Removing Negative Self Talk | Abria Joseph | TEDxYouth@NIST
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Published 2015-11-02
Abria Joseph was born and raised in the San Francisco Bay area. He began learning yoga at 16 and in completed his first training program, a 700-hour vinyasa training in Thailand. He went on to teach vinyasa classes across the US, Canada and Mexico, and earned a degree in exercise science and wellness from Bastyr University in Washington state. Aria founded Pranaforce Yoga in 2010, an international yoga lifestyle company offering yoga retreats, teaching training, workshops and community events. He is also an experienced TEDx speaker who encourages others to practice and live their dreams within each moment.
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All Comments (21)
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who else is on a "TED X" marathon?
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If you're reading this, Smile because you owe yourself that much love ! š¤·š½āāļøš
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"If you have voices in your mind that say you cannot paint, by all means paint and that voice will be silenced." That brought me to tears.
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This video moved me to tears. Why am I so down on myself? Why are we our worst critics? Why do we care what others think or say? Especially when it comes to our passion and dreams. Thank you for sharing this video with the world. I send my love, respect, and joy to you all! 1ā”
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Vincent Van Gogh said:
" If you have voices in your mind that say that you cannot paint, by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced. " -
I pump so much positivity into my mind every day through listening to motivational videos that there is no time let for negativity. The words we hear, especially the ones we hear repeatedly, whether from others, or ourselves, can absolutely make or break us in life.
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Hard to be positive when you're surrounded by toxic people and can't leave because you have nowhere to go.
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What an amazing talk. Just want to share the great takeaways I got from this:
-Our mind is like an instrument. It has its thoughts and can be tuned.
-Shift negative voice and stories to positive ones.
-A lot of people won't believe in your dreams even maybe close family and friends - "Wow, that's a great idea but here's a long list of why that won't work."
Three questions to ask:
1) Is it the truth?
2) Is it necessary?
3) Does is improve upon the silence?
-Subconscious and unconscious mind don't know the difference between negative or positive energy.
-Question the stories in your mind.
-Live your dream!!
-Just acknowledge the thoughts that appear like clouds in the sky. -
The number of pauses he took in his entire presentation were not unintentional. He did it deliberately which made his whole speech calm, composed, and collected. Easy to digest and easy to understand. Smooth like I am floating and water is slowly gliding over me.
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The problem with me is i come straight to the comments
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That music is so soothing.
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Problem with me is that I know that those thoughts are not true, necessary etc. But they still come back 2-3 seconds later.
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One of my students told me that when he discussed his anxieties with someone close to him, like his wife or a close friend, then he found that the moment he started opening up to them, the anxiety decreasedāeven before he received any advice or support.
Togetherness definitely decreases anxiety. There is a saying in the wisdom of Kabbalah that āa sorrow shared is a sorrow halved,ā i.e. when we share a sensation, we divide it up, and in turn it becomes more manageable.
Since it is quite easy to see how sharing our experiences lessens our negative feelings, the question is why do we not use this ability more? Why is it so hard for us to share our fears and anxieties with others?
We are indeed afraid of opening our hearts, letting everyone see that we have certain fears and anxieties. That is, in addition to whatever fears and anxieties we hold within, we usually have additional anxieties about sharing them with others, that it might cause others to perceive us as weak. Since society in general values stronger, smarter, wealthier and fitter individuals, opening up our anxieties to such a society makes us vulnerable to exploitation. We thus need to seek a social environment that would not exploit us for opening up, but would rather give us a sense of faith and confidence that it can help us cope with any negative feelings.
A social setting that can guarantee faith and confidence in its members is one that actively draws itself to the upper good and benevolent forceāthe force of love, bestowal and connection. It is this very same force that awakens negative feelings in us, whether they be fears, anxieties or several other painful sensations, in order for us to draw closer to that force, and we do so by drawing closer to each other.
If we wish to connect with the upper force and let its perfect quality of love, bestowal and connection fill our lives with a sensation of faith and confidence, then we need to emulate such a quality toward other peopleāgiving them a sense of faith and confidence, and for them to do the same toward us. By wanting to positively connect with others, we then start awakening the positive force dwelling in nature into the connections we create, and we then feel a new sense of faith and confidence wash away any anxieties that we might be holding within. -
Shift the negative self-talk and stories into positive ones (8:04)
question yourself 3 main questions:
1. Is it the truth? Is whatever I'm sharing with someone or what you are hearing from someone thats giving you feedback about your life; true?
2. Is it necessary? Is what I'm saying to myself in my head, is necessary in the exact moment in what I'm doing with my life right then
3. Does it improve upon the silence? -
3 questions to ask yourself about your inner dialogue or what others say about you/your dreams:
1. is it true?
2. is it necessary to think this in this exact moment?
3. does it improve the silence?
you don't have to believe other people because they have different experiences, beliefs, values, ideas, etc. -
My daughter's name is Abria š„°15 years ago, I thought I created that name just for her. I even gave it my own meaning, 'Sunshine'! She grew up curious about her name and only found a corporation with the same name. She will be pleased to know someone else shares her name!
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i loved what he said about the fact that you dont have to believe any. you can agree with that person at the moment, but in your mind you can be aware and stop that thought! if u can controle yourself and put away those voices your become your own hero!
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We all need to talk to ourselves with as much love, support and encouragement as we do to our loved ones. Do this and you will be happier, achieve more success and be a much more effective person
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Complaining is the #1 addiction in the world. It destroys everything. 99% of it is unconscious, which keeps it going ad infinitum until you make them conscious by paying attention to them. Like magic they disappear until you have freed yourself from your own mental prison that you learned from all the complaint addicts before you. All it takes is a commitment to focus for true freedom! Nothing better. šššš
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This is the first ted talk that has ever made an impact on me. Thank you Abria Joseph. I'm grateful
