I Just Found an Online Therapist! (My Story: How I Found An Online Counsellor)

I have an online therapist. Its easier for me. I cant drive.

It's not fun at all sitting in front of a therapist who just doesn't understand....but when you find those who instantly get it, get it even better than you do, see the situation clearly, and help you to as well then it is amazing and life changing!

Have developed the view that most people with Aspergers are truly people who want to live on a higher plane than most - with genuineness all around and especially in relationships!

my left ear really enjoyed this one :)

I have sensory issues, when I was just "depressed and anxious" my counsellor and therapist were useless. I was told to just deal with it and to desensitise myself to what bothered me. Which never worked.

I don´'t know. I think most psychologists are narcissistic, clueless, or both. I think we need intelligent and compassionate therapists like we are ourselves.

Just hearing you talk about the “Person Centered Approach” made me light up. Fellow aspie, and the concept was immediately comforting. Thanks for sharing.

My great grandson has recently been diagnosed with mild Autism. He is 2 years old and is very loving and is not aggressive, that I have seen. He is very observant and has a wonderful attitude. However, he is in PT because he walks on the inside of his ankles and is in speech because he is having trouble with being able to associate words that identify objects; such as “ where is the ball”? He may show you another toy. I feel as if he does not get frustrated at all. I’m really happy I found your channel. It has helped me a lot with understanding him so more better. Thank you for wanting to help others understand the autistic child.

The point you make about getting help before you think you need it is a good idea... I was going to ask for mental health help in the summer of 2019, and then I had a big breakdown in the fall.

Good deal…. Its great to have a trusted expert…. The “ attack factors” are too numerous & risky that are set against most. Im tuning in, as usual. I think pursuit of truth is a superpower. How bout choo??????

Thank you Paul, that was incredibly good timing. I have just done a MHP with my doctor and I'm struggling to find a psychologist who doesn't have a waiting list months and months long 😔 Edit: I have now been matched with a therapist at BetterHelp, and I'm excited to begin. Thank you again, Paul, for the video and the link😊

I just found a phychologist specialist in TSA, and she 's helping a lot. I don't have to explain everything, she understands how I think, how to speak to me, etc.. And a few months ago, I found a pain management specialist for my EDS, he learned philosophy, psychology, meditation and everything interests him. The first time I met him, he said that he don't necessarily want to me to explain austistics things. He wants to know me, he wants to understand me as a whole, he is interested in how I see the world and the pain with my autistic way, because we all are different. He's not a specialist but he can listen, and helps me a lot with my double diagnosis.

"Pay a mental health professional to get free training" oh snap! been there before! Totally agree with you Paul, the talking more often as opposed to once a month I related to so much. I like the person centered approach as well, as it is seeing a client as a person first & hopefully there is a sense of respect & dignity that comes across in the therapeutic relationship. There is nothing worse than feeling talked down to & condescended or invalidated because "You present very well, oh look you're dressed beautifully!" as if any of that has much to do with seeking support & help with things that are struggles or challenges. Thanks Paul for what you give in your videos. Peace to you Paul : )

Hi, Paul! This is my first comment on your channel. Interestingly enough, I just had my first online counseling meeting with a professional today, and it already has helped. I had noticed one of your videos relating to "Are you on the Autism Spectrum?", and it was very revealing to me that I deeply resonated with not one, two, or 4 of the examples, but quite literally all of them, and sometimes the "symptoms" or behavior patterns were more towards chronic than subtle. For some odd reason, I relate with you to an extreme extent, as if to say we were from the same planet (from before) and/or your testimony and story seemingly parallels what I go through on a daily basis. I was diagnosed with Schizo-affective disorder, but not even one time did the mental health professionals ever mention autism. Yet, there has been quite a few occasions where people said "He's normal....but you...you're weird..." or "Are you Autistic?". There's even been some people in the spectrum who were diagnosed that said to me something similar: "No offense, but were you diagnosed with autism? No worries. I was too." Some examples of certain behaviors: I will rock side-to-side almost all the time when standing. It feels like I am "uncomfortable in my own skin" and will early and often crack my neck and back and stretch them on walls. I will pace on the phone, in a certain way that I kind of "pinball" into objects and "ricochet" to the next object (A table, then bounce towards a wall, then bounce off the wall and go towards the door, bounce off the door, then go towards the counter) rather meticulously, but also mindlessly. Although it feels like a good thing, I have an unusual amount of appropriateness with women, and do not dare to even breach boundaries that I made up in my head (they did not set them, but I thought they would be offended if I were to offer physical affection). I have a wholesome personality and explain things much more in-depth and with far more articulation than (I would say) the average person. That is but a small amount of examples and details to provide. I very much relate to the "feeling different", but doctors attributed it to "delusions of grandeur". I also can heavily relate to people not believing me, my testimony, and often feel my good heart and positive intentions towards others are misconstrued and mistaken as me just having "ulterior motives" or "up to no good". I'm looking to make sense of all of this. I have but one request from you at this point in time: May you please comment back with information to the group that you mentioned where people are more understanding of what you are going through? I really need that at this time. It's been very difficult of late for me, and that is to say the least. Thank you! I appreciate you, your story, your legacy. You are an inspiration and beacon to many, many people. Bless you and yours!

my psychiatrist and psychologist have both been very humble and open and have read and listened to my research, a lot of videos from this channel and other autistic people on youtube. my diagnostic assessment was shaped together, and they learned a lot while we came to a mutual idea of my situation.

Yey!! New video from Paul :) can’t wait

He took the words out of my mouth. Its scary how much he is on point. Thats exactly what im looking for. Someone who can learn me understand me without giving me solutions or ideas on how they can "fix me" someone who can help me in a way that i need it if that makes sense. Not someone who tells you your crazy and there is something wrong with you and that i need serious help. Paul help us find that type of therapist please!!!

The issues with our own distractibility, judgmental feeling as well as off-putting personal attributes of a therapist can, together, create obstacles before getting into a meaningful exchange. So, I can see the advantages of working with someone over the phone or online. Might be the next counselor or coach to try will be via online sessions. Thanks for sharing!

Can't wait to see it

Very helpful! Thanks, Paul.