A CANDID CONVERSATION WITH AN ELIGIBLE BACHELOR: DOZIE EZEMMA

SUBMISSION IS A GIFT. Women naturally submit when they feel safe, protected, valued, loved, cared for and looked after. Submission comes AFTER safety has been established, NOT before. And that’s where men get it wrong.

I’m currently dating someone that does not have this alpha male complex. He leads, he’s kind, he’s compassionate, he caters to me, he respects my opinion, he rubs my back if I’m in a bad mood and doesn’t take it personally, he opens my car door and pays for everything. This video had a lot of good insight but the biggest takeaway is my gratitude for finally getting over men like this one right here 🤣 cause that sure used to be my type

DON’T LEAVE SOMETHING GOOD, TO FIND SOMETHING BETTER, BECAUSE ONCE YOU REALISE YOU HAD THE BEST, THE BEST HAS FOUND BETTER 💯

If we tell our children they are beautiful and we love them it’s not to stroke their egos. We do this so that they feel seen, loved, valued and secure. And the same goes for relationships, we all need to hear loving words from time to time. It’s not about ego but more about expressing how we feel or providing reassurance for the other person.

Men who are not looking for their equal are usually looking to control the woman/they think they are the prize and wanted to be treated as such. We must stop listening to these single player types for advice. This man should have been married and he isn’t and doesn’t plan on it anytime soon. He is full of crap.

I don't like this binary man think this way, women think that way stuff. I'm a man who's both sensitive & goal-oriented. It doesn't make me feminine. It makes me human. Most men are the way they are because of social pressure. Men aren't innately logical & emotionally tone def. We need to talk about that.

I think this was … An interesting conversation. While I appreciate what was shared and appreciative for Dozie’s perspective. It confirmed on so many levels the revelations I have seen from men. The gist of this is basically men do not want to be responsible for your heart. If I could be honest. Women just guard your hearts. I think it’s clear we need to be way more discerning, move a lot slower in dating, and not give our heart so easily. It sounds like a lot of our greatest fears in matters of our hearts seem to be all of mens mechanisms (defensive mechanisms). Society has really conditioned men to be emotionally immature, selfish, and inconsiderate of others. This is literally the conditioning of men. We really need to look out for ourselves and really practice detachment, even in relationship. Not to make bash, but it explains whether men mean to or not, are always hurting women even if unintentionally. I didn’t find his honesty comforting but more confirming than anything, I really have to be careful on which men to give my heart to. We may really need to learn to fill our emotional buckets in other places such as family, friends, passions, and joys then men. The ego, the selfishness, the fragility, it such an imbalance to you. It’s probably not going to change, so either as a woman learn how to navigate the male ego with detachment and not being overly invested or just back away all together. We are spending all this time learning about men, and they are not taking time to meet us where we are at and learn about us.

Lord, please build more men like the ones I was raised by whom never felt insecure about my mother or aunties high achievements. Mostly because they were also high achievers. Now I see why so many blk female doctors just marry other doctors. Chile, nobody has the time because you didn’t have the ambition or drive. Literally, my parents had no problems with vacationing together and discovering new things together. But my mother wasn't begrudged for getting there first, if my dad hadn't arrived yet and vice versa.

I finally understand why men prefer a woman who can submit. They wanna feel like they are being a good leader. To them, submission=validation as a leader. So if we want to be led and protected, then that has a “leader and follower” dynamic. Makes sense to me.

This interview was hard to sit through 🤣. Breeny seemed like she was over it lol

Actually HIGH Value Men who are secure and Intelligent are looking for their equal. They don't want to compete but they don't want someone they don't admire.

I'm not looking for a man who I'm obsessed with anymore. I will look for the one who's obsessed with me 🥰

He need to go heal. He has no self-awareness. He's guilty of what he accuse woman of but he gives himself a pass because HE'S THE MAN.

I really enjoyed this conversation. It’s so important to HEAR and LISTEN to what men say. They really do tell on themselves even if they look good on paper. I’m not saying he’s a bad guy but you can tell where he stands from his POV.

I feel that the things he's saying are very much influenced by Kevin Samuels. I get that some of that may be true, but I think a lot of these men indirectly are saying a lot of women have to dumb themselves down if they want to attract a great man.

I couldn't stop laughing while watching this. He sound so young Lord😂. Somebody send him the link to Stephan's page.

57:47 there's another pretty woman... I was talking to a man who's now 46 and is desperately looking for a wife that could give him a son. He's always dated women that are considerably younger than him. One of those playboy kind of guys. Going through life thinking there's always another pretty woman. Guess what? He's just found out his sperm is no good and he'll probably will never be able to have a biological child. There's always this temptation to go for something better looking, richer, more educated, with better abs.. But life can sometines be a real b*tch!

I also find it funny that he stated that - if a woman tells a man she doesn't want to submit, then that man automatically knows he doesn't want to marry her, but he might date her for a little while.- But then later in the interview he States That if a woman is with a man who is not worthy of submitting to i.e not a good leader, then why is she with him? Somehow the blame falls on her in the opposite situation? This man is very contradictive and his double standards are not realistic.- I think the question to the 1st man with the woman who is not submissive, should be why did you pick her? Why are you dating her and knowingly stringing along a relationship? THAT doesnt sound like a good leader in the first place. The blame should fall on him too. Do better

BREENYYY it's giving healthy matte face! Makeup looks yummy girl, now let me listen and GET MY LIFE! lol

48:04 sorry, but that's why so many relationships don't last. Wanting my man to say I'm beautiful is stroking my ego?? How? Imagine I present this argument to him when it comes to preparing dinner. I chopped those vegetables two weeks ago. What?? You want them chopped again this week?? 😂😁 Relationships require daily work and appreciation for each othe