Being Not Straight

apologies if the audio sounds different, my mic exploded during recording

"WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE" Literally the best line in the whole video.

When I was younger I thought a crush was someone you hated because you wanted to crush them 💀

i dont identify as aroace, but as an autistic person, the feeling of "well everyone else is feeling this way now so i should probably start doing it too" without understanding thats not how feelings work is very real

I am a boomer. It took me a long time to realize what i was. I was raised in an environment where being homosexual was the worst thing possible. I’ve come to realize i am asexual. I felt ashamed of myself for years with no knowledge. Thank you for opening up Jaiden it makes even an old timer like me not so alone.

”In the nicest way possible, its none of your business” is literally the most understandable thing I’ve ever heard

Some asexuals: "I don't feel anything, something is wrong with me" Chad Jaiden: "I don't feel anything... You all are ugly"

“That’s not gay what the hell is that” goes crazy

"romance and intimacy is what makes us human" well guess i'll just be a silly little alien

Jaiden thinking she's bi or pan because she was equally disinterested in everyone is the funniest thing to me.

"We're all pretending to be adults here!" jaiden has perfectly summed up the internet experience

As a fellow Aro/Ace, this was great. To your point at the end about "coming out" feeling weird, it absolutely is for aro/ace people. We aren't coming out as gay, we just aren't interested. It feels like telling someone you don't have a favorite sports team because you don't watch sports. Also, most people in your life already probably know you are comfortable being single, they may not know the term aromantic or asexual, but they know you aren't the kind of person to always be dating someone. So "coming out" as aro/ace feels more like educating people on the terminology than it feels like telling them something you've kept secret. For most of my life, I just thought I was a broken straight guy. I "dated" a bit in high school, but just as you did with crushes, that was more about trying to fit in than something I wanted. I was like 25 years old when I first read the terms "aromantic" and "asexual" on an online list of sexualities. I remember reading the description and going "That one! That's it, that's me, I didn't know there was a word for that." Also, aro/ace has the coolest colors on the flag. Purple, green, and grey go look so good!

I watched this video being 15, discovered I'm asexual, almost 17, and I never felt as comfortable as I am with my sexuality, thank you, Jaiden

“WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE” Literally the best one liner in the video

Hearing other Aces say "...wait they're not joking?" about sex songs is the most validating phrase

Before I understood I am a lesbian, I thought a crush is someone who you think is nice and u want to be around them. So I had many „crushes“ on boys in my class in school, but then I met a girl and actually had a crush and my whole world collapsed. 😂

I am 19 years old and I have never fallen in love, I have always forced myself to be in a relationship to fit into society, it was too uncomfortable for me and I felt like I was incomplete, but with your video I feel liberated and calmer. Thank you for doing this, you really helped me a lot :)

Alright. James has a girlfriend, Jaiden is aroace. No more shipping them. Edit: Jesus Christ this reply section is the scariest sh-t ever.

Ok, speaking as someone who is in High School and desperate for affection… Jaiden’s story about thinking “man I don’t have a crush on anyone, I guess I keep getting unlucky” really hit close to home… but I don’t think I’m aromantic? Because despite not feeling any romantic attraction I still deeply crave a romantic relationship, because theoretically, it sounds really nice and like something I would enjoy. And at this point I’m not sure if I’m just bad at identifying my own emotions, keep getting “unlucky”, or am somewhere on the aromantic/demiromantic spectrum.

"I just met someone who I thought was cool and funny and had a really strong desire to be close to them." GUYS, GIRLS, AND GAYS, THIS HERE IS CALLED A SQUISH! As someone under the aromantic umbrella I was so excited when I found the term squish because it's what I'd always thought a crush was but I never wanted anything really romantic with them. Enjoy knowing this if it's helpful in any way!