The Love Expert: The REAL Reason We’re Lonely, Loveless, Depressed - Alain De Botton, School Of Life

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"Love is a skill to be learned, not just an emotion to be felt."💯

As a therapist myself for 37 years, Alain is so articulate and affirming of the importance of the work. Sometimes I really lose track of that because it is such cloistered work and after many years it just feels normal. I lose track of the amazing privilege of witnessing the vulnerability and courage of people. So many of those I see have helped me grow and inspired me even though they came for help themselves. I think Alain is just brilliant. Thanks for this conversation.

I love this (paraphrased): People always get unwell because of love (not referring to strictly romantic love). All mental unwellness stems from a deficit of love. There is always an experience of an unbearable cruelty in some way that breaks the mind. And when people get well there is always an experience of love that heals. And an act of love saves us/redeems us.

Alain de Botton is a philosopher and therapist who understands the human psyche more than anyone. I love that he’s an atheist but understands the profound importance of religion. I can listen to him talk all day long! Thank you for this interview!!

People are not getting enough good quality rest. We were not meant to be on high alert - the stress response should be transitory.

Alain De Botton is one of our modern-day great philosophers. His take on relationships is amazing and reading his work has helped me tremendously!

A good life isn’t a problematic free life, it’s a life in which we’ve found a way to learn from our inevitable pain - what a quote!!

Am I the only one shocked at how Alain talks so naturally and sounds just as smooth as in the Voice Over of his animated videos?

Kids may not need the 'perfect' parent but they must have one that loves them and shows it so the kids know they are loved.

This interview with Alain feels to me like a warm hug in itself. The desire for understanding from Stephen, a willingness to be vulnerable in his questioning, and the deep insight clearly and gently expressed by Alain… Wow, powerful indeed. Love and appreciate them both! 🙏❤️

"The graceful acceptance of your miniscule position in the cosmos is the gateway to calm & harmony." - YES YES YES YES YES!:hands-yellow-heart-red::hands-yellow-heart-red::hands-yellow-heart-red::hands-yellow-heart-red:

"We love in tracks, laid down for us by our childhood." 😳

🙏🏾If anyone from the DOAC team is reading this, is it possible to make the YT titles less negatively charged? There is so much wisdom, optimism and hope in so many of your interviews -- and because I gain tremendous value from them, I also want to be sharing them with friends and fam who could also gain value from them too. But sharing a video with an over-the-top negative title that's preying on our vulnerabilities can more often than not come across as insensitive/preachy rather than uplifting/insightful/hopeful, particularly with people who have not yet heard of the channel and are sensitive to the topics that are being discussed (arguably they would gain the most from these episodes and this community). Aside from this I absolutely loved this episode with Alain and his eloquent delivery of life truths - I was resisting the urge to pause and reflect after every sentence 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Thanks so much!!

I was raised to not deal with my emotions by parents who never learned to deal with their emotions. Something tells me this goes back many generations.

The graceful acceptance of your miniscule position in the cosmos, is the gateway to calm and harmony~ Alain De Botton

Alain De Botton, is truly a unique and gifted being of an intellectual level to be experienced. I admired his work for the past twenty years, and follow his progress on social media. What a gem to the academic realm of learning. I am watching from the Caribbean-Trinidad and Tobago. Bravo!

I love Alain De Botton, The school of life helped me tremendously with my anxiety. Highly recommend his lectures on YouTube . My favourite quote of his “ When I meet someone , I ask how mad are you ? Because we all are mad “

My father was emotionally distant and my mother emotionally abusive (she had issues with her older sister which she took out on me) ... no surprise I married a man who exhibited both these qualities /elements. Divorce. However, over the years I've understood where all these things came in and through patience, prayer and forgiveness, I can see (and understand) my parents' actions (father trying to get his father's attention and praise and a mother who saw her father die when she was 14 y/o and how her sister bring older seemed unaffected). This has helped me enormously. My father has since passed but we became closer and my mother, now in her late eighties, hears me when I speak and we enjoy one another's company. My inner child is now healed and I am a better person for it with self worth. I know I deserve to be treated with respect and as I go into my future, I believe as I value myself more, I will attract the right partner/friends, etc. Thank you for such a great interview. 😊

9:50 is a gem. Immediate calmness 53:21 really good advice on listening 1:07:06 is a great outlook. Stop looking for “the perfect” partner 1:22:21 accept the ups & downs of life