant video life is beautiful xxx

Can this guy get a noble peace prize please! just the fact that he makes us seem understood is tremendously healing....

This is so spot on, when I started to say no and stop people pleasing I thrived, I stopped getting sick all the time, and what is very interesting my StepFather died of ALS and he always dropped everything to help people and please people. This was so mind blowing to watch, when I started to think about me and what I need and stopped worrying about being liked my life honestly changed, Thank you Dr Gabor you have made me think about more growth I have todo.