Mel Robbins ON: If You STRUGGLE With Stress & Anxiety, This Will CHANGE Your Life! | Jay Shetty

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Published 2023-01-16
Today, I am talking to Mel Robbins. Mel is one of the leading voices in personal development and transformation and a New York Times Bestselling author. Her work includes "The High 5 Habit," "The 5 Second Rule," four #1 bestselling audiobooks, the #1 podcast on Audible, as well as signature online courses that have changed the lives of more than half a million students worldwide. Her groundbreaking work on behavior change has been translated into 41 languages and is used by healthcare professionals, veterans’ organizations, and the world’s leading brands to inspire people to be more confident, effective, and fulfilled.

This time, Mel generously shares her thoughts on why people are unhappy and steps they can take to find genuine and lasting happiness, how to deal with our inner voice that's focus on negativity, why dreams are called directional signals, and the truth behind the struggles most of us go through as adults.

What We Discuss:
00:00:00 Intro
00:04:41 Why am I holding on to the things that are making me unhappy?
00:13:58 The constant drumbeat of negativity
00:21:56 Engaging in your own campaign of misery
00:36:50 Difference between dream and delusion
00:50:04 Parental mismatch
00:57:48 Girls struggle with crippling perfectionism
01:02:21 Confidence is the willingness to try
01:09:53 Why it’s easier to question how somebody’s changing
01:16:19 How to find happiness again
01:21:45 Verbal acknowledgement of the little achievements

All Comments (21)
  • @jeromesupan
    To everyone reading this Keep going. No matter how stuck you feel, no matter how bad things are right now, no matter how hopeless & depressed you feel, no matter how many days you have spent wishing things were different. I promise you won't feel this way forever. Keep going.
  • To anyone reading this, I hope that whatever is bothering you or that you are constantly worried about gets better. May all negative thoughts, overthinking, and doubt leave your mind right now. May clarity triumph over obscurity. May your life be filled with peace and calm.
  • "One of the greatest gift's of being adult is separating is separating from your parents and deciding how you wanna talk to yourself" This hits home.
  • @Fatima_316
    As a psychologist myself, I can say that every single point of wisdom Mel robbins makes is SO accurate. In my counselling sessions with clients, i teach them almost the same principles. Keep spreading the wisdom Mel and Jay, you guys are truly doing God's work!!!
  • I love Mel’s honesty and ability to share her own imperfections to help others learn about themselves.
  • A therapist of mine said the same thing about "fake it until you make it." She said reframe that to be "believe it until you become it."
  • @janeb.burrow2418
    Psilocybin mushrooms healed me . I can't explain it but my experience has been spiritual and eye opening . I also started micro dosing . It really helped me get rid of depression and anxiety .
  • @jalanstudios
    "Your dreams actually can't leave you, they're meant for you." Powerful words Mel. Thank you both for this inspiring podcast!
  • I'm a strong believer, that we see things when we are ready. I watch your podcasts all the time, but I can across this one today even though it was posted 7 months ago and God only knows how much I needed this. Its almost as if, Mel and you spoke about everything I've been asking the universe for a few weeks now. I quit my job 4,5 years ago, followed my purpose, but sometimes because we don't see the results in the physical world, we feel like its not there. You both gave me hope, and I feel fueled by faith again. I also believe that everything happens FOR you, not TO you. This happened for me, and I claim it.❤
  • Mel Robbins is one of my greatest inspirations! I started to help people because of her. Thank you for this amazing interview Jay!
  • @adomah338
    I stumbled upon this video and I'm so glad I did! It's filled with actionable tips and advice. Highly recommended! I just need to recomend one book called Inner Glow:Forbidden Echoes.. it talks about some secret techniques about manifestation..
  • I have recently learned that the key to be happy is to find the balance.
  • The further along the path of recovery from depression I get, the more I've come to appreciate my parents and the role they played in supporting me and this episode has just elevated that respect. A lot of the things that Mel mentioned you should do, I've noticed them doing over the last 12 months as I've begun to stand on my own two feet again so I wanted to extend a huge thanks to yourself, Jay, and Mel for deepening my respect for, and recognition of, my parents and all they've done to support me over the last few years.
  • The honesty is always refreshing especially in a landscape in which many of us feel pressured to only share the most socially acceptable happy sides of ourselves and hearing someone share honest struggles with zero hesitation is refreshing to hear and see, I hope Mel and all who are currently having a hard time feeling happy learn how to create a space in which happiness is the strongest default. I'm inherently positive, loving and supportive and those who have been in my presence in person seem drawn to me and uplifted but I struggle to feel happy, you wouldn't be able to tell in person I'm not a downer I'm often very encouraging towards others but I've been through a lot of stuff thus I have to work on being happy from within and sadly this is the case for many people there are no quick fixes it's an on going learning process in terms of understanding what we can do to help us become more happy and content. Edit I love what Mel said regarding dreams being directional signal that's a cool perspective makes sense.
  • Am so blessed to find this podcast. Last year got diagnosed with Cancer and did double mastectomy. Thank you so much Mel Robbins for saying STOP LISTENING TO CAMPAIGN MISERY in our head! ❤️🙏🏻 it’s awakening for me. Like my therapist also mentions that Chaos=Cancer. Godspeed 🙏🏻🙏🏻
  • I just came across this video today. It’s so eye opening. I feel I’ve been in the stands my whole life. My anxiety keeps me from stepping into the court. I want so badly to be on the court. I’ve always been told there is no trying and just doing. But I now see that I can try and just by doing that I’m moving forward. I’m terrified to fail and I find it incredibly sad that my anxiety has been so strong that it has been holding me back from pursing my dream. I don’t want to be stuck anymore.
  • @Stopit77
    Love love love Mel…I can always relate to her!!! It’s like she’s talking about me but it’s so many people 💙
  • Mel is so real you can’t even tell she’s been at this for as long as she has. I love how she shares her testimonies so bravely and authentically. She doesn’t care how it makes her look or sound to people who are just looking to judge and take apart her perspective as long as it’s a testimony that can help someone who is actually listening and trying to learn ON PURPOSE. It’s really helpful to know that even after all the work she does for her own personal mental health she’s still humble enough to say - Hey I said some shitty things to my husband last week etc .. it’s like whoaaa! We’re all just growing it never stops. It’s just about calling yourself out and as Jordan Peterson says “ treat yourself like someone you care about “ by the jay! You gotta bring JP on he’s my media dad! There are some celebrities like big Sean and Trevor Noah who really get this game of life and I REALLY took away a lot from them they were my favourite podcasts of 2022 by the way. But if they’re not as informative as them I think bringing experts and real teachers instead of some famous person on the contrary will be more entertaining. Anyway jay your doing great! Thanks for anther awesome episode. Mel is a real one! Bring her on again!
  • @meggggg
    This all is so relatable. I've always struggled to stay in the moment.. on the court..on the trail. I'm such an overthinker and always looking at the end goal instead of how fun the journey getting there is. It makes me doubt myself and talk myself out of starting things because I'm afraid of failing. I need to remind myself how fun the process is even if I fail or don't reach the "goal" at the end 😌
  • @Chemodan99
    OMG! Jay, thank you for asking this question about the difference between a dream and delusion. I am so stuck in my life path.