6 THINGS I WISH I KNEW BEFORE THERAPY

My 2 cents: find a therapist who holds you accountable and doesn't encourage playing victim. Narcissists can get therapy too. My narcissistic & rageful brother came back from therapy with a diagnosis for everyone else in the family. Zero self reflection, everything was everyone else's fault. .I had already been going to therapy for years, I'm happily healed now, forgiving the mistakes of others and realising we are all flawed😊. Half of the pain went when I forgave in my heart. Including my brother. (I have to keep boundaries)

As a therapist who has been going through her own therapy journey for the past 6 years, I find this video to be very sincere and helpful. It is important to be reminded that everyone's process is different. But thank you for being real about yours. It's definitely not an instant fix of rainbows and butterflies. You've gotta put in the work with a trusty companion. I might as well add that there are many different types of psychotherapy some would work for some people while others may not. So, it would be beneficial to do some brief research about types of therapy. Still, don't just give up on therapy because of an awkward encounter with a therapist or a type of therapy that did not seem to work for you. Hopefully, anyone who is seeking therapy gets the opportunity to form a healthy bond with a therapist to their liking when they are ready to welcome change into their lives.

My therapist said things I already knew so I stopped

Therapy is encouraged a lot more these days but people rarely talk about the struggles of therapy (other than the expense of it). Thank you so much Breeny, because I've found what you mentioned paramount. It's not an easy process but so worth it!❤❤ Although my therapy journey has been put on hold, I am more reflective/honest with how I contribute to my problems. Whether it's a lack of boundaries and assertiveness, emotional dysregulation, or avoiding conflict, I've become more aware of when I'm playing the victim.

As a Therapist, I completely approve of this message. Thanks for bringing light to the importance of authenticity and patience.

The Holy Spirit is my therapist I went to therapy and it wasn’t for me so I just started my journey with Christ and he literally healed me in 4 months

Thank you for bringing awareness to this topic. We need to educate and comfortably speak about mental health. ❤😊 Thank you for sharing. Let’s be strong together!

I do feel the need to add the following onto this convo: until therapy (not just psychiatry) is financially being taken care of by health insurance JUST like doctors-visits, it will ALWAYS have some kind of stigma and never be just as normalized as doctors-visits

Such great points, I love what you said about having to do the work for yourself. Often people that hold space or help in the healing process will say they can only guide you, it really is yourself that has to step up and do the work. Convos surrounding therapy are so important because it's good to know what to expect and warm ourselves up to the experience ❤

Thank you so much! This couldn't have been posted at a better time. I started counseling this month and it is definitely uncomfortable so far.

They saying the soul chooses the life for us . We are souls/spirits in a human body .

Ohhhhhh 🥺 I relate so much to being mute as a child, have you spoken about this in any other videos or would you be able to talk about this experience in the future? I’m having therapy again so good timing on the video, I’m not holding anything back - being fully accountable this time around!! I’m the biggest avoidant personality type on the planet and it’s got to stop but trying to go back through childhood, teen year, young adulthood and figure out how I got to this is sooooo incredibly difficult but I know the value after the process will be so worth it. Thank you for this video 💕💜

Thank you for this video, it was very much needed 💛

Hey Breeny, I loveeeee your content! These videos are changing my entire life, I especially needed this video as I’m considering going back to therapy soon. Completely unrelatedly; Please, can you do a video on the Da’Naia Jackson interview?!! There are soooooo many things that need to be said, and so many women like her who make the same or similar choices who need to know what exactly they’re doing wrong in those instances. Myself included. I get that you have so many people probably asking you for specific stuff, not to mention you have your own content ideas, but I couldn’t help but wonder what gems you can add to that discussion while watching the interview. Thank you either way for all you do for us girlies depending on your wisdom. It’s changed my life for the better in so many ways!💞💞💞

Off-topic: where did you get this too? Please do a makeup tutorial on this look. Omg you look amazing. You’re like a doll!

Sorry for your condolences Breeny Lee

Soul can cleanse it self by spiritual awaking later u will go through the dark knight of the soul.....it's a long painful journey..last 1-3 years ..u will releases all trauma , pain, abuse it goes very very very deep its a very dark time ..but after u will feel free from everything.

I would prefer therapy in person because I can actually connect with a therapist instead of online.

Thank you for making this video ❤

I’ve been through a cycle of several different therapists, in different stages of my life in person and online. Some helped a little, some helped a little less and I felt it was pointless. I’ve come to the conclusion that when you find the right one (it’s almost like a level of matchmaking) it’s good to have especially in our roughest moments and we actually do the work outside of therapy, but we have to learn how to be our own therapists as well. It’s hard for someone else to help us if we can’t even figure out how to help ourselves in times we are by ourselves. A therapist isn’t there for us everyday. We are another client in their book of clients with usually an hour block of their time. Some make the most of that time, others don’t and you can tell you’re just another person they have to listen to for an hour.