How to be socially magnetic | Ben Chai | TEDxSurreyUniversity
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Published 2018-03-30
Ben Chai is a property specialist, author and business mogul with 30 years under his belt. Ben is committed to positively impacting people to reach their maximum potential and will be joining us on the TEDx stage with a talk on how to network, build meaningful relationships and be magnetic. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
All Comments (21)
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"Add value to every person you meet." Simple as that. Well done Ben, this is a really really REALLY powerful TED Talk
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You don't realize this but as you grow up, being surrounded by people like Ben is a blessing
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You can tell this guy has really practiced his presentation and is fully confident in the message that he’s sharing
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1.develop self worth (mirror technique) 2.accept the way you are 3.self affirmations 4.add value to everyone you meet 5.what makes you exicted about life? 6.go deeper and deeper into the opposite person favourites 7.walk away from negativity
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I had ZERO self esteem and practically hated myself until I started speaking positive affirmations in the mirror. It was SUCH a challenge to start but looking back if it wasn’t for that one practice I wouldn’t be the successful confident young woman I am today💕 KNOW THY SELF
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"Add value to every person you meet." Make the other person the main character in your conversation. Amazing and thanks a lot.
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Great talk. Unresponsive audience. feed them to the crocodillos
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Everyone ALWAYS comments “horrible audience”, but they’re supposed to listen without clapping wildly. Also, the audio engineers probably quiet the audience a bit so we can hear the speaker.
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How to be magnetic instantly: • Develop Self-worth • Add value to other's peoples lives • Learn to Walk Away (Negative People)
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Horrible audience. This guy was amazing.
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I read Ben Chai´s book "Social Magnetism" half a year ago. It has dramatically changed the way I network.
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Networking and attracting the right people is kind of an art. And indeed, it's all about adding value. Read Ben's book, Social Magnetism, and really recommend it as it's very practical and contains lots of insights.
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To be a social magnet, I must build self-esteem, add value to people and learn to walk away from the crocodile Thank you sir
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This man won my heart he is so kind
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This was so incredibly helpful to watch. As someone who’s struggled their entire life with personal image, and social anxiety, it’s been difficult to try to communicate with people in a way that portrays conviction, confidence, and connection. Immediately showing interest in that persons passion, what makes them happy, what brings them joy, it opens the door to a conversation that’s valuable to everyone. A very simple but effective way to connect with someone on a much deeper level. I’ll take this with me
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And 15:35.. adding context, some people look like they are tolerating you but might actually be dealing with social anxiety. Have discernment. Your persistence and warmth with someone who is finding it hard to express themselves might leave a positive impression of care and warmth that others fail to give. Keep your compassion and keep an open mind. You don't know the reason why someone acts the way they do, and normally its their own insecurities and nothing to do with you.
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I HAVE DONE THE MIRROR THING SINCE HIGH SCHOOL. I always told my friends about it when they were struggling to appreciate themselves - and I believe it helped them through the years. when I am having a rough day, I look at myself in the mirror and remind myself what is great about me. I think it's important to recognize millennial culture in this practice too - selfies and snapchat and mirrors aren't solely about being narcissistic, but instead, building confidence in a microscopically judgmental world.
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1. Self - worth (mirror technique) 2. Give value to ppl (keep ur phone away, go deeper on convos, ask qs that excite them) 3. Walk away from crocodile
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I love how Ben demonstrated immediately what he is "preaching" - how he got Trayan on stage. So simple and yet so powerful.
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6:30 BRO I DO THAT ALL THE TIME BEFORE I GET INTO THE SHOWER it is because im a bit vain but looking at myself in the mirror for a few minutes and just think "damn that is a fellow with potential" really does help
