Why A Woman Must NEVER PURSUE A Man & The Power She Has Of WALKING AWAY | RC Blakes
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Published 2023-03-26
On Today's Episode:
Today’s narrative of the independent, strong, secure, empowered woman says we can do anything we want without a man’s approval. We are not victims or damsels in distress, we are total badasses capable of being CEO of Fortune 500 companies, caring mothers, best friends, truck drivers and construction workers.
With all that we are and all that we do there are still biological differences we may be ignoring in our fight against society’s narrative of oppression.
Is pursuing a man that you’re interested in a defiance of our biological nature or an act of defiance against what men in society say we shouldn’t do?
Pastor RC Blakes is a voice for female empowerment that doesn’t dance around hard conversations and addresses the realities women are struggling with in society. He’s the bestselling author of Queenology, Father-Daughter Talks, Soul-Ties and more. He and his wife, Lisa, also host women's conferences to bring healing and power to women in search of a better version of themselves free of abuse and manipulation.
Today’s conversation brings us some interesting points, some of which may be triggering:
What happens when women pursue men
Why women can’t behave like toxic men without consequences
Instead of looking for a high-value man, seek out what it takes to be a high-value couple with the right person
“Submissive” doesn’t have to be trigger, it can be a clear indication of the man your with
There is a relational rhythm of a healthy masucline-feminine dynamic in high-value relationships that may be a better target to aim at in your next relationship.
QUOTES:
“There’s a price to be paid for a woman who pursues a man.”
“If a woman has to jumpstart a man she will have to keep him motivated in the relationship.”
“If you need to be married or joined to someone, you don’t need to be married or joined to anyone. In other words, if you’re not a fulfilled, healthy and happy individual as a stand alone, you really don’t need to be joined with anyone.”
“When you don’t know your value, people can put you in places that you don’t deserve.”
“No woman should submit to a man that demands submission. If a man has to demand submission he does not deserve it.”
“Just cause a man can afford you doesn’t mean he can value you.”
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All Comments (21)
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WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!
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“When you don’t know your value, people will put you in places you don’t deserve.” Just. Brilliant.
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I used to have problems with men. I wasn't happy being alone, and the men were never serious. I became unhappy with the situation. I just stopped dating! I was so sick of the very same thing happening over and over. Then I stepped away for 4 years. In those 4 years, I dated myself! Whatever I wanted I gave to myself! Wherever I wanted to go, I went by myself! I pampered myself and had quiet moments alone. I became so happy within, I felt so whole. I later found 4 respectable men that chased me. I choose one man and now have been happily married since. So get out there and make yourself whole and happy! Men will see your inner happiness and be drawn to it! You will never appear desperate because you aren't! You are happy all by yourself! Much ❤️
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"Honor is the seed, submission is the fruit" and "the man who demands submission, does not deserve it" - this is gold!
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"When a woman pursues a man, she cannot do so without losing a part of herself." The stinging veracity of this statement made me realize I've done this in most of my romantic relationships - both in the dating phase and in committed relationships. I've found myself consistently exhausted and demoralized as a result of not valuing myself.
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"If a woman has to jump start a man then she will have to keep him motivated in the relationship." That is so true!
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"Just because a man can afford you doesn't mean he can value you." PREACH!
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Chasing after a man just doesn’t feel right to me! It definitely feels wrong and when you do this a man won’t love you for who you truly are. Never be desperate for a man’s love and affection!
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I was journaling one day and I asked god why want you allow a man to see me the way I see myself? I heard him clear as day say that the problem they are; low self esteem, not good enough, and not worthy. God said instead of asking me to allow a man to see you the way you see yourself, ask me to allow a man to see you the way I see you; better yet ask me to allow you to see you the way I see you. It was deep. When you don’t know who you are you will settle for who ppl tell you you are.
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I WAS HONORED TO HAVE THIS CONVERSATION
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A man who honors you pursues you. You don’t have to run him down. Thank you! A gem I needed!
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"You can't fix a man's character if he doesn't have one". Oof. Accurate. Works both ways too.
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After 1.5 years of me persuing him the majority of it- we broke up today - this video popped up as a message from God, bringing me so much peace. Thank you.
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But let's not be under the illusion that if a man has pursued you, somehow this means the relationship is a guaranteed success. There are millions of men who have taken the 'masculine' role, pursued their women and are still controlling, manipulative, disinterested, dishonest and ultimately betray the person in their life. There is no panacea to dating someone who is simply wrong, except for dealing with your inner crap and having firm boundaries against emotional and physical abuse. Be a whole and healthy person, partner or no partner.
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I nearly fainted when the thumbnail of this conversation came up in my feed. This man’s wisdom and a direct, clear way of communicating it is the reason I am still standing today after a relationship that broke me into a thousand pieces. Every time I had an obsessive urge to go back, I’d listen to him over and over. It was not enough for me to mentally recognize how dishonorably I had allowed myself to be treated. I needed to hear the truth spoken by a man whose character, values, morals, and a virtuous, purposeful life I wholeheartedly respect, and let it renew my mind and become deeply embedded in my psyche. Thank you so much, Lisa, for bringing such impactful guests on your show!!!
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More fathers should listen to this interview and explain this to us daughters. Women will have less pain and will definitely choose healthier relationships.
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I agree. My female friends disagree. Woman should never pursue a man, by design, by nature, a man is a hunter and a woman nurturer. Lets keep nature that way. And I did the power of walking away trick to give him space to miss me. It worked. Stay strong, girls, feminine energy is passive, masculine is active. Do not initiate, he has to set up the time and date etc. If he is not commited, keep your options open too!
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“Just because a man can afford you doesn’t mean he can value you!” Whew!
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He’s dishing out life saving advice for women, thank you sir ! My sister always says ‘if you chase a man and get him, you will chase him for the rest of your life’.
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I was basically chasing a guy for almost a year. He dumped me a few days shy of April 2022 and gave me false hope for the future. I was in love and wanted to believe he was a better man, all while risking looking like a clown. He initiated contact, sent texts, we talked for hours and he really tried keeping me around. Once I was in his orbit, he basically ignored me and acted like he simply tolerated my existence. Kept my hopes up until May 2023 when I cut contact with him. That's when all of a sudden he tried to follow me back and come back. I'm done with chasing and I'm done with him.
