Unsure Whether He’s Right For You? | Matthew Hussey

As much as I love the non-judgmental / 'accept everyone' conversation, I think it's important to know what your standards are in a relationship. It's a waste of your time and theirs to date someone who you already know is wrong for you.

The more we work on our own selves, the better we attract, in this case, a better partner and a phenomenal relationship. There’s no such thing as the “right person” (to an extend) we have to become the right person first! You got this, I believe in you and invest into YOU! Best investment you can ever do is in yourself for your family, others, future and lives overall! 💯% back guarantee return on your investment! Have a great day! 🚀🎉❤️

Everyone can make a list of what they want in a partner and what hobbies they wish to share but at the same time, once you find the right person, that list dissolves and you both just want to spend time together and just feeling their presence makes you happy.

Great timing as always Matt. I’m a passionate hand drummer and I’m dating someone who doesn’t play any instruments and doesn’t like dancing but we went to a wedding reception and he got up and danced with me and yes, his dancing was as bad as he said it was but he did it … for me, beautiful moment 💜

I agree with Steven here. I was with someone for years who fully supported me in all my pursuits. However, I had nothing to support him on because he had no ambition or goals for his life. I encouraged him to find something he was passionate about or work towards a personal goal, but realized that is just the person he is and nothing I did would change him. The relationship became boring and lackluster, and I truly believe you need more than just acceptance. There are many people whom I love and accept, but I could not have a successful long-term relationship with them.

You really nailed it, Matt. If we open up for possibilities with acceptance and non judgement we might find someone "different" who shows we're so much alike on a frequency level and that feels so good!

What I crave is honesty...heard someone say 'I'd prefer to piss you off with the truth rather than lie to you' Wow! That's the sort of honest 'heart on your sleeve' kind of partner that I want....yes I want honesty...even if it piss's me off xxx

I believe the heart of it boils down to is whether the couple is mutually supportive of eachothers passions. Whether they decide it's important they enjoy similar things or they can accept (with a supportive attitude) the different hobbies they both enjoy.💜

A personal goal myself is to be around/with ppl who DO have differences to learn from eachother, but also things to share. Humanity is complicated….

I will NEVER date a guy who vapes, smokes, or does drugs.

After my last relationship… I took time out to work on myself and actually came to the decision that I wouldn’t even consider dating anyone that doesn’t surf regularly…

There is not such thing as compatibility. We are all incompatible, but it’s the work of love which makes us graciously accommodate each others incompatibilities. - Alain de botton.

Currently experiencing this-I believe today people are driven by ego when conflict approaches they operate in ego instead of being grounded in how they feel-good bad or indifferent. Then distance is created through silent treatment, ghosting etc. but you learn more about a person when things go wrong as oppose to when things are well. Thus creating forms of doubt and indecisiveness in regards to if this will be the person you'll spend your life with vs the person they are when things are well.

When you can be yourself and be adored for that that's a truly beautiful relationship your in xx

At this point in my life (2 marriages, 4 kids later), I have become more aware of what it is energetically that makes a good match for me. That can really look like any number of things when I remain open hearted about it. I care so much more about if I feel safe and heard with this person. I’ve got mine, I can take care of myself. As long as this is reflected back, I can’t say I care too much about the rest of it. Not anymore anyway. What’s important has become much more distilled. Simple.

Some checklists are way too high maintenance. It is important to have some boundaries and expectations but not to the extent that you are sabotaging your chances of meeting someone special. ❤ It's important to have a few separate interests in a partnership but the compromise in a relationship is also important. Great video Matthew!!

I found love, because I can feel it.... the rest we will have to work out... but love is an amazing feeling.... I can't afford to lose him, he's my everyday.....

Some people are really selfish and they can't appreciate that gift. They just take it all you time and affection and don't give back… That's your cue to walk away, I guess

I agree I think it's important to connect with the person you care about not just mentally but with a hobby or interest

I agree on the mass confusion of likeness vs. acceptance. I see this in some of my old childhood/highschool friendships. The few real friendships that persisted out of highschool are the friendships where we already long ago accepted facts of each others lives, and/or we had to learn from each other that to start treating each other as equals doesnt require tumultuous rivalry/drama. A lot of young people start with competition before they believe they can see others as equal or as people outside of some competition.