Celeste Headlee: 10 ways to have a better conversation | TED

"Number five: If you don't know, say that you don't know." Yea i tried this one, my teacher didn't really like it.

"Most people don't really listen, they're just waiting for their turn to speak" Marla Singer, Fight Club

Celeste Headlee: 10 ways to have a better conversation:- 1. Don't multitask- Be in present with mind 2. Don't pontificate- Enter every conversation assuming that you have something to learn. Don't just try to get your point across. Everybody is an expert in something. 3. Use open ended questions- Who, what, when, where, why and how. 4. Go with the flow- Thoughts will come into your mind and go out of your mind. Let them go. Don't think for two minutes about a clever question to ask. 5. If you don't know say that you don't know. 6. Don't equate your experience with theirs- It is never the same. It's not about you. Don't take that moment. Conversations are not a promotional opportunity. 7. Try not to repeat yourself. 8. Stay out of the weeds- People don't care about the years, the names, the dates all those details that you are struggling to come up with in your mind. They care about you. 9. Listen- Buddha said: If your mouth is open you're not learning. And Calvin Coolidge said: No man ever listened his way out of a job. We don't listen with the intent to understand, we listen with the intent to reply. 10. Be brief- A good conversation is like a miniskirt, short enough to retain interest, but long enough to cover the subject. THANKS ME LATER ❤️

who would have thought - in 2021, we are even more divided on those same topics Celeste speaks about back in 2016!

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You'd be surprised how much a person will reveal if you just listen. In a world where everyone is talking, people truly want to be heard.

I was never taught any of this from a young age so now I must teach myself to change my incompetent communication habits.

Any introverts here?

I am still waiting when will Ted is gonna talk

"A good conversation is like a miniskirt;short enough to retain interest,but long enough to cover the subject" Damn

"If your mouth is open, youre not learning." Shows how very important is listening.

"There is no reason to learn that you are paying attention if in fact, you are actually paying attention." Probably the absolute, #1 best thing I have heard in a long time. Like a reeaalllyyy long time.

Summary: 1. Don’t multitask - be present with mind. 2. Enter every conversation assuming that you have something to learn. Don’t just try to get your point across. Everybody is an expert in some thing. 3. Use open ended questions. Who what when where why how. 4. Go with the flow. Thoughts will come into your mind and go out of your mind. Let them go. Don’t think for two minutes about a clever question to ask. 5. If you don’t know say that you don’t know. 6. Don’t equate your experience with theirs. It is never the same. It’s not about you. Don’t take that moment. Conversations are not A promotional opportunity. 7. Try not to repeat yourself. 8. Stay out of the weeds. People don’t care about the years the names The dates all those details. 9. Listen. Buddha: if your mouth is open you’re not learning. Calvin Coolidge: no man ever listened his way out of a job. We don’t listen with the intent to understand, we listen with the intent to reply. 10. Be brief. A good conversation is like a miniskirt, short enough to retain interest, but long enough to cover the subject.

This woman is an amazing presenter, and her points all stick. You can tell she's the person to ask about how to have a better conversation.

I've frequently re-watched this video dozens of times over the last 4-5 years and it's actually changed my social life completely. I used to struggle to be able to hold a conversation with anyone, now after practicing and utilizing these skills i'm literally able to have a fun conversation with anyone while smiling and laughing.

1: Be 100% present in the moment - Don't worry about what you did yesterday or what you'll be doing tomorrow 2: Enter a conversation ready to learn something new - Be modest, and let go of your biases and opinions 3: Use open ended questions - Who, What, When, Where, Why. Give people the opportunity to describe and explain their answer. 4: Go with the flow - Let the conversation flow naturally like a river, don't try to redirect the current anywhere else but downstream 5: If you don't know, then say so - Don't pretend you know what you're talking about when you really don't 6: Don't make a conversation about yourself - Take the opportunity to listen to the speaker and learn about their experiences, don't hijack the conversation 7: Don't repeat the same phrase over and over again - Insanity is defined by doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting a different outcome each time 8: Leave out boring details - Unless you're making a Wikipedia article, no one cares about the tiny details 9: Listen - It takes effort to actually and effectively listen, but strive to actually understand what someone is talking about 10: Be brief

For anyone interested, here's the list of her advice : 1. Don’t multitask 2. Don’t pontificate 3. Use open ended questions 4. Go with the flow 5. If you don’t know, say that you don’t know 6. Don’t equate your experience with theirs 7. Don’t repeat yourself 8. Don’t go into the details (names, number, dates…) 9. Listen 10. Be brief

Was expecting the worst on this one. Turned out the title was literal and honest. I have seen so many similar titles that misuse words like "Conversation" that I have grown a tad jaded. That was actual good advice and well presented.

Love how brief this was yet still VERY much intellectual, following your own advice is the first sign of a great teacher! 🏛️

This is probably one of the most amazing speech thus far in my opinion; I couldn't stop rewatching it