The World No.1 Happiness Expert: Single Friends Will Keep You Single & Obesity Is Contagious!

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My mother raised seven children with an alcaholic husband. She always seemed up beat and was kind to her children. One time something bad happend to me and I was pretty sad. She came over, put her hand on my shoulder and said. Bad thing happen all the time. Move on, you make your own happiness. She seem to understand that happiness in yourself. sure enough, I always been a pretty happy guy. She gave it to me in her genes. She lived to be 98. A month before she died she was arranging sewing groups at her assisted living facility.

For those who can't find purpose, I recommend start helping people around you whatever and wherever you can. You will contribute to making world a nicer better place

As a person who lost the love of my life along with every material thing I owned, in a house fire, and barely escaping it myself. I have found that I I now only cherish the things that make me and those I love, happy in the moment, as they unfold. I feel doing the best I can, every moment, that I can feel good, that I did my best, and that satisfies my need to be my best.

Interesting interview! He mentioned faith, family, friends, and meaningful work as goals/ sources of happiness. The thing is we aren't always in control of external factors. Family members die, marriages break up, children move away, we might have to stop the work we love for some reason. Anything external can be taken away. Only internal strength can truly be relied on. A person's faith or philosophy is the only thing that can't be taken away from us.

I want to respond to the part where they discussed losing weight and his conclusion that it will not make you happier. After about 25 years of obesity I gradually lost 130 lbs. Almost 4 years ago now. It absolutely changed my life and I am so much happier. People absolutely treat me differently because I am different. I am not full of Shame, disappointment, exhaustion, or embarrassment anymore. When I go out people don't look at me and then look away, or hold my gaze with disgust. It makes an enormous difference. And not only that of course, everything is easier. Exercise is easier, relationships are easier, everything is easier and brings more joy. it is everything I hoped it would be and I now maintain it mainly by eating a bigger variety of foods in small amounts instead of always feeling terrible about anything I put in my mouth. I also left a job that I disliked and don't stress eat anymore. Just have to say yes I am so much happier and everything gives me more joy without the physical weight, and the emotional and mental weight that obesity brings with it. I hope another obese person is reading this and this helps them stick with their healthy processes because it is so worth it. It has been life-changing for me but maybe that is partly because I am a woman and I do still believe that women are more valued for their physical appearance and men are still more valued for their earning ability. That has changed some but not totally. I am also single and I think my quality of life is much better than the married people I know in unhappy relationships. It makes me happy to see people in happy relationships. AND, I know several single people who also have quality relationships. It does not mean you are at home alone getting drunk and looking at p*** alone. As we are so often depicted in media. You can be happy with what you have, which is also a good point that he makes.

as a mom... you would not die for your parents because deep down you know that THEY WOULD NOT WANT THAT. they'd die for you. they don't want you to die for them.

Grief, illness, old age and the loss of loved ones shows you very clearly that anything can be taken from you at any time. We don't have anything like as much control as this man thinks we have - acceptance of that is one of the harder life lessons.

English is my second language and I really didn't understand very well the meaning of agency, but this is the definition I found that I think fits the meaning of the word on how they are using it. "Agency is the sense of control that you feel in your life, your capacity to influence your own thoughts and behavior, and have faith in your ability to handle a wide range of tasks and situations. Your sense of agency helps you to be psychologically stable, yet flexible in the face of conflict or change." Hope it helps my multilingual peeps !

Humans are wired to seek safety, not happiness. It's an emotion that comes and goes. Safety has the most effect on wellbeing. Feeling unsafe can cause illness due to stress. Simply being happy or sad, cannot. Especially if you feel safe.

I sit with my dog silently on our walks together no phone no distraction and try and listen to the earth sounds around me and look at simple things like the sky the trees the people and breathe and it has changed my life simple but necessary for me daily it is my happiness .This conversation reminded me of the importance of this.🙏🌸

Volunteering and serving without needing to have any notice or credit will get you out of your small circle of problems and out of your head -- it makes you have a bigger purpose

My mental health always improves when I start taking time out to pray and thank God for what I have immediately in my life x

"you need to want what you have, not have what you want". Satisfaction = mgmt of what you have. Powerful for someone who's always striving for more!

I think this really means anything in life, when I stopped going out with the friends who drink excessively, only want to go out and eat , who continually complain I starting making space for the healthy choices .

This was a great show. I do feel it necessary to point out that empathy for a child or teen is not as "wrong" as he makes it sound. Feeling someone's pain is actually WONDERFUL if we, ourselves, are empowered enough to bring them through it. What he's referring to by indicating that the worst parents of teenagers are highly empathetic is when the parent is weakened by their own empathetic nature. I get it. It takes personal development and skill to master the gifts of empathy, but the blanket statement that "the WORST parents are highly empathetic," bothered me. Way too general a statement from someone in his position. I have always been empathetic, and yes, I had to learn to separate myself from other people's pain. Totally. But it IS possible. I still feel other people's pain, but I don't let it "paralyze" me anymore. My empathy is now a gift because I can say with full confidence, "Oh boy! I sure do know exactly what you're talking about, and I understand how you feel, so if I may, I can offer insights in how to get through this." Otherwise, yes, great show! A ton of wisdom and insights. I love what he said about pleasure versus enjoyment, for example.

I love this guy. Straight, no chaser. incredibly knowledgeable and funny. The best way I learn.

I’m just 59 .. this is for me ❤ What makes me happy, what is my purpose, what would I die for has changed remarkably over the years. I enjoyed contemplating that. Joy is a big thing for me now. I would die 10 times over for my adult children and my granddaughter. I’ve been a nurse for 39 years and have surved my purpose to my fellow man. Joy is so important now. Simple joys 😊

I really like that Steven can articulate so well and he also chooses guests who have a fine quality of speech. English is my second language and it helps me to comprehend the content. Also I have come to appreciate his humility in letting the guests speak and to respect their views. Thats the point of an interview and a successful conversation in my opinion. And it relaxes me while listening to it.

15:00 Happiness is not a feeling. It's a decision. You have all the power to change and control how you feel by changing what's inside of you 17:22 Happiness is 3 things: Enjoyment, Satisfaction(Appreciation), Meaning