Marriage counseling, our son’s 2nd birthday & our thoughts on 'Quiet on Set' | Ep. 63

Whenever my husband and I are in a time of crisis he always reminds me that “it’s not us against each other, it’s us against the problem”. Anytime we’re going through something challenging, that mindset helps us face it together! One of the best parts of marriage is having a teammate to handle all the curveballs life throws at ya💕

I dont know if you’ll read this comment but DO NOT give griffin popcorn!! Popcorn is not intended for kids under 3 years old, not only can be it be a very bad choking hazard but the little skin from the inside can get stuck in their stomach from what I’ve been told. Better to be safe than sorry! We usually pack cheeze-itz or crackers/chips when we take our 2yr old.

Do not get a party planner for a 2yr old! It’s so easy, have child games indoor and outdoor. (Outside have a kitty pool, bubbles, chalk!) have drinks and snacks and cake or cupcakes. Aside from that get themed decorations. It shouldn’t cost that much! Also it’s been proven children that age will not remember. You will be 100% throwing the party for yourself. I’ve planned all my daughter’s bdays she just turned 5 and they always turn out great! Keeping it simple and at home is wayyyy easier for this age range.

Abby!!! I just want to say thank you for speaking on generational cycles of addiction. It’s not talked about enough and as someone who was recently so affected by my families alcoholic issues it’s so refreshing that you’re using your platform to speak about it. Thanks abby & matt for always keeping it real ❤️

I think you all are so lucky to have your parents help so much. My mom just outright told me she doesn't want to help out with my kids more than 1 day a week for a few hours when I'm at work. Consider yourselves blessed.

Matt just go buy the computer and surprise her! She’s not gonna go get it and you know she’s love it and use it if she had it but she’s not going to go get it she’s a mom our brains won’t let us but we do like gifts we don’t have to think about 😂❤

My “wedding” was $250 for an officiant and his photographer wife. I had just had a near death medical emergency and even though we had only known each other for a year and a half we decided we couldn’t live without the other person. It was at a small gazebo in a park next to the beach. It was just my husband and our blended family of three girls. I wore a $10 white lace dress I got from the thrift store, the girls were in their Easter dresses, and my husband was in khakis and a white button down. We had written our own vows, said I do, did a small photo shoot, and then took the girls to a Mexican restaurant for dinner. and it was the perfect little elopement! 4 years later and we've bought our first house, gotten a dog, had a baby boy who's almost a year old and everything is still wonderful! these 10s of thousands of dollars wedding just baffle me.

Matt I really applaud your new openness and self reflecting! Seriously refreshing

Please don’t confuse stimulant use with better focus. People with ADHD do not experience the effects the way that Matt is describing. Watch out for aggression, loss of appetite, sleeping problems, and ED. A lot of people get on it who don’t actually need it and end up with these symptoms.

We took our daughter to the movie theatre at 2-2.5 and she did just fine. We sat her in between us and got all the snacks and treats and it was SO special. Do it, you won’t regret it. ❤

63 weeks in and I'm here every week. You guys have quickly become my favorite podcast! Love the time and dedication put into it

As a mom who has pics from the past 4 birthdays, its soooo cute also seeing the little friend group grow up along side of your own babies 🥺

Privilege is abundant. Own it, don’t downplay it. I appreciate your relationship and you are privileged

If you're getting this wired off of the meds I'm wondering if it the right med. I don't think you're supposed to get even more hyper. Be careful if its amphetamine they are sneaky addictive.

Meat... Coming from a hunting family hunting is far more humane than processed meat those animals are borderline tortured their whole lives. Lab meat worries me if we're already worried about what GMOs do ...

“You’re out here acting like you’re a vegan”😂

I have 2 boys and something important to remember is that boys just have a ton of energy and it often seems very adhd when alot of the time society is just not set up for boys, its very normal for boys to be fully of energy and then in school settings they just label it as adhd when it’s just not natural for kids to sit still for that long. I’ve learned the more time my boys have outdoor the more regulated they are

Enjoying these last few podcasts with just the two of you again! little refresher from the interview ones

My boys are 5&7 (literally just had birthdays). They share a room, since the youngest was 2 (he slept in my room in a little bed so he didn’t wake his brother). But they do greet at night now. It’s an adjustment, but I love when i hear them whispering and giggling! 🤭 it’s so sweet. 7:46

As a therapist, the reality is that most of the time by the time couples enter MC they’re already doomed. It really would be nice to see more new couples entering more often.