Live Chat with Seth Perler, Executive Function & ADHD Coach

I could feel the relief from Paul when Seth joined! (Understandable) Amazing job, both!

Thank you both for this. Very helpful indeed. Paul, your description of 'having everything you need in your rucksack' is exactly how I experience life with my wheelchair! I literally have everything I could possibly need on it, and that makes me very chill and flexible. Whereas, in the days I used to have to remember to take everything in bags, I would be super anxious and uncomfortable if I forgot the smallest thing.

I’m on the verge of discovery, I seem to have traits from adhd and asd, so the health professionals will help discern. It’s interesting to me how I resonated with both of you, some days I’m like adhd exec function, other days I’m more like asd. But the super focus can be a blessing and a curse.

I did very well in highschool but not in college. I have problems doing projects. I wouldn't finish them on time due to perfectionism and problems with starting and finishing things. Transitions are very hard for me. I have mental health problems as well. I am currently on disability. I couldn't figure out a way around my problems. I hope I do someday.

Thank you both, this was very interesting. As a woman with both adhd and autism I struggle a lot sorting out what is going on in my brain+body. It seems I have an easier time grasping what falls under the autisms umbrella, while my adhd is pure chaos. So at the moment I am kind of able to make adjustments for my “autistic needs” but I cannot even start to rationalize the adhd parts… and I suffer a lot this inability to make order, since it’s how I conquer things. Frustrating. I am about to attend some coaching, I really hope to find some kind of key. Feels pretty bad not having control.

This is a really useful and interesting discussion, thank you. It’s so painful how you can try so hard but still fall short bc of executive dysfunction

Thank you to Paul, it was refreshing and insightful to watch a live video! Thank you for introducing Seth to us! Great collaboration! I'm registered now for the event mentioned. I'm an undiagnosed adult, who struggles. My son is grade 6 and was diagnosed ADHD at 6 yo then also diagnosed ASD at 10 yo. This is all very helpful to learn for myself and my son.

This is why so many American parents are choosing homeschooling for their kids! We CAN be the effective supporters our kids need as they learn how THEY thrive. And hearing from people like you two is supporting*US* in that journey. Thank you!

This video just goes to show that there is quite a bit of overlap between the conditions. I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was younger, but I think they missed ASD in me as well from what I've been researching over the last year or two. I'm a yo-yo with regards to what works at any given moment. Almost like I'm fighting myself a lot of the times. Trying to remember, by remembering other things is a nightmare, but as far as I've got that at least works when I remember, is just to tac the new thing on to an existing habit. Mind you, depending on what that new thing is, there might not be many habits around certain windows of time. Like doctor's appointments. Thank you for the talk guys!

32:28 Passion is not obsession. Its ok to be passionate about what I want. Learning a song. Listen to it over and over because I like the challenge of figuring it out. 🤗❤️ I needed to hear this. Thank you

ASD and Adhd is a terrible combination. Your asd likes planning and structure. So you are building your todo lists just to procrastinate on it because of your ADHD since it is so hard to start.

Great meeting, guys !

Paul made an excellent point about us autistics being flexible as long as our needs are met. I never thought about this but he is correct. It was interesting to hear about ADHD from the inside. Great video!

Awe, my night owl self stayed up til 3 in the morning and missed the stream cuz YouTube doesn't know how notifications work. Just wanted to say thank you for all you do. You really help me and my husband learn a lot more about ourselves and each other. Keep up the great work!

I am able to make really good plans for the next day for example (on paper, a well-balanced schedule), yet when the day starts and I have to execute my plans, it’s like everything goes out of the window and I just go with however I feel like that day and I don’t get many things done. It feels like an inability to stick to my plans, no matter what. I just ‘go with the flow’ of the day. I hate appointments, things that are not flexible, but I want to create a daily routine that will help me achieve my goals. What can I do to improve this? I really want to learn to follow through on my plans and appointments🤷🏼‍♀️

Thank you Paul, I was in the live chat. I don't think you could see all the questions when you asked. At one time you said there was 100 people in the chat. I only saw 32 the hole time. Thank you again for Introducing Seth pearler. I will check his YouTube out as I can do it on my time. Live chats can be hard to keep up with.

Thanks for comparing the notes from both of your experiences; it was very illuminating and helpful to get more details for my own executive function description.

Gratulation Paul, that you read all the instructions for new things. I don't do that, because i often don't understand them . The translation from south asian languages in mine (which is not english), is often so weird and not understandable, that it literally makes no sense. We have a joke, that we discover all what this particular thing could have done, when it's broken, because that's the first time we try to read the instruction. And to your question, where we struggle with executive function and what helped us: for me it's absolutly necessary to manage all i do along the timeline where i funcion best. That means that i do all important things in this time and that i fail, if i do not. It's really important and makes a huge difference, if you are an early bird or a night owl! And to Seth: I totally agree with you, that our systems (of work, school..) are too organised and restrictive. And that's not how we thrive best, because our human nature is not made for this. I always try to imagine, how people lived thousands of years ago and what where there concerns. We are living this "modern" life since a couple of hundred years and probably it's not yet in our dna! Often it's not the student who fails, but the system!

This was amazing! Thanks so much!

very good insight Paul re transitioning 24:45