Narcissistic Relationships | Hidden Signs

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10 year marriage of this, he controlled my weight, what I ate, how I did my hair, how I dressed. I was his little puppet. Educated myself and I left him. 🙏🏾 went back to uni, law degree, good job, single mum. Happier🙌🏾

I am healing and beginning to survive and thrive. I just got accepted to graduate school at 53!

Only 2 months free of the narcissist & he is hoovering hard. My no contact is devastating for him. I’m listening to Dr. Ramani every day to stay strong and sane. Thank you, doc. You are the GOAT.

Ended a 14 year marriage of this, and I can say it is so much harder to realize you’re in it than you think. If you’re going through this know that there is light on the other side and you are so so loved. This relationship does not have to be a life sentence. You can get out. I love you! ❤❤❤

I am a survivor from a covert narcissist. I was married for 31 years. Since I left, I received my bachelors degree in psychology and working in a masters in clinical mental health counseling. I want to help victims become survivors from these toxic relationships. It feels so good to be free!!

At the beginning of any relationship we should take a quiet moment and say to ourselves...”I was Sam before I met Mark; and I’ll be Sam after he’s gone”. NEVER lose yourself in a relationship.

I would say the first sign will come from your own gut feeling which will send signal to your body telling you that this person doesn't make you feel comfortable being around him/her. The fact that you are already asking this question should alert you to be careful. Something will feel off and you won't know what it is exactly. Covert narcissists can act very charming in the beginning but there will be often also present underlying sense of superiority about them. That sense is actually deriving from them feeling insecure about themselves, so they tend to quietly degrade others in order to feel better about themselves. On the other hand if covert narcissist feels that you are above his league, he will act like your servant, trying to please you - almost annoying in a way. But make no mistake. If you decide to stay in a relationship with him, he will downgrade you and abuse you like all the others. Because in his mind, if you love him, he thinks you are unworthy of him. Covert narcissists hate themselves so if someone loves them, than they think this person is worth less than them and that they can do better. Other sign to look for is any kind of judgment towards others. If he criticises other frequently, he will more likely criticise you as well once he gets more comfortable around you. Pay attention to how he treats people that are dependent on him as well. Narcissists hate those especially if they can't get anything of of that for themselves. Moreover, Cheating in marriages is not restricted to only men. Women cheat as much as men do. If you're suspecting your wife of infidelity, you'll have to keep an eye on her of her without her knowledge of her. One of the best ways to know if your spouse cheats on social platforms is by paying close attention to how your spouse behaves while online. The signs are pretty the same. Is your spouse more time on the app without explanation and gets unnecessarily defensive when you ask about it? If your spouse behavior has changed lately, and continues to spend more time on social apps, it's time for you to take action, with the help of a private investigator (suggested; METASPYHUB@GMAIL. COM , you can find out what is taking all their time on social apps, who they are talking to and other things happening,,

Just got out of a narcissistic relationship of 10 years this March. The worst thing she ever did which I only discovered last month. She told me she was pregnant (knowing how much I've wanted to be a father). She told me not to tell anybody about it until after the first trimester. Because I know it's a common thing I said nothing. When it came close to the first trimester being over, my foreman on my worksite saw me smiling to myself and asked me what I was smiling about. I hesitated and finally just said, "I'm gonna be a dad." I went home and told my wife that I'd told my foreman. I didn't think it was a problem, because he had no relation to anything in our personal lives. She got angry and said I shouldn't have said anything. Her specific words were, "What if you told someone and now something happens?" I said, "Why would something happen? It's not just gonna go wrong because I said something." The very next day she called me crying frantically that her stomach was hurting and she was bleeding everywhere and she was at the hospital. Immediately I left work and drove as fast as I could to the hospital. I should've noticed back then, but when I had arrived she wasn't crying nor did she even appear to have been crying before. Later on she said to me, "You weren't as sad about losing that baby as I was." Looking back at the situation I realize, I don't believe that she was ever even pregnant at all. That kind of stuff breaks your heart. For four years I mourned over a child that never existed.

I am a survivor! I was married to a narcissist for 20 years. I was financially dependent on him, as he talked me into retiring. The final straw was 5 months of the silent treatment.I packed up, took my dog and cat and moved in with my daughter and her family. Now 6months later I am working full time, I just got my own apartment.and am beginning to recognize that person in the mirror again.

It doesn’t surprise me that growing up with narcissists would lead me into three or four relationships with narcissists. You end up fighting for validation of even the simplest things and it never arrives.

Survived 26 years with a narcissist and I felt like Dr. Ramani was describing my marriage. I've been in a wonderful relationship with a good man for 3.5 years, have the best job with the highest pay I've ever had, and am happier than ever. It hasn't been all roses since leaving, but my life has been immeasurably better in every way.

I survived narcissistic parents, major damage was done by my mother as I was the eldest sibling and the only daughter. made it out of home by 16, but had to go no contact in my mid twenties after a major depression episode that nearly killed me, during which I had to stay at my parents where my mom's abuse hit its darkest and I was encouraged regularly to suicide. it took me 28 years to be able to date, and in despite of all the knowledge and awareness I gained through therapy and self learning, I landed a covert narcissist (just like my dad), I recognized his behaviors early on but doubted my judgment, but after our first anniversary I ended the relationship. now i'm 30, part of me is grateful for overcoming the both experiences, and the other part is so bitter and sad for my lost 20's. I feel like I'm starting my 30's building everything from scratch, but I hope that this decade I will do better.

I put Mayo on my sandwich for the first time in almost 20 years! I’m remembering who I used to be

Dr Ramani should be awarded by the president of United States of America

I am a survivor of narcissistic abuse. I felt like I had forgotten who I was. Now I know myself better than before. I went on to graduate from nursing school with honors and actually figured out that I am good at painting and drawing which is now my favorite hobby! These videos is what helped me to heal. When I started watching these YouTube videos it was like a light bulb went off in my head and I finally understood that I wasn’t the failure he made me out to be and that I never would have been able to do anything right in his eyes. Knowledge really is power.

I left my narcissist husband a few months ago. We were married for eight years. It seems I even forgot how to be happy. I am glad I got the strength to leave. His words were terrible. He told me I can never get anyone better than him. Now, I am healing, beginning to rediscover myself again and I am also enjoying life with my three daughters.

When she gave the example of the cat on a blanket and said “oh, I can go back to school!” It brought tears to my eyes. 18 years of narcissistic abuse and now I’m free… and will be graduating from college in 82 days 🥳

If googling keeps giving you narcissistic abuse explanations for what's happening to you, don't waste years of your life trying to convince yourself that the person isn't really a narcissist. Listen to your intuition and do not be fooled by these broken, toxic, unhealthy people. You will break your own heart trying to help them.

I am a survivor. I am surviving, healing, growing, and using radical acceptance. I love myself, and am worthy of healthy friendships and relationships. So Do YOU!!!