Are Men Less Attracted to Successful Women? | Matthew Hussey

Important conversation….women need to understand that there is no “intimidation” on men’s part….there is only the fact that many men find very career oriented women overly masculine & therefore unattractive…this is a simple truth that might seem politically unpopular - but is nonetheless quite evident.

I don’t care if a woman is more successful, just be loving, honest, and respectful. I don’t need validation from a woman, I validate myself.

I am a very successful woman and have experienced what you speak of. I own part of the problem in that I have high expectations of men I date (education, vocabulary, knowledge, intellectual curiosity, logic). Income is not one of my expectations, but it is a related companion.

It not about the money, how they treat you. Respect and understanding.

Great video, Matt! My partner (now fiance) back when she first met me made at least 10 times more than I did. We met when I was in the starting my career transition, living in awful parts of town because they were cheap. She never put money in my face, EVER. The money bothered me a little only because I could not contribute as much but we have similar frugal values. Hell, she is more frugal than me. I thought I was resourceful but she taught me new money saving tricks. She did offer to help with rent but I was too prideful for that and felt I would be relying on her too much. It wouldn't feel right. I would rather pay what I could. She has two kids, extremely busy successful job, cooks phenomenal food yet is always able to make time for me. She reached out to me through online dating and felt I was a good, honest, caring man. I really thought she was catphishing me because of how hot she is but we met at a hotel happy hour and it's been beautiful ever since. It's been four years and we now have a couple places together, the kids love me and I them, and I make about half of what she does now. She believes in me as a person and said that "every drop of blood in my body said this was the right guy". We feel lucky to have found each other. Going back to the point, money could be a problem if that's the focus. If you have enough to take of yourself and for reasonably priced dates, that's enough. 'Reasonably priced' as in go to restaurants once in awhile, go on a scenic drive somewhere, hiking, buy ice cream and walk in the park, etc.

I think society made us believe that financial security equals emotional security. A successful woman does not need financial security but needs emotional security, someone who has got her back no matter what.

My wife and I were together for 15 years. After she started making more money (we focused on her career, I took care of the kids…) she told me she felt that I wasn’t matching her drive/what I brought to the table and our relationship fell apart.

I used to watch you on YouTube before Ready for Love was on tv! You’ve grown the channel so much and love to see you shine always!!!!! Glad to see this being addressed. I don’t buy into any grown man being intimidated by me. A man wants see his role in your life and knowing he can provide to something special to you. Men leave if they feel like you might not accept the provision, he still working through financial things/ building up himself to buy a home or see there is nothing to tackle because you telling everyone how hard you work as the woman .

This is real. A real conversation. I think it's not talked about enough! Having said that, every man and woman will differ in what is important, what matters, and what they truly desire in a long-term partner or spouse. So it is all up to each of us to be honest of ourselves and of our desires and what we truly seek in a long-term relationship. Honesty is the key. Honest communication is important. Talk it out with your special someone.

That's exactly how I feel about a successful man. It's not the money at all. It says so much more about the man than that.

Matthew is so profound. Well thought and well spoken all the time 👏🏻

I think there's a huge PERSONALITY component in attractiveness or relationship viability with successful women. I've dated a few, or tried, and it was never their success that got in the way, it was the attitude and lording that success over everyone else in their lives that was unattractive. Since, I've met and dated a woman who is by far more successful and accomplished than me in terms of money and status, and I'm very happy - but she's lovely, does not make it an issue, and is otherwise very agreeable. We can't look past the TYPES of personalities that tend to be successful and how those people do in relationships - both men and women.

Successful women may attract dependent men. As a successful woman, I've seen my share. Use discernment, they're easy to spot.

As a man, I see that money is important, but, if a man thinks the only thing they can provide is financial situation, then he is very poor in his mindset, relationship is not about money, or career or anything like that, of course it's important, but in a relationship I can provide love, caring, kindness, romantic experiences, spend time together, it doesn't matter who pay, what it does matter is the time you spend together with each other. If the woman is successful financially OK, if it's the guy, OK, if it's both, alright. It's good impress the partner with financial things, but in reality this is not what makes one person really like someone. Forget about money and focus in each other, focus in the relationship.

Love the discussion. I am a high earner self made immigrant working in a big tech male dominated field. I have been struggling a lot to find someone that is not intimidated by my achievement and at the same does not take advantage of my status. Unfortunately I have been taken advantage of since most guys that wanted to date me were making signifiantly less than me. So as much as I think less money would not be a problem per se, my experience tells me otherwise and in the future I might have a bias to choose a partner that makes money in my same ballpark

Wow! There is much more to a man than his height or how much he earns. His level of intelligence is so important to me as well as his sense of adventure. Intelligence, integrity and adventure are the most important elements I look for in a man.

This is so on point for today’s society. Being around a successful person in general either makes you look inward positively or negatively. My view- if someone is intimidated by a persons ambition and then developing great character then it’s time to move on and find someone who is on the same journey. X

Great point, about being intimidating "in his lane". I have experienced this with men. I have also seen the opposite as stated. Educated, top performers often seek similar qualities in a partnership because they don't feel vulnerable. They're secure in themselves and appreciate similar strengths in their partner.

I really haven’t had any luck with men at any position on the socioeconomic scale. The poor ones beat you more The rich ones cheat and use you more but in the end it’s who will treat me the best, give me the least pain and suffering I don’t need a man with money I need a man with true love in his heart Hard to find a real person like that but I am no longer desperate enough to settle for less

When a woman makes less the man, he controls everything. When he is “done” with you, you don’t have a career, money or a place to go. A woman should do everything in her power to be self-sustaining and if a man can’t respect that a woman is not a bum and have her life together, then that’s the man’s problem. Why should a woman lower herself just to make the man feel secure that he makes more? As stated in a few of these comments state men are attracted to youth and fertility? What happens when the woman gets to be over 40 and he leaves her for a younger woman. That 40 year old woman never had a career or money and now must find a different way to support herself. And there’s nothing worse than a broke man who can’t afford anything. Make a respectable income on both sides.