Why You’ve Not Met the Right Person (Yet)

When I like them they don't like me, when they like me I don't like them. -Story of my life

I am so happy that Matt addressed emotional stunting. This is one of the most common things I find with people I try to date. They're just not in a good enough place to date ANYONE successfully even if they really want to.

I’m at the stage of giving up. I don’t think even you could find someone for me. 😂

Im 34 and am working on accepting I am simply not meant to have that. I’ll just focus on being successful and maybe adopt in my 40’s. It’s a strange world at this point, stay sane out there. ✌️

I know people in my life that have found their love, REGARDLESS of age. What matters here, and only that, is attitude. The people who found love are in their mir twenties or even sixties and they have gone through a lot of pain to arrive at this point. They have been cheated on, abused, neglected and ghosted. Yet they decided to not give up and fight through the pain to arrive somewhere where they could call their life fulfilled again, and feel confident and secure within themselves. And furthermore, they maintained trust in themselves and the universe, attracting the positive. They’ve found each other on dating platforms, through class reunions or birthday parties. It is never too late, the only thing you gotta do is have trust and never. Become. Bitter.

Nobody dies of being single but a lot of people died because they were with the wrong person.

Attraction vs compatibility….great point!

I will never ignore the chemistry, chemistry is awesome, just don’t fall too quickly. But appreciate chemistry

I was super excited about dating at first after my divorce I waited a very long time. I did a little and now I'm not excited anymore it's stressful and depresses me. I figured once I feel hopeful again I'll try.

It’s futile. So happy I am fine alone! My God, there’s soooo much to discover in this world and so many ways to help others…and live a fulfilled life!!!! I see people so miserable in their relationships. Its sad. So amazing to be living an authentic life, happy and single!!

I've given up. I was in a relationship with a man who claimed he was single but was, in fact, married. He called me his "girlfriend," which was a joke. I wasted too many years on him and he told me to many lies. So now I've given up

I've taken a break to work on myself. It's awesome to work on this. Chemistry is good, but consistency, and quality are what will help someone go the distance. Making that person your best friend is even better.

I'm so grateful I came across this particular video, ESPECIALLY during the holidays when it seems very challenging to be alone after a breakup or other circumstances. I'm really thankful for this continued content & it's really helping me immensely in my progressive dating life, many thanks♡

This makes so much sense out of where I’m at in life right now. Thank you Matthew Hussey.

Before I even watch the video a big answer is “luck”. Plain and simple. On with the video…

I totally feel that First Lady who work on her self 10 years and still single and no faith now or hope to find love

“It takes time for people to know your value”

Once again, thank you Professor Hussey. While I watch your videos I feel like I’m in a classroom full of lovely, adoring, well meaning people, hanging on your every word. It reminds me of my art history classes in Uni - a sea of perfect young girls. At least that’s what I thought they were, back in my late teens and early 20s. There I was, comparing myself to people I had no real clue about. 40 years later I’m still that insecure girl, but then again I’m not. marriage, widowhood, children, empty nester, amazing career and stepping back by choice. When I hear people say “my standards are now higher”, maybe it’s more they have learned to open their eyes, heart and brain to accept themselves and realize they are WORTHY as they always have been. Life gets in the way of that self perception which obviously affects how we relate to potential partners. In my only foray into crush land, I emerged single, a bit emotionally bruised, but so appreciative of the learning curve. I still think the guy is lovely and I have no ill will towards him. I accept my role in muddying the waters, having unreal interpretations of his intentions. Your words have helped me see the responsibility that I have to bring my worthy self to the table. I am guilty of flying the “Unloveable” flag - cue The Smiths. It’s comfortable, goes well with wine, coffee and rainy lonely days.I have the clothes for every season! Now I’m ready to say I want companionship, kindness, adventure and tenderness and perhaps that means love. I have put away that flag mostly, walking on a new gang plank. I still have that wardrobe but accessorize with new found self respect and the Rolodex of wisdom you have helped me find…. And that guy out there wherever he is better like Morrissey! Matthew - you provide such a service to people. THANK YOU!❤

Great video Matt! You keep it real whilst also leaving us with a sense of hope <3 Relationships can be tough for everyone whether you're single, married, divorced etc. Getting knowledge about how we can be our best selves is so valuable no matter what our relationship status is

This is exactly what I’m going through and completely relate. It makes me incredibly sad inside and I don’t want to continue feeling this way in life but also don’t want to lose faith. I’m 41, successful in a career, and a good person. I think I value normal things like honesty, open communication, emotionally available, transparency, similar values and life goals, integrity, etc. and I need chemistry im a passionate person. But is all this too much to ask for?? I have so much love to give and the pain of still not finding the one and fear of growing old alone and missing out on so much more is crushing. 😔. I’m always putting on a smile and brave face trying to just keep moving forward embracing life but humans aren’t meant to be alone for years.